Yep, I have heard of an "object lesson", too bad it wasn't done 10 years ago. I don't know if this guy is a great dad or a horrible dad. I do know they are both wrong to air their problems publicly. No, I don't think sitting down (1) time and talking to a kid will solve their problems, I also don't believe in (1) time scared straight tactics.
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Yep, I have heard of an "object lesson", too bad it wasn't done 10 years ago. I don't know if this guy is a great dad or a horrible dad. I do know they are both wrong to air their problems publicly. No, I don't think sitting down (1) time and talking to a kid will solve their problems, I also don't believe in (1) time scared straight tactics.
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From her Dad's Facebook page...
"For those that wondered, commented, criticized, and just in general wanted to know:
My daughter came through it fine.
Yes, she's in trouble, and yes she's grounded, but that doesn't mean every moment of her life has to be miserable. She's going to come to terms with the changes that will be present for a while; no TV privileges, no Internet, etc.
In the meantime, once the initial anger passed, she sat with me reviewing some of the comments that have come in via Facebook and YouTube. One person even suggested collecting the shell casings and auctioning them on eBay. I said I’d do it if it would help contribute to her college fund! When I told her about it, she thought a minute, got a funny calculating expression on her face and said, "in that case you should shoot my phone too. We can use more bullets and I’ll go half-sies with ya on it! It’s not like I’m going to need it any time soon. And I can use the money we get to buy a new one."
While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.
Since this unsuspectingly threw her into the limelight much more strongly than either of us intended, I asked her if she wanted to make her own response video, and told her I’d let her do it if she wanted to. She doesn’t like being in front of the camera, so she declined, but I’ve told her if she wants to write a response or post a video response, I’d be OK with it. It’s only fair considering the viral nature of the whole thing. So far she’s not really interested. Quite frankly it seems she’s gotten bored of it much faster than the general public has. If that changes I’ll post it here."
"For those that wondered, commented, criticized, and just in general wanted to know:
My daughter came through it fine.
Yes, she's in trouble, and yes she's grounded, but that doesn't mean every moment of her life has to be miserable. She's going to come to terms with the changes that will be present for a while; no TV privileges, no Internet, etc.
In the meantime, once the initial anger passed, she sat with me reviewing some of the comments that have come in via Facebook and YouTube. One person even suggested collecting the shell casings and auctioning them on eBay. I said I’d do it if it would help contribute to her college fund! When I told her about it, she thought a minute, got a funny calculating expression on her face and said, "in that case you should shoot my phone too. We can use more bullets and I’ll go half-sies with ya on it! It’s not like I’m going to need it any time soon. And I can use the money we get to buy a new one."
While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.
Since this unsuspectingly threw her into the limelight much more strongly than either of us intended, I asked her if she wanted to make her own response video, and told her I’d let her do it if she wanted to. She doesn’t like being in front of the camera, so she declined, but I’ve told her if she wants to write a response or post a video response, I’d be OK with it. It’s only fair considering the viral nature of the whole thing. So far she’s not really interested. Quite frankly it seems she’s gotten bored of it much faster than the general public has. If that changes I’ll post it here."
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It seems to me they are both well adjusted people.
Excellent! Nice to see it turned out well.
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Seems to me that maybe the daughter DID get an attitude adjustment .
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do I detect the pitter patter of backpeddling?:biggrin:
No, I still stand by my opinion. And for that matter, the father even stated that he did not mean to share the video on YouTube, but only post it to the 500 or so FB friends that received the daughters post. Not sure how an IT guy doesn't know how to keep YouTube vids private, but anyhooo.
I am glad that it all worked out for them. It would be rather prick-esh to only be happy if the family fell apart over this.
I am glad that it all worked out for them. It would be rather prick-esh to only be happy if the family fell apart over this.
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Where does he state that he did not mean to share it on youtube? I scanned his response and can't see it anywhere....
BTW: someone could have moved it there which would indicate that he didn't intend to post it there......like if you parked your car in front of a mac's store, and someone moved it across the street, then you wouldn't have intended it to be parked there....
BTW: someone could have moved it there which would indicate that he didn't intend to post it there......like if you parked your car in front of a mac's store, and someone moved it across the street, then you wouldn't have intended it to be parked there....
It's in a longer response he posted, look for it.
addendum:
Upon rereading his response on why he posted on a public medium, it was because that was the way he was raised. The intended audience was FaceBook, but he used YouTube to upload it because it was easier.
addendum:
Upon rereading his response on why he posted on a public medium, it was because that was the way he was raised. The intended audience was FaceBook, but he used YouTube to upload it because it was easier.
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Nice to see everyone else is buying it. But I smell BS.
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yours?
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Sometimes you need to cook runny eggs for breakfast when your child comes home drunk
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You miss the point completely
However I have learned over the year that what works for one child may not work for others.
So agree or not you need to respect the fact he acted.
I am willing to see your point PS. If you are referring to tough love, I agree, it is sometimes necessary.
And I know different kids respond differently to types of discipline. I have stated, that it worked for him, not my way of doing things, but if it keeps him and his daughter together, that's what counts. I don't believe in the airing of dirty laundry in the manner that they both did.
And I know different kids respond differently to types of discipline. I have stated, that it worked for him, not my way of doing things, but if it keeps him and his daughter together, that's what counts. I don't believe in the airing of dirty laundry in the manner that they both did.
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Add the following:
1. greasy bacon.
2. greasy breakfast sausage.
3. make them do chores immediately.
4. give them a double 'southern comfort' and a cheap 'cigar'
Watch the inners come out! It's a sort of exorcism:rofl1:
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I'm just greatful that I do not have children!:biggrin:
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