Do you believe everyone has a soulmate?

[tboy]

I hate to jump on the Gen Parade but yeah, she summed it up perfectly.

I find that wayyyyyy too many people expect wayyyyyy too much from that harlequin "soulmate" crap. I always find it hilarious when people say they've found their soulmate and it will last forever, then 5 yrs down the road, pffft no, they weren't their soulmate after all.

As Gen said, it's all about choices. Choices on whether you act on your attraction or not (alluding back to that other thread about people not cheating), choices on where you meet someone you're attracted to etc. How many times have we all heard someone say "the timing isn't right" or "I don't date customers" or "I'm focusing on my career at the moment"?

I mean, how many ads by women do we read about how they're looking for their white knight? I always say to these women: please realize that knights in shining armor also rarely bathed, ate with their fingers, raped and pillaged and killed at their leisure. So why not put a tux on a hell's angel? Then you'd have your white knight.......(at one time I also said to one: you'll get your white knight when you look like Lady Genivere lol). And you wonder why I'm single? lmao.....

And just for the ladies who are looking for their soulman:

 

[Mrs. Tank]

Yes I do!!! I have found "the one", "the soul mate" or whatever you want to call it. I call it soul mates. I can't imagine being this happy with anyone else. It sounds mushy but from the time we met we knew that we were destined to be and in 18 years, that has not changed.

 

[Ryder]

Yes I do!!! I have found "the one", "the soul mate" or whatever you want to call it. I call it soul mates. I can't imagine being this happy with anyone else. It sounds mushy but from the time we met we knew that we were destined to be and in 18 years, that has not changed.

Do you have a sister that i can marry with?

 

[tboy]

Do you have a sister I can just honeymoon with?

 

[Laster]

Do you have a sister that i can marry with?

Do you have a sister I can just honeymoon with?

LMAO

 

[frankpost]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate

I also think that a lot of people would be much happier if they let go of the myth of The One.

Personally, I'd much rather trust that my partner chose to be with me, and is making that choice again and again every day, rather than believe that they are with me simply because of their belief in a fairy tale.

Contrary to what Gen says, I do believe that everyone does have a soulmate (several soulmates in all probability). The problem is (if you are not lucky to find your soulmate early in life) having the time and patience to wait. With the matters of the heart, I tend to see many people "settling" due to lack of patience / confidence which I believe is the root of why there are numerous divorces.

 

[Nova5]

No. I believe that love, like most other things in life, is a matter of choices. And the choices we make in terms of romantic partner usually have a lot to do with things that have nothing to do with love per se.

I also think that a lot of people would be much happier if they let go of the myth of The One. It's an awful lot of pressure to believe in The One (what if you never find The One? what if you think you found The One but you were wrong? what if you found The One, but couldn't make it work? etc.), and to be on the receiving end of someone who believe in The One (the expectations of being The One are a lot for one person to bear).

Personally, I'd much rather trust that my partner chose to be with me, and is making that choice again and again every day, rather than believe that they are with me simply because of their belief in a fairy tale.

Gen, I believe in soul-mates! The best explanation I have come across regarding soul-mates is the following: “Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.”

 

[tboy]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate



Contrary to what Gen says, I do believe that everyone does have a soulmate (several soulmates in all probability). The problem is (if you are not lucky to find your soulmate early in life) having the time and patience to wait. With the matters of the heart, I tend to see many people "settling" due to lack of patience / confidence which I believe is the root of why there are numerous divorces.

lol you sound like so many women who think "settling for anyone less than mr perfect is wrong wrong wrong wrong WRONG".

There are numerous and varied reasons for divorce, just look at the number of married men who partake in the services of escorts? Not to mention those that have affairs with civvies.....what happens if your "soul mate" isn't sexually compatible? Is one supposed to forgo sex?

One of the problems with believing (and pining for) a "soul mate" is that you'll miss out on a tremendous amount of experiences in life, and knowing many wonderful people. Who, while they may not be the fantasy "soul mate", could give you years of happiness and love.

WHat IS the definition of soul mate anyways?

Someone who thinks like you do? (how boring would that be!!!)
Someone who likes all the same things as you do? (how boring would that be)
Someone with the same morals as you? (that's a given in any relationship)

As for someone who brings out the best in you, in what sense? I've had bosses that realized to get the best outta me they had to let me do things my way, were they my soul mates?

I can't tell you how many times I've heard of people who have lost a spouse early on and how they had a fairy tale marriage and were soul mates. Well, their relationship was perfect and always will be, why? Because it ended before the BS of life began......

Any of you believers care to take a stab at it?

 

[Mr.Lucky]

an escort can be your soul mate :kiss:

 

[frankpost]

WHat IS the definition of soul mate anyways?

Thats why I added a link.

One of the problems with believing (and pining for) a "soul mate" is that you'll miss out on a tremendous amount of experiences in life, and knowing many wonderful people.

On the contrary, you could end up meeting many wonderful people while experiencing life. (If you believe that as humans, we are only considered normal if we all get married and have children - not everyone's cup of tea).

BTW T-Boy, sorry about your life experiences (this topic seemed to hit a nerve with you)

 

[blissful]

I have found my Soul mate and thing about this he is the one that says it. We need to look at each other at times and words are passed without communication. Our touches and looks how our body looks we can tell what we want or need.

We are Friends, Lovers, idiots, perverts, sluts, well one of us is learning to be a house keeper.

To me the biggest back of being a Soul Mate is letting the other Free.
Forgiveness also has a part.
Most important we love spending time together.
There are Soul Mates but people have other names for it.

 

[- - -]

Sadly, I dont believe everyone is destined to find that ONE soulmate. They may never find that special person or maybe they are lucky enough to find more than one. I count myself extremely blessed to know that I have found my soulmate.

 

[tboy]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soulmate



Contrary to what Gen says, I do believe that everyone does have a soulmate (several soulmates in all probability). The problem is (if you are not lucky to find your soulmate early in life) having the time and patience to wait. With the matters of the heart, I tend to see many people "settling" due to lack of patience / confidence which I believe is the root of why there are numerous divorces.

Exactly, but the harlequin definition (which so many live by) means only ONE.

From your link:

A soulmate or soul mate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility.

The thing is, you can have that with just about anyone.

Yeah, it strikes a nerve with me because I have been shot down SO many times or given up on because I wasn't a "soulmate" even though we had all the above.

Its this fantasy of what a soulmate is and that fantasy is unrealistic.

The problem with Bliss's definition is that with her, it isn't A soulmate, it's multiple soulmates. Sorry, I don't think the definition of soulmate involves multiple partners. While your mate may be very compatible, a soulmate who lets you fuck whoever you want? Ummm no.

On the contrary, you could end up meeting many wonderful people while experiencing life. (If you believe that as humans, we are only considered normal if we all get married and have children - not everyone's cup of tea).

The thing is, while you may "meet" many people, because so many are searching for their "soul mate" they pass up what could be one of the best things that ever happened to them.

I think the term "soul mate" causes people to set the bar so fricken far up, that NO one meets that grade and then you add in the "settling" issue and you get a pretty fucked up situation.

Anyhow, I will say this: I am no one's soul mate. Why? Because I will say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing, not wear the right clothes, not look the right way, work too hard, not work hard enough, and no WAY would a soul mate ever do those things......they'd lie, they'd cheat, they'd insult, they'd disrespect, but hey, they say the right things so that's all that matters.......

 

[Ryder]

Absolutely!

Heart, Mind, Body and Soul I live that everyday with my incredible wife!

 

[barotti]

Absolutely!

Heart, Mind, Body and Soul I live that everyday with my incredible wife!

lol we have new Mr. and Mrs CG7???

 

[Cycleguy007]

THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!

THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!

lol we have new Mr. and Mrs CG7???