A Question simple minded one...

[-b]

What do you think a Bad Person is?
I don't mean Murders etc, you already know

What lines do you draw from good to bad?
Are there different shades of bad....?

Not sure if Bad is the right word....feel free to use a different
term....

Something happened and the way it is written I am the worse
person on the planet....so I question myself, analyze all that I did
what I could have done different...but I always feel bad if I did
wrong....or live up to my expectations. My divorce is meeting is coming
soon, so I am warning everybody on here....Hmmm....I will try my best
not to sound too crazy....well more crazier than I am......I just
feel so Bad.......

 

[RAWD]

I use to think that I knew, but the older I get, the more I realize that everything is so fuzzy.

I'm assuming that someone wrote you a message that made you feel like dirt. You may not have seen it that way, or honestly thought that whatever you did was not so bad. My advice would be to step back and look at it from their view. Communication is everything. The message may not have been what you intended, but it was the message that was received. If you care enough about that person, you'll want to make it right. If you don't, then you'll probably tell them that it's no big deal, they're overreacting that's just the way you are...or in essence, suck it up.

Of course, you can't live to other people's expectations; only if they are also your own, or shared. If you are simply trodding down different paths of expectations, there's nothing wrong with parting ways. People are meant to be in your life for a reason, but it doesn't mean that they are meant to stay in your life forever. Either you'll be forever pushing immovable rocks, or one of you will yield and the resentment will build over time.

My $0.02 on your question - "Bad" to me is someone who intentionally harms others. I've also learned that someone who doesn't care about how their actions hurt others is really just as bad (no pun intended! LOL)

Personally speaking, I've been struggling with a difficult question. If I love someone, how could I do something that I must know hurts them? Tell me that answer and save me a small fortune in therapy bills!

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

You are dealing with reading a court affidavit and that is always hard for people.

Let me tell you a little secret. It is all in the wording on those things.

I will give you an example.

Person A is speaking with a child professional. Child professional asks a standard of questions.

Child professional asks about Person B. One question was:

" does person B have any alcohol or drug issues?"

Person A says: "no, not at all."


Later in the affidavit there is a line:

Child professional has raised questions about Person B and their alcohol and drug use.


See how the line is very truthful but worded to make it look like Person B is drug using alcoholic????

Never listen to an affidavit. That is what a lawyer is for.

 

[RAWD]

Ahhhh, if this is about allegations in a pleading, then I take it all back. That stuff is written by wordsmiths for the sole purpose of advocacy or argument. I've seen fine upstanding individuals being called child abusing, drug addled, closet cross-dressing communist-loving evil doers. It doesn't mean squat. Don't you for a minute believe it. You know your own truths. Stick to it.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Good people try not to hurt people unnecessarily.

Sometimes even good people need to "open a can of whoop-ass" on someone else.

 

[Madman]

Good people try not to hurt people unnecessarily.

Sometimes even good people need to "open a can of whoop-ass" on someone else.

What Jesus said.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Sometimes when you "Turn the other cheek" its only so that you can get more of your weight into the backswing.

 

[Wanker]

I've always lived with the mentality that if a selfish, mean arrogant person crosses my path I just ignore them. Not worth trying to change or argue with them. Generous and funny people can also have a mean streak in them. Very tough to judge.

 

[-b]

Personally speaking, I've been struggling with a difficult question. If I love someone, how could I do something that I must know hurts them? Tell me that answer and save me a small fortune in therapy bills!

What I have learned from this situation, the most important thing...That being totally honest with a person
is not OK....That there are somethings you should never tell them if you Love them.....You need to keep a part of you just for you......and never give that part up.....

The Reality of Life....People Change, and in change either it is a partnership or individual one, good or bad...You need to keep what may hurt you to yourself.........yes see a therapist. I am trying my hardest to just start crawling out of my hole.......seeing a therapist, I am learning about True Truths and False Truths...I am learning also how a person can lie most of his life to me and I believed him....I respected him...I loved him....and he lied most of it....

Thanks everyone....

Yes even funny people can have a sharp tongue......I do when I need to save myself from somebody
that I do not really know or trust.....Of I am too direct and that gets me into more trouble....
Shit the way I am feeling right now I am just a Crappy Person who could not keep her marriage together,
did all I could....and I feel terrible about going for half of everything and also I am entitle to alimony...That he would rather I was on the streets, yes that what he told me he could do.......etc...I feel terrible for taking anything from him.....So yes I am a bad person.......but my Lawyer and my Family are making sure that I do not walk away with nothing....

 

[Curly]

Bad person= Deadbeat fathers.

 

[RAWD]

What I have learned from this situation, the most important thing...That being totally honest with a person
is not OK....That there are somethings you should never tell them if you Love them.....You need to keep a part of you just for you......and never give that part up.....

The Reality of Life....People Change, and in change either it is a partnership or individual one, good or bad...You need to keep what may hurt you to yourself.........yes see a therapist. I am trying my hardest to just start crawling out of my hole.......seeing a therapist, I am learning about True Truths and False Truths...I am learning also how a person can lie most of his life to me and I believed him....I respected him...I loved him....and he lied most of it....

Thanks everyone....

Yes even funny people can have a sharp tongue......I do when I need to save myself from somebody
that I do not really know or trust.....Of I am too direct and that gets me into more trouble....
Shit the way I am feeling right now I am just a Crappy Person who could not keep her marriage together,
did all I could....and I feel terrible about going for half of everything and also I am entitle to alimony...That he would rather I was on the streets, yes that what he told me he could do.......etc...I feel terrible for taking anything from him.....So yes I am a bad person.......but my Lawyer and my Family are making sure that I do not walk away with nothing....

Bliss,

1. You gotta read that ^^^ again.

2. Love is from the heart and sometimes it can't be helped. But trust and respect is something we can choose to give or take away. I suspect you still care for him, otherwise you wouldn't feel badly about this. But look at what he's saying!?! He would rather see you on the streets? It's time to see him for what he is. He doesn't deserve your care or respect.

It hurts the worst when someone you love doesn't love back, or worse, hurts you. But that doesn't make YOU a bad person. If you stick around for the punishment, it does make you an idiot. LOL.

Come on, I'll buy you a drink

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

What I have learned from this situation, the most important thing...That being totally honest with a person
is not OK....That there are somethings you should never tell them if you Love them.....You need to keep a part of you just for you......and never give that part up.....

The Reality of Life....People Change, and in change either it is a partnership or individual one, good or bad...You need to keep what may hurt you to yourself.........yes see a therapist. I am trying my hardest to just start crawling out of my hole.......seeing a therapist, I am learning about True Truths and False Truths...I am learning also how a person can lie most of his life to me and I believed him....I respected him...I loved him....and he lied most of it....

Thanks everyone....

Yes even funny people can have a sharp tongue......I do when I need to save myself from somebody
that I do not really know or trust.....Of I am too direct and that gets me into more trouble....
Shit the way I am feeling right now I am just a Crappy Person who could not keep her marriage together,
did all I could....and I feel terrible about going for half of everything and also I am entitle to alimony...That he would rather I was on the streets, yes that what he told me he could do.......etc...I feel terrible for taking anything from him.....So yes I am a bad person.......but my Lawyer and my Family are making sure that I do not walk away with nothing....

Fighting for what is rightfully your is not wrong. Don't be greedy but don't be stupid and forgo what is rightfully yours either.

 

[-b]

Thanks.....I need to center myself again......You are right......RAWD and Femm

As for the idiot part...Hmmmmmm Yes there are days I am the President of the Club....:LMAO:
I am ok...nervous but settled.......

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Thanks.....I need to center myself again......You are right......RAWD and Femm

As for the idiot part...Hmmmmmm Yes there are days I am the President of the Club....:LMAO:
I am ok...nervous but settled.......

Only when I step down as Prez hon. Trust me. LOL :LMAO:

 

[RAWD]

You ladies can fight over the presidency, but I'm the chairman of the club. Remember Forest Gump? I done even better (worse).


Ive also learned that you can get all the therapy and read all the books you want. Nothing is gonna happen until you're ready for it to happen. But it will. And one day you'll wake up and smile. Happiness is yours again.