IN-Call HELP! I need to find an SP who could do a 2-for-1 deal for me.

[gom]

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[Dan]

I would steer you towards Gen. She's a very smart and articulate woman. Another that comes to mind is Rebecca who based on her posts seems to be a very intelligent woman as well.

 

[gom]

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[Stuart]

Could you please link me to Gen? Thanks.

Also, I'm trying to get as many as I can so I can see which one is the best. Are there others? Thanks.

Gen and a bonus review.

 

[Kyra.Graves]

For me, it's like a 2-for-1 deal - getting the sex, and getting the practice I need to do well in my communication-based courses. Moreover, I find that I tend to talk and practice better if the person is an attractive female who's willing to have sex with me.

If you are serious about your schooling and career goals you need to find other avenues to pursue this course of study, it's all well and good that you believe you are a better communicator when you perceive that a young female you are attracted to is open to your advances but that has absolutely nothing to do with business communication nor will it have any relevance in your everyday professional interactions. It could be detrimental to your career if you decide to practice communication both verbal and non-verbal in an openly sexual scenario, especially one where you are encouraged to make advances and are very unlikely to be rebuffed as what is inappropriate in a school or business environment is often encouraged behind closed doors. The skills you need for a professional environment would not be something that a paid companion would teach you unless you very specifically expressed a desire for a non-sexual interaction which is something you have stated you do not want.
We interact differently in business than we do in our personal relationships, if you are unsure of that just listen to a friend or colleague on the phone as you can almost always tell in the first sentence or two if they are speaking to a male friend or a female family member just by tone of voice. When speaking to female office workers you employ a different tone, one that is familiar but not personal and not one of affection, it's a very different one than you would use when speaking to a lover or intimate companion and learning to communicate professionally outside of context is not going to help and it very well may make the men or women you work with feel uncomfortable as they will sense something is 'off' in the way you speak to them. It may make you uncomfortable but practice in context, if you have trouble speaking to professional groups or one on one put yourself in a position where you will need to work through that, maybe join a toastmasters group or even offer to tutor some students in a subject you are familiar with, you'll be helping them but also will gain one on one communication experience.
If you still want to see a companion on the side you can do so, she can probably help you with communication for your personal life but it's not going to help with your career unless you plan on sleeping your way to the top.

 

[Jawbone]

Gom, add Kyra to that list of smart ladies. Wow, I am very impressed.

 

[Senor Gomes]

You have a nice culito.

 

[Auggie]

You can get communication practice with attractive women for free.

Go downtown and pose as a lost tourist. Carry a map and approach a lovely lady to get help with directions. If she seems receptive and willing to engage in conversation ask her if she would join you for a drink. You could skip this part and ask if she wants to make love if you sense she's willing.

 

[Clint Ewood]

nice sig Kyra

 

[Insertion]

You can get communication practice with attractive women for free.

Go downtown and pose as a lost tourist. Carry a map and approach a lovely lady to get help with directions. If she seems receptive and willing to engage in conversation ask her if she would join you for a drink. You could skip this part and ask if she wants to make love if you sense she's willing.

Auggie, splendid idea. Ideal as an ice breaker, have you had any luck trying the map direction thingy?

 

[Auggie]

Usually when I approach lovely ladies on the street they give me a look of sympathy and hand me a quarter. :blush:

 

[Legend]

Wow Kyra that was an amazing and insightful reply I would give you an A+ for that paper you just submitted LOL as a parent of someone with autism I have to say that you really understand the intricacies of someone on the spectrum. just curious but can I infer that you do know someone? And therefore have seen the hordes of specialists or perhaps your studying to be a speech path onnthe side

 

[Kyra.Graves]

I think everyone here has some experience with someone on the autism spectrum, not everyone realizes it but with the current rates being estimated at 1 in 90 for children being born you'd have to lead a very sheltered life to not come in contact with someone that is dealing with it now. That being said no I don't have anyone in my immediate circle that is on the autism spectrum requiring me to go through the process with them, I think it's more a matter of trying to be informed and aware as to what is going on in our society. Really though the information posted I would post for anyone with that request autistic or not, if one is having an issue with business communication you need to find a comfortable and safe way to practice that, communication is different based on environment and learning to communicate in an intimate setting then applying it to a business world is going to set oneself up for a mess of problems later - the last thing you want to deal with, especially if you have difficulty reading the verbal and non-verbal cues of others, is to have those in your work environment think you are making a sexual advance as that's a serious issue in an office environment and is a quick way to put your career on hold.

 

[T.A.F.K.A. Prince]

Don't they have work shops specifically meant at improving these skills? Check out the ads in your local paper, or look online.

 

[jumpingjackflash]

I agree with Kyra, an escort is not one you should be practicing your communication skills especially in regards to a professional career.

 

[PurelyJayda]

I see what you mean, although I beg to differ with this specific statement...

"The skills you need for a professional environment would not be something that a paid companion would teach you unless you very specifically expressed a desire for a non-sexual interaction which is something you have stated you do not want. "

There are a handful of provider's that are very well educated, not only in the school aspect, but in various profession's.

He stated he wanted to kill 2 birds with 1 stone, so he must mean that he doesn't have someone he is comfortable enough to converse and practice with on a regular basis. (Which is something he believe's will help his social skills.) This emphasizes that he is not looking for just any provider, but one like yourself (proven in your writings) who is well-spoken, and educated.

He's separated the two issue's and also joined them.
It sounds to me as if he's looking to find a lady that is capable of holding the role of his regular, not that he's looking for multiple practice partners.
I believe he's not just looking for the sex, as that is not what every client looks for in a provider...
He want's a combination, and that is what the best provide, a true GFE involves not only intimacy but companionship.

I think a lot of people misinterpret what this is about.
For me, I've found that it is the whole package of what you provide that makes up the experience.

The term GFE "Girlfriend Experience" - Entails to me that for that amount of time a lady is compensated for should consist of things a real Girlfriend and Boyfriend do just without the string of commitment attached to the end of the stick.

A good provider would make sure that this time is like a fantasy fulfilled but in reality, and that part of the companionship he want's out of this; is like a girlfriend who can help him with his social skills, that he can visit when need be to kill 2 birds with one stone, but see on a regular basis and not ever worry about being embarrassed of practicing with what extra time remains after the advances, because he's established being comfortable with her. (And I think its great he's looking for it through recommendation, as hobbyist's do look out for the ladies that have a warmer personality, that can ease any anxiety/tension.)

I'm sure you know what I mean, where you must have had regular's you are very comfortable with and can do much more then be cooped up in the room and only provide intimacy.

He posted this inquiry instead of going to search himself and perhaps wasting time and money trying, he wanted to find a companion with good intellect and knew it'd be best to get a recommendation from a hobbyist who's seen various ladies and has a wider perspective of who might fit the criteria for the position.

 

[Analme]

Awesome post Jayda. DO you have a web site so I could learn more about you young lady?

 

[PurelyJayda]

www.splendidtorontoescorts.com/Jayda =] Oh why thank you, I don't really post much, but I just thought his call for help was really misinterpreted.

 

[Kyra.Graves]

I see what you mean, although I beg to differ with this specific statement...

"The skills you need for a professional environment would not be something that a paid companion would teach you unless you very specifically expressed a desire for a non-sexual interaction which is something you have stated you do not want. "

*snipped just for space sake*

He posted this inquiry instead of going to search himself and perhaps wasting time and money trying, he wanted to find a companion with good intellect and knew it'd be best to get a recommendation from a hobbyist who's seen various ladies and has a wider perspective of who might fit the criteria for the position.

I think we're going to disagree on this one if simply because he's not looking for help with a social environment but a professional one and when learning business communication where one has difficulty with the nuances such as tone and non-verbal communication I cannot help but believe that practicing that in a sexualized environment will in the long run be detrimental to his career. Soft skill development can be difficult for many people even if they do not have a spectrum disorder such as autism, when you are dealing with something such as that it makes learning those soft skills that much more challenging and learning how to speak to colleagues, direct reports, clients, etc. can be a challenge and it's very different than the skills you'd need for dealing with people in a social setting. There is a reason a good salesperson is valued, why a rainmaker can almost always find work despite often being a 'difficult to manage' personality type and why closing a deal is a highly sought after skill. People skills are important because in the long run businesses are made up of people and if you make your coworkers uncomfortable then your company is going to start having to evaluate whether you are still an asset and that's not a position you want to find yourself in.

As an escort you can certainly have wonderful business skills but not all escorts do, many have never worked in a professional environment and have no idea what skills are needed to give a presentation, to network at a large business function or to close the deal (outside of a sexual one). If he wants to practice business communication in order to better prepare for his future then he needs to learn the nuances of speaking to colleagues, to learn that body language matters when speaking to his direct reports and what tone and positioning conveys "open and willing to talk and listen" and what does not. Depending on what industry he is going into he may need to learn how to hire or dismiss someone, he may need to negotiate (a good skill for anyone as we all need a salary) and he may need to learn how to deliver proposals or presentations, or even just to be heard at meetings.
When I am on a date, and yes I had one once that went out of the bedroom I don't use the same skills I would use in an office, it has nothing to do with whether or not I am being a GFE or not, it's just that much like most of my companions you leave the office behind. If someone came in and had their 'presentation' self on (which has happened) I let them talk it out for a few minutes to wind down then get them to leave it behind, you don't want your office self to start creeping into your everyday life, it's not fun when it takes over ever aspect of your life.

Being a good date is in part about not being entirely business professional, soundboarding is great and I've done it (and have been hired specifically for it) but that's different from professional coaching and coaching is something I would never recommend someone do for their career with a person in a sexual environment, not if they actually value their career.

 

[myself]

It's not good to tell a hooker you have these problems. Control yourself to act as normal, and as kind, as possible. People only pretend to accept you, but if you really have problems any girl your interested in will probably reject you in the end.

If you truly have autism you can't have friends. Get over it.

In my experience,people like you,who became bitter and mean are dissatisfied with life and have insecurities that they have not resolved. The insecurities lead to fear which will cause people to lash out at others in order to try to protect themselves from embarrassment or what they percieve to be harm.

People who are dissatisfied with life, who may have been frustrated by failures, will come to believe that the world is against them. They may feel that there is nothing that they can do to fix the problems that they see in the world. This could lead to bitterness.

Having said this, there are numerous reasons that a person may become bitter or mean. They may have a superiority complex or this may be the only way that they know of for interacting with other people. Everyone has different experiences growing up, and for some people, this is thier way of coping with life. But, to reiterate what I said earlier, almost everyone that I've met who was bitter or mean had a strong fear in their lives.

Piece of advice for you,finding a professional to help might be lame, corny but it's gonna help, so anyway it's up to u my friend.