Have you ever ghosted a regular?

[demien3k5]

Anyone ever 'ghost' a regular?

I recently had a session with a young lady I'd been seeing for almost six years when she 'said' and 'did' a few things that not only did I find shocking and disturbing, but which also flipped the sexual attraction switch to a permanent 'off' position.

This being the case, when the session was over and we each went our own way, I shifted to radio silence and slipped into permanent 'ghost' mode.

Needless to say, the 'wig out' on her part was/has been epic. :SayWhat?: Calls, text msgs., endless emails, threats, the whole 9. :no:

Anyone else have any stories where they had to ghost someone? Would you do it again or do things differently?

 

[Ipost]

I had to look it up before responding.


No is my answer.

The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Ghosting is not specific to a certain gender and is closely related to the subject's maturity and communication skills.

Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels.

Urban Dictionary: ghosting

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Only in a small handful of instances where I feared for my safety if I continued correspondence. Sometimes the best thing you can do is not give them any more fodder to twist and manipulate in their minds. You’re hopefully also keeping them from further self-destruction.

 

[God]

Nope.

 

[Madman]

First off Demien C'MERE YOU BIG PUSSY AND GIVE ME A

I've ghost on several MPA attendant in the past who became attached to the $$$$$ and started acting possessive over only seeing them.

 

[peace]

First off Demien C'MERE YOU BIG PUSSY AND GIVE ME A

I've ghost on several MPA attendant in the past who became attached to the $$$$$ and started acting possessive over only seeing them.

Hey you got the wrong guy. Geezzzz!!!


























welcome back @demien3k5 :great:

 

[Madman]

Hey you got the wrong guy. Geezzzz!!!

welcome back @demien3k5 :great:

ooooooopsie sorry

 

[peace]

:don'twantto-see:/Stop:don'twantto-see:/ Why did you grab some viagara pills for?????

 

[demien3k5]

Only in a small handful of instances where I feared for my safety if I continued correspondence. Sometimes the best thing you can do is not give them any more fodder to twist and manipulate in their minds. You’re hopefully also keeping them from further self-destruction.

Good points Amy. :good:

The decision to 'ghost' her wasn't frivolous by any means - more based on a well-informed estimation of how she would react if I told her in person it was over and we wouldn't be seeing each other anymore. Judging by the current severity of the blow back, I'm thinking I did the right thing.

I'm always so surprised when I find instances in this industry of people that simply can't keep it within the confines of a business arrangement, particularly from an SP.

 

[Prick]

I refuse to play your games unless you buy me a

 

[LadyJacklyn]

I ghost now and then on the other side of things, like Amy stated, generally it happens if the I feel like the person is pushing my boundaries (staying excessively overtime, pushing for services I don't provide, has gotten lax on hygiene, has gotten too attached and begins pushing for off the clock time more than he's booking, etc etc).
Great thread, I love hearing what various things might make you gents ghost.

 

[Guido]

I am dressing as a Ghost for Halloween. Think anyone will see me?.

 

[Jessica Rain]

I have been known to ghost a few people.

I have to say though, the reaction you say you got is pretty pathetic in my opinion. I never understand the relationship ending drama from an escort. You are a paid companion. It makes no sense.

I am prepared to be ghosted after any session. That is part of what being a companion is about, no?

 

[The Voice]

I've been ghosted by SPs I was friendly with. We are just ships that pass in the night.

 

[DILLIGAF]

In this day of electronics I find that people have forgotten how to talk!
Whatever happened with just saying that's it no more.
This sounds like the guy that broke off his engagement with a text.
Oh well its just me and the old school yapping!!!

DILLIGAF

 

[demien3k5]

In this day of electronics I find that people have forgotten how to talk!
Whatever happened with just saying that's it no more.
This sounds like the guy that broke off his engagement with a text.
Oh well its just me and the old school yapping!!!

DILLIGAF

You mean like an East Indian divorce where the husband says:

I break with thee...
I break with thee...
I break with thee...
....then throws dog poop on her shoes.

Et Voila! You're a single lady, get y'er hands up!

(sung to the tune of Beyonce's 'All the Single Ladies')

 

[demien3k5]

I have to say though, the reaction you say you got is pretty pathetic in my opinion. I never understand the relationship ending drama from an escort. You are a paid companion. It makes no sense.

Totally agree w you Jess. I guess we as hobbyists can occasionally underestimate the power of the "comfort zone regular session that comes with a healthy funding injection every week" arrangement has over some providers.

 

[Jessica Rain]

Totally agree w you Jess. I guess we as hobbyists can occasionally underestimate the power of the "comfort zone regular session that comes with a healthy funding injection every week" arrangement has over some providers.

To me the money is suppose to be what stops the two of you from running away together, ruining both your lives.

Not the the only reason you see each week after week.

If that makes sense.

The financial barriers is what usually ensures the emotional attachment does not take over the fantasy.

Not the financial arrangement is to pay for the SPs bills and ugh - I have to go to work now for this pay check.

At least that is the way I like to run things.

 

[TFZL1]

I ghosted one regular who I Used to really care for. She got way to familiar, tell g me all her problems, expecting me to do things for her and bitching about everyone else.
I tried to help her get it together, to no avail. Badmouthing other SP’s who she knew, some I like, was the last straw.
bye bye regular.
I found better, more positive Lady’s who like fun, not drama.

 

[TFZL1]

I ghosted one regular who I Used to really care for. She got way too familiar, telling me all her problems, expecting me to do things for her and bitching about everyone else.
I tried to help her get it together, to no avail. Badmouthing other SP’s who she knew, some I like, was the last straw.
bye bye regular.
I found better, more positive Lady’s who like fun, not drama.

That was over a year ago, haven’t seen her but we did talk once and I wished her well.

Now I’m ghosting Another one. Got pretty close and very regular with another girl over last year, but she’s changed a lot recently. She’s become a bit of a Dom and taken advantage of my generosity. I’m not interested in being one of her stable of cash pigs. She upped the price of our last session after it was booked and confirmed. I said No. she texted back that she would do it for the old price. I was worried it wouldn’t be good because we’d pissed each other off, but I went for it.
well, sex was good, but with restrictions. But she was done with me early. 20 minutes left in my time and she was dressed and texting other clients or friends. I’m afraid there’s a new boypimpfriend. Seems like someone’s controlling her because she comes up with new ideas for more money after she talks/texts with somebody else. I had to unfollow her cause I can’t stand the begging for shit she doesn’t need on her wishlist. I’ll leave her to her cash-pigs.
bye-bye regular.