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Have you ever asked your partner about their credit history?.

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I should have on my last girlfriend. She was a shopaholic and took me to the cleaners. Advice for those that plan to get hitched or married. Find out their spending habits.

Read this and take notes.




At what point do you ask your partner about their credit history?

There are no murkier waters than those governing the relationship between romance and money.
Certainly, there are no rules, and perhaps that’s where we get stuck. There is no guidebook for when to ask, say, how much a date earns as a salary, or how much they’ve got saved in the bank.
If there is one thing becoming clear, though, it’s that the recession has lifted some of the taboo around wondering about your boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s financials.
In fact, according to the New York Times, things like credit scores are now becoming as important in the dating world as a good head of hair or straight set of teeth.

A recent NYT feature by Jessica Silver-Greenberg details the rise of practicing safe finances in dating, a trend that appears to be very real.

*Bing: How is a credit score calculated?
“What’s your credit score?” was the question popped to one thirtysomething woman on a recent first date, a brazen inquisition the Times surmises is an all more common occurrence today.
“Credit scores are like the dating equivalent of a sexually transmitted disease test,” says one executive of a financial advisory firm. “It’s a shorthand way to get a sense of someone’s financial past the same way an STD test gives some information about a person’s sexual past.”

Perhaps it’s not such a stretch. As is everything in a marriage, one partner is often tied to the other. So, if you get hitched with someone that’s financially illiterate, with a credit history less desirable than , that’s on you, too. All of a sudden, the mortgage rate you’re eligible for might increase. Maybe your auto insurance also goes up.
So the problem now becomes: how, and when, do I ask?

That’s an age-old question that may never be answered, but new-age solutions are already here.
To combat the unmentionable, dating sites with credit histories in mind have hit the web. No, really: they’re called CreditScoreDating.com and DateMyCreditScore.com.
How important is fiscal responsibility to you when choosing a man or woman? When would you ask about credit history?

 
Interesting point.

I've never asked outright but by the time things got serious, I've gotten a good sense of their financial sensibilities.

I'd be more nervous about disclosing my own spending habits. I spend waaaaaaay too much.
 
I disagree. I take care of my own money and he takes care of his. I am not stupid enough to get married. I can commit to someone without needing to have a piece of paper.

I think if people stopped trying to "share everything" as in his is mine, and started sharing responsibility instead as in I have to pay my half of rent, bills, food, etc then there would not be so much issue.
 
Ms.FemmeFatale said:
I disagree. I take care of my own money and he takes care of his. I am not stupid enough to get married. I can commit to someone without needing to have a piece of paper.

I think if people stopped trying to "share everything" as in his is mine, and started sharing responsibility instead as in I have to pay my half of rent, bills, food, etc then there would not be so much issue.

Hopefully it never happens but I'm assuming separating would be much easier in your set-up. He takes his, you take yours and 50/50 on the profit of real estate if it was acquired together?
 
ipsniffit said:
Hopefully it never happens but I'm assuming separating would be much easier in your set-up. He takes his, you take yours and 50/50 on the profit of real estate if it was acquired together?

Pretty much.

We are both hard working people. We take pride in our own contributions so we make sure we equal contribute. It is not so rigid that it is always 50/50 split but we keep it pretty close.
 
Ms.FemmeFatale said:
Pretty much.

We are both hard working people. We take pride in our own contributions so we make sure we equal contribute. It is not so rigid that it is always 50/50 split but we keep it pretty close.

It seems like a mutually gratifying relationship, well done!
 
ipsniffit said:
It seems like a mutually gratifying relationship, well done!

Thank you. It has been hard work but one thing that has help is that we do what works for us. Not what society thinks we should have done in our relationship. Society says marriage, kids, guy mows the lawn, girl cooks and cleans, it is all bullshit. Do what works for you. Why are you going to live miserable just to make "society" happy.

I would rather live happy and tell society to suck it! LOL
 
Ms.FemmeFatale said:


I would rather live happy and tell society to suck it! LOL

I wish I could tell my wife to suck it but that will get me a night on the couch. Please don't get me wrong, she will suck it but I can't ask for it or I'm in trouble!:biggrin2:
 
ipsniffit said:
I wish I could tell my wife to suck it but that will get me a night on the couch. Please don't get me wrong, she will suck it but I can't ask for it or I'm in trouble!:biggrin2:

That is too funny because I ask my man if I can practice my oral all the time. I had a major injury in the summer that affected me in more ways then one and a BJ was one of those ways. So I kind of have to train myself again and we have to watch the position, but I ask all the time.....

"hey babe, can I borrow your cock tonight, I need to practice my oral" LOL
 
Ms.FemmeFatale said:

That is too funny because I ask my man if I can practice my oral all the time. I had a major injury in the summer that affected me in more ways then one and a BJ was one of those ways. So I kind of have to train myself again and we have to watch the position, but I ask all the time.....

"hey babe, can I borrow your cock tonight, I need to practice my oral" LOL

If I ever get married I would appreciate it if you handle the marriage classes! Praise-Bowing
 
Robintheboywonder said:
If I ever get married I would appreciate it if you handle the marriage classes! Praise-Bowing


LMAO!!!!! No problem. like.png
 
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