Group Therapy Thread

[Agusto]

Ask any personal question or post your confession about anything you wish to share and receive advice from the HUBGFE members

 

[HOF]

Why?

 

[Agusto]

Why?

Why not?

 

[Bear669]

Is it wrong to blow every last $

Is it wrong to blow every last $

Ask any personal question or post your confession about anything you wish to share and receive advice from the HUBGFE members

..on SPs so my family gets NOTHING? NADA! ZIP!:666:

 

[JackassJack]

I have issues with some sports, because they are just so gay

 

[amber-jade]

trust me, you do not want to be inside my head...:shock:but thanks anyway :shock:

 

[SillyGirl]

Sometimes I don't like sleeping alone.

And, it annoys me when car tires on tv appear to be going in the wrong direction.

 

[amber-jade]

Sometimes I don't like sleeping alone.

* sigh *

 

[Blank_Dave]

trust me, you do not want to be inside my head...:shock:but thanks anyway :shock:

I'm with Amber on this. Get me going, and I'm sure to get other people opening their wrists.

 

[Tiger Woods]

I'm with Amber on this. Get me going, and I'm sure to get other people opening their wrists.

What do you mean by that Dave?.

 

[Beenthere123]

Davey, hope you are good and all is cool.

 

[iceman_dci]

That ain't cool Dave...cmon buddy, you have lots of friends here.

 

[Blank_Dave]

No, things are going alright here, over all. No one ever hear the comedian comment "I called the suicide crisis line. After talking to me, the operator committed suicide"?

I'm just pondering something for the last couple of days, and debating on posting it in this thread, in regards to whether to pursue tail, rent it, or just give up on it since it's not for me.

 

[Bear669]

By"..... to pursue......"

By"..... to pursue......"

No, things are going alright here, over all. No one ever hear the comedian comment "I called the suicide crisis line. After talking to me, the operator committed suicide"?

I'm just pondering something for the last couple of days, and debating on posting it in this thread, in regards to whether to pursue tail, rent it, or just give up on it since it's not for me.

As you suggesting giving up on sex with other human beings?:neutral:

Based on your posts you have accomplished a LOT in your life recently. As a huge old furball I am certainly sympatico with your weight change:great:. Not the time to slump.

'Splain please?

 

[Blank_Dave]

I don't know where to start, and I'm trying to sort it out myself as well...

Well I did use my "door prize" Sunday. (Though my real prize is my newly acquired ) And while the young lady performed well, and a "good time" was had, I couldn't help but coming away feeling rather meh. I'm really not too sure what was missing...But it has me questioning whether this is the thing for me or not.

On the civilian side of things...I have suffered from one form or another of depression for most of my adult life. Couple that with a few nearly crippling schema (some would say esteem issues), approaching women is pretty much impossible for me. (Lets just say I score very highly in emotional deprivation, defectiveness and social isolation for starters) Depression or not, the schemas are the real deal breakers. And thus pretty much rules out relationships of that nature....

Oddly, as of late I've been feeling...Rather ok about going through life with out a....companion. Would I like one? Yes. But why fight what is not to be....

As I said, I'm trying to sort everything out...

 

[Beenthere123]

Keep strong Dave, I met you at the party and you are a decent looking guy. Give it time and before you know it something positive will happen.

 

[iceman_dci]

Dave...I was looking around to see if I was sitting in your living room LOL.

Cool Axe dude...Paul Stanley played one of those for years...dunno if he still does or not.

Nice purchase though.

Chin up, if your current lifestyle is meeting your expecatations, then all is good.

 

[Blank_Dave]

Keep strong Dave, I met you at the party and you are a decent looking guy. Give it time and before you know it something positive will happen.

See that' where the social isolation and defective schema kick in though. They tell me that can't happen, because one says I don't belong, and the other says there is something fundamentally wrong with me. Whether or not it is true, that is how I feel/think.

 

[a 1 player]

I don't know where to start, and I'm trying to sort it out myself as well...

Well I did use my "door prize" Sunday. (Though my real prize is my newly acquired ) And while the young lady performed well, and a "good time" was had, I couldn't help but coming away feeling rather meh. I'm really not too sure what was missing...But it has me questioning whether this is the thing for me or not.

On the civilian side of things...I have suffered from one form or another of depression for most of my adult life. Couple that with a few nearly crippling schema (some would say esteem issues), approaching women is pretty much impossible for me. (Lets just say I score very highly in emotional deprivation, defectiveness and social isolation for starters) Depression or not, the schemas are the real deal breakers. And thus pretty much rules out relationships of that nature....

Oddly, as of late I've been feeling...Rather ok about going through life with out a....companion. Would I like one? Yes. But why fight what is not to be....

As I said, I'm trying to sort everything out...

Ok, where do I begin. I too have had depression for many years, sometimes very severely to the point where I cannot function at all, and every anti-depressant out there, I have been on at least twice. Therapy? Yeah, did that, saw several doctors, therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists and even a fucking minister. Funny thing though, just about every one of them was a fucking quack who made matters worse, not better.

You know what works for me, (not worked, it is an ongoing process) This...
https://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/205974/
Ok, maybe not to that extent but...

-I choose not to keep up with the Jonses because society and the media says I should (I could write a novel on this shit)
-I value people, not possessions (will anyone really care what car you drove in 50 years?)
-I help others when I am able (they WILL remember Mother Theresa)
-I don't give a hairy shit what others think of me (This can be hard to do, and has to be worked at, but once I stopped trying to impress other people and just acted like me, my esteem went up. I am who I am and I can't be anyone else, if yoiu don't like me, fuck ya. I have more important stuff to worry about than to stress over that shit)
-My fucked up brain is one of my best attributes (you should check out my Facebook statuses, fucking brilliant)
-I don't take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyways

As for the companion part...

Sometimes it is nice, sometimes you want your freedom. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime, sometimes you get divorced and she takes half of everything plus $1000/month. Sometimes you get along brilliantly, sometimes you want to knife fight with her. It is what it is. A companion will come when you are least expecting it, but do you really want one? That is for you to answer. I know sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

Don't know if this helps at all, but if not...

Fuck it.

 

[Tiger Woods]

Ok, where do I begin. I too have had depression for many years, sometimes very severely to the point where I cannot function at all, and every anti-depressant out there, I have been on at least twice. Therapy? Yeah, did that, saw several doctors, therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists and even a fucking minister. Funny thing though, just about every one of them was a fucking quack who made matters worse, not better.

You know what works for me, (not worked, it is an ongoing process) This...
https://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/205974/
Ok, maybe not to that extent but...

-I choose not to keep up with the Jonses because society and the media says I should (I could write a novel on this shit)
-I value people, not possessions (will anyone really care what car you drove in 50 years?)
-I help others when I am able (they WILL remember Mother Theresa)
-I don't give a hairy shit what others think of me (This can be hard to do, and has to be worked at, but once I stopped trying to impress other people and just acted like me, my esteem went up. I am who I am and I can't be anyone else, if yoiu don't like me, fuck ya. I have more important stuff to worry about than to stress over that shit)
-My fucked up brain is one of my best attributes (you should check out my Facebook statuses, fucking brilliant)
-I don't take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyways

As for the companion part...

Sometimes it is nice, sometimes you want your freedom. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime, sometimes you get divorced and she takes half of everything plus $1000/month. Sometimes you get along brilliantly, sometimes you want to knife fight with her. It is what it is. A companion will come when you are least expecting it, but do you really want one? That is for you to answer. I know sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

Don't know if this helps at all, but if not...

Fuck it.

Wow :great: