Get No Satisfaction.... A Man's Story

[freelife]

So, I've been dating this girl for nearly 2 months and it has been perhaps the most disappointing 2 months of my life. I love spending time with her, going to shows, going out to eat for lunch, and just being around her. She's great, however when it comes to being intimate with her I'm sorely disappointed and typically "left hanging," (although it's typically quite the opposite of hanging) while she goes about her business and falls asleep.

We've had sex at least three times a week since we've been together, but I can count the number of times I've been allowed to finish on my fingers. Is this normal behavior, and if so, why the hell would a woman do that to a man? I've never been with a girl who wouldn't let me finish or at least even try to help the process along...

Other thing that bothers me is that I pretty much have to do all the work. She initiates sex almost every time, but when it comes to the actual performance, she wants the old fashion missionary position and she will not get on top to save her life. Unfortunately for me, that's probably my favorite position and I definitely get off better that way. I've communicated all of this to her and it still doesn't seem to matter...

What the hell can/should I do?

Any advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Hardcore]

Find someone else.

 

[Ang]

If you like everything else about her than talk to her about it....maybe she's embarassed to be on top for some reason.......if things don't change than.....well I think you know the answer....sex IS important (ya the rest of you can shut up!!!)

But this business about not letting you finish....WTF??????????

 

[Cycleguy007]

But this business about not letting you finish....WTF??????????

Do we know someone else like that...

 

[GenevieveLajoie]

What do you mean by she won't allow you to finish? She won't "allow" it, as in she goes out of her way to prevent you from cumming, or she just loses interest once she came?
Also, what does it take for you to cum? Are you high maintenance when it comes to cumming (an hour of hard core pounding non-stop, or a BJ that last forever), or do you cum fairly easily within a reasonable amount of time (in my books, expecting an enthusiastic and non-paid for BJ to last for more than 20 minutes at a time is bad manners, assuming of course that there's no plumbing issues at play here)?
What do you do once she came and leave you "unfinished"? Do you voice right away your need for her to participate in making you cum, or do you just let it be?
Why won't she go on top? Any issues you are aware of (she's insecure about her tits, stomach, how her ass looks fat that way, etc.)? What about other positions (doggy, spoon, etc.)?

It's difficult to give any suggestions without more details.

But as a rule, a partner who pretends to care for you should be inclined to want to make you happy, even if it doesn't do anything for them directly. Within reasonable limits of course. There's a difference between indulging someone in doing them cowgirl, and getting a golden shower for instance. If not, they may have hangups that may be worth investigating and deciding whether you can deal with them or not, or they may simply be selfish (which is usually not a quality that we look for in a partner). There may be plenty other reasons of course for the issues you bring, but without more details, it's difficult to tell.

 

[Ang]

Do we know someone else like that...

LMFAO!!!!!!...I just can't stand it no more.....I should..............
I mean it's really hard to..................
Fuck I'm gonna.................
Ah forget it

 

[a 1 player]

I can't add anything that GEN hasn't said. You two need to have a serious talk.

 

[tboy]

Why would you want to cum on your fingers? Wouldn't it be better to cum inside her?

Seriously though, as Gen said, do you take forever to reach orgasm? Or is it just that she gets off easily?

What I would do, is simply NOT do whatever it is that you do to get HER off. Barring that, just don't have sex with her any longer and see SPs. If she asks why, and you've already spoken to her about it, just say: you're obviously not interested in MY satisfaction so what's the point?

But as others have stated, a good sex life is 1/3 of any relationship and even if you have a great time everywhere else, a lack of one now is indicative of the fact that it will only get worse as time goes on.

Seems to me the woman has issues....

To answer the other question: why would a woman do that to a man, well, that's obvious: control. It seems to be working because you keep going back to the well......

 

[rivoli]

She sounds like a selfish and lazy woman. I agree, find someone else.

 

[oyster shucker]

If sex is that dull now, better give her the boot. It will only get worse...

 

[smylee52]

So, I've been dating this girl for nearly 2 months and it has been perhaps the most disappointing 2 months of my life. I love spending time with her, going to shows, going out to eat for lunch, and just being around her. She's great, however when it comes to being intimate with her I'm sorely disappointed and typically "left hanging," (although it's typically quite the opposite of hanging) while she goes about her business and falls asleep.

We've had sex at least three times a week since we've been together, but I can count the number of times I've been allowed to finish on my fingers. Is this normal behavior, and if so, why the hell would a woman do that to a man? I've never been with a girl who wouldn't let me finish or at least even try to help the process along...

Other thing that bothers me is that I pretty much have to do all the work. She initiates sex almost every time, but when it comes to the actual performance, she wants the old fashion missionary position and she will not get on top to save her life. Unfortunately for me, that's probably my favorite position and I definitely get off better that way. I've communicated all of this to her and it still doesn't seem to matter...

What the hell can/should I do?

Any advice from anyone would be greatly appreciated!

It's actually not normal behaviour for a man to allow a woman to not let him finish ( Fetishes aside (LOL) ). I don't mean to be anything less than respectful with her but you do need to take charge and let her know she needs to meet you halfway . This may kick start her "issues" so be prepared to deal with what comes up but please speak up . If she doesn't engage then move on before your balls get permanently sealed up in her purse .