ATF's and Repeats

[iceman_dci]

Aside from retirement or no longer available; when do you stop seeing your ATF's or Repeats and why?

 

[superdick]

When the restraining order arrives in the mail.

 

[Madmax]

Aside from retirement or no longer available; when do you stop seeing your ATF's or Repeats and why?

I don't, how about you iceman?

 

[Beenthere123]

When you think you have it deep for her, OK Iceman you in trouble?.

 

[iceman_dci]

I don't, how about you iceman?

Okay, I guess I'll jump start this...

I love my repeats and ATF's, the experience just gets better and better, but we're all human and soon enough there will come a time where the heart strings will be tugged by one side or both and the relationship can go no further because of mitigating circumstances and the relationship must come to an end to a certain degree.

I've had to do this once and it was a very painful and sleepless time it didn't help that I was single and no ties to any SO at the time, just didn't make sense to me but her situation was very different and I know it was the right thing to do. BTW, I wasn't her sugar daddy I paid for very little as she insisted on going dutch or negotiating who would pay for the outting. I was ok with her working but she cut it down to just regulars for her own sanity and was her choice. She was also ok with my hobbying, although I didn't do it as much. She would introduce me to some of her friends but we never did 3somes, our time together was our own time.

I know....AWWWWWW shut up

 

[iceman_dci]

When you think you have it deep for her, OK Iceman you in trouble?.

I'm ok BT..thanks for asking. Part of this hobby is knowing when to say when.

 

[frankpost]

At a given duration, I have a cirlce of regular SPs that I would visit.
It is scouting the new recruits and upgrading your harem.

But Iceman, you seem to have been referring to a "True GFE" that had ended
as oppose to an ATF/Repeat SP. (Grabbed beer and popcorn if you are going to share more info)
Sounds like you were wanting more?

 

[browsing]

When you've gotten emotionally involved enough that the lines are no longer clear. That's the time to stop seeing your ATF or at least cut back until you gain some perspective.

 

[SillyGirl]

I'm ok BT..thanks for asking. Part of this hobby is knowing when to say when.

When you've gotten emotionally involved enough that the lines are no longer clear. That's the time to stop seeing your ATF or at least cut back until you gain some perspective.

I hope anyone out there new to this hobby will pay close attention to what these gentlemen said.

I've seen several situations where things got too involved, and they all had two things in common...they all started with the best of intentions, and they all ended ugly.

 

[Raiden]

Iceman dude you are a big softie! I told you I am not human, in 25 years of paying and playing I have never fallen for anyone. I have been asked out a few times, been given personal numbers a few times and have always walked away and threw the numbers out before I reached my car. I have always kept it on a business level, the lady is after my cash and I am after their bodies. It works for me and it's simple, I do not allow emotions to enter the equation.

 

[dreamblade]

Interesting topic. For me, in one case it has ended in a casual dating scenario, in others and more frequently, it became a basis for a friendship. With the latter, I stop being a client anymore because it becomes too dangerous for the heart.

 

[Jawbone]

I have a couple of ATF I see on a regular basis. I enjoy their company and prefer to spend my money on a sure thing. Occasionally will dabble with a new lady but not often.

 

[diver12488]

I have always kept it on a business level, the lady is after my cash and I am after their bodies. It works for me and it's simple, I do not allow emotions to enter the equation.

That right there is the key to it Rayden. It's fucking business. (literally and figuratively )

I am not saying you can't be friends with a SP nor have great chemistry together. But when it comes to emotions, she has to be either your SP or your SO, not both. It is not fair to either party when the lines are blurred.

 

[iceman_dci]

At a given duration, I have a cirlce of regular SPs that I would visit.
It is scouting the new recruits and upgrading your harem.

But Iceman, you seem to have been referring to a "True GFE" that had ended
as oppose to an ATF/Repeat SP. (Grabbed beer and popcorn if you are going to share more info)
Sounds like you were wanting more?

Not so, i think an ATF is an ATF is an ATF, no matter if you're looking for a GFE, PSE or whatever. The truth of the matter is that we were both in the same mindset and it was agreed upon. I've not been in the same situation since; but again, we're all human and these things can happen. Just wanted to open this subject for discussion

 

[browsing]

Iceman dude you are a big softie! I told you I am not human, in 25 years of paying and playing I have never fallen for anyone. I have been asked out a few times, been given personal numbers a few times and have always walked away and threw the numbers out before I reached my car. I have always kept it on a business level, the lady is after my cash and I am after their bodies. It works for me and it's simple, I do not allow emotions to enter the equation.

I started hobbying a year ago so I'm still relatively new to all this. Most of the women I've seen have been very attractive, very nice and I've had a great time with. I could walk out the door with a smile on my face and leave it all behind me once the door closed because the attraction was all physical and nothing more. However, there have been a few that I've had really great chemistry with and those are the ones I struggle with. I find that even though intellectually I can tell myself that it's only business, I still have a hard time staying emotionally detached from the ones I really connect with. As much as I'd like to be able to turn it off like a tap, I guess I'm a big softie too.

The second SP that I ever saw was a good example of this. Not only did she fuck me silly, but we had great chemistry and she was exactly the type of woman I'd pursue in real life. I was smart enough at that time to recognize the danger signs and I stopped seeing her.

My current ATF though, I probably should have stopped seeing her after the first time, but the wrong head was doing the thinking She has me pretty conflicted... I can still recognize that's it's just business, but I definitely have to work at it. Every time she pays me a compliment, I remind myself that I'm paying her to say it... every time she melts me with her eyes, I remind myself that I'm paying her to do so... every time she gives me a mind blowing orgasm, I remind myself that I paid her to do it. My saving graces - I can't afford to see her any more often than I currently do and she'll be retiring soon.

 

[Rahino]

Its impossible not to have feelings towards to someone you are having sex with, but important part is you have to know when and where to stop. Otherwise it can get messy.

 

[ralp]

I have a little different perspective. *I do establish a deeper relationship, let's call it a "friendship +" to be away from the l word, with the women I see regularly. *I wouldn't see them regularly without it.

Does that mean I'm in danger of falling head over heels over them, mortage my house for them, want a monogamous relationship with them. *Hell no.

I get that they are escorts, that they see other guys. *Like i dont see other women? *They know I see other women.

If you can accept that someone you like, have feelings for, makes thier living as an escort great relationships, in the grand tradition of misstresses, are possible and rewarding.

 

[tanic]

i stop repeating with ATF's when they start cutting things off the menu which usually happens when they get involved on a serious level in their out-of-hobby life.

or if they don't put in an equal effort to make things exciting and different each time we meet or they don't show appreciation towards my efforts to keep the fires burning.

 

[All4one]

I am with Rayden on this. She wants something from me and I want something from her, just like business deal. Best thing to do keep your feeling away from this hobby. I did learn this hard way

 

[athaire]

Once the fantasy bubble is burst its time to go. Besides the thrill of the hunt is what I crave more so than the actual capture. I love the researching, checking pics, reviews, back channeling with the guys.