Dating My SP

[chokemychicken]

I've fallen for my first escort. I've seen her 8 times now and I can't imagine myself seeing anyone else. I don't know if she feels the same way about me. I need advice on how to ask her out, if she accepts where should I take her and if she says no do you think it will ruin what we have now?

 

[JustRiley]

If you have feelings for her you definitely want to get them out of the way and see if there is something worth developing or if you need to take a break and maybe see someone else or resume seeing her when your feelings have changed back to the typical client and SP dynamic.

I have been on both ends and the best thing about both situations was getting feelings out in the open as soon as they arise.

 

[oldguyzer]

Eight visits isn't enough to push the issue. Become a regular, stay a regulr, slowly learn more about each other. If the feeling is even slightly mutual you will learn more and more about her. Let it take time. Lots of guys fall for any woman who'll give them the attention an SP has, and they've seen it many times. After a few months (be oatient, young padawan), ask her out for lunch on one of the days she doesn't work (dinner may be too intimate, expecting freebies after). You'll know if the feelings are mutual, but if you push and confess your undying love, you're likely to scare her and get a negative reaction.

FWIW I've had several long-term relationships with SPs, and as long as you don't insist they get out of the business (it's their choice not yours) and treat the job as a job, respect them, and always support them, you'll find these ladies are absolutely wonderful. Don't rush it: it's tempting to push, but you'll scare them away if you go too fast.

I realize this is different advice than Riley offers, and everyone is different, but I'm all for being cautious and making sure you don;t put undue pressure on the ladies. Still, eight visits is not enough to be in love...just really good lust :biggrin2:

 

[HOOKED]

Both Riley and OG have offered you some great advice CMC. Remember this relationship has been a business relationship and unless she feels differently tread carefully because you might not like the answer you hear at the same time I have to state this part of the equation-be careful for the gold digger..

 

[Rolex]

Will never work.

Find a new one and quick.

 

[oldguyzer]

Will never work.

Find a new one and quick.

Don't agree at all...I've spent the last 20 years in relationships with great SPs and MPs. No complaints whatsoever.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

If your posting history is accurate, you've seen her 8 times but in a time-span of one month. It would be best if you did take more time before you approach her, not just to get more comfortable with her... but also to get comfy with how being intimate with someone that frequently can affect you. Spending more time getting more experienced with social and intimate interactions should benefit you, even if you insist on only seeing her.

 

[God]

I am with you.

 

[Robintheboywonder]

If your posting history is accurate, you've seen her 8 times but in a time-span of one month. It would be best if you did take more time before you approach her, not just to get more comfortable with her... but also to get comfy with how being intimate with someone that frequently can affect you. Spending more time getting more experienced with social and intimate interactions should benefit you, even if you insist on only seeing her.

Listen to Amy and see some other ladies before you get all caught up. You should be thinking with your dick not your heart because in the end this is a business.

 

[oldguyzer]

Listen to Amy and see some other ladies before you get all caught up. You should be thinking with your dick not your heart because in the end this is a business.

Yes, it is business, but the ladies are human too, and can (and do) develop emotions for their clients. But it's a tricky road to navigate for most men, as they can't be dispassionate about the ladies' business.

 

[Robintheboywonder]

Yes, it is business, but the ladies are human too, and can (and do) develop emotions for their clients. But it's a tricky road to navigate for most men, as they can't be dispassionate about the ladies' business.

It's possible but Choke has seen her 8 times in a very little time span. He infatuated and I'm thinking it's not the same because for the young lady and rightly so, she's cashing in and doing her job to entertain her client.

 

[oldguyzer]

It's possible but Choke has seen her 8 times in a very little time span. He infatuated and I'm thinking it's not the same because for the young lady and rightly so, she's cashing in and doing her job to entertain her client.

I agree 100%. A few dozen more visits and see what happens to the feelings. I saw my last lady about 20 times before asking her out for lunch (see earlier note about dinner being too laden with expectations). She said absolutey, and over lunch asked me why I waited so long! :SayWhat?:

 

[Wanker]

I agree 100%. A few dozen more visits and see what happens to the feelings. I saw my last lady about 20 times before asking her out for lunch (see earlier note about dinner being too laden with expectations). She said absolutey, and over lunch asked me why I waited so long! :SayWhat?:

How many ladies have you had through your lifetime?.

 

[papasmerf]

I fall for the ladies..........maybe for 58 minutes then I am happy to get out without losing a house or car.

 

[chokemychicken]

Amy, ive seen her for three one hour sessions and five half hour sessions, mainly because of my budget restraints. . I would have loved to spend more time per session but I am far from a wealthy man. A couple of the half hour meetings we only cuddled and that alone was a very satisfying encounter. I am going to take oldguyzer's wise advice and continue to visit her as a client for another month. I don't want to do anything that may make her uncomfortable.

 

[oldguyzer]

How many ladies have you had through your lifetime?.

I've had extended relationships with four ladies who've been in the business, all good. All ended for non-business reasons (mostly moves to different cities).

 

[User-E]

I've had extended relationships with four ladies who've been in the business, all good. All ended for non-business reasons (mostly moves to different cities).

Guys like you make me wish I was still in the business. I miss some of the long term liaisons I had going. :Crying/:

 

[User-E]

I fall for the ladies..........maybe for 58 minutes then I am happy to get out without losing a house or car.

Sounds like you're a clock watcher. :wink2:

 

[oldguyzer]

Guys like you make me wish I was still in the business. I miss some of the long term liaisons I had going. :Crying/:

Always on the lookout... :wink2:

 

[Art Mann]

Better advice you will not find, young Skywalker:

If your posting history is accurate, you've seen her 8 times but in a time-span of one month. It would be best if you did take more time before you approach her, not just to get more comfortable with her... but also to get comfy with how being intimate with someone that frequently can affect you. Spending more time getting more experienced with social and intimate interactions should benefit you, even if you insist on only seeing her.