How have you dealt with a divorce?.

[Bubba]

Not saying I have, but how and what does one have to look forward to?

Spending years with a loved one then Zap...Gone.

 

[BuryTheWeasel]

Sorry to hear it didn't work out.

 

[Danolo]

Not saying I have, but how and what does one have to look forward to?

Spending years with a loved one then Zap...Gone.

Yup, its not fun.... I've been through two divorces and a breakup of a long term common law relationship. I walked around kinda numb for a few days... i didn't seem to feel much of anything, just numb... then I started to feel a bit battered... like I'd been beaten up... and then slowly, over a few weeks I started to recover and get on with life...

Take care, Bubba...

 

[-b]

Take Care Bubba

I am still sad, depress at times, Hurt.....People say move on....Well I am but
I have lost my whole family....even though it was not prefect I tried very hard
because I put all my love and soul into the relationship.....
Therapist says I may never trust or be any man again......I know I know, move on
but each person need to work it through their own way.....

So Bubba, it gets better each day even if it is just tiny steps or you even if
you fall down...You get up and push on......

I will never go back to him......I can not

 

[Culioneros]

Divorce is an evil thing that only the lawyers benefit of it.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

I call divorce a life altering event.

Right up there with the death of a loved one.

I've been through it and although it was amicable it still hurts to even think about it.

The truth is that some part of me has never really let go and moved on.

I really wish I go back and have a talk to myself. Unfortunately there are no do overs in this life.

That's why it is important to realize how short life is and make the very best of the opportunities put in front of you.

 

[Wanker]

I think I will pass on the marriage ritual and just live together. After all after one year you are considered common -n law married.

 

[just curious]

Divorce is an evil thing that only the lawyers benefit of it.

So true. The family lawyers are the nastiest ones of them all. They prey on the miseries of broken families. All they care about is how much their clients are worth and how much they can make out of them. Most of the lawyers know each other and they all try to drag on the case by making you feel good and drain you out slowly. Try to settle as fast as you can without going thru the court if at all possible. Most times it is better you give into your wife and kids and take a lot less for yourself than sharing your wealth with the lawyers.

There is a joke asking "what would you do if you were given 3 bullets with a gun while you were going thru a divorce?". Will you shoot your wife , the lawyer or yourself? The guy's answer was he'll shoot all 3 bullets into the lawyer's head.

 

[jumpingjackflash]

I'd love to hear a response from a practising family lawyer on the comments posted in here.

I know some lawyers will add fuel to the fire but it's also family members and friends that instigate spouses to go for more. It's a real emotional issue and as a few stated it is life altering. I also believe men in North America receive the short end of the stick when children are involved.

 

[RAWD]

Divorce is an awful thing. It is probably one of the most personal failures one will ever encounter. But, a lot of times it can make sense.

I've been chatting with a friend a lot lately about it.

I have a slightly different question - at what point does divorce become a viable option? What thinking process do you go through to consider leaving your marriage?

Married men will hobby or get into affairs. Obviously something is missing at home so we wander. But, I'm not talking about casual encounters or flings. Many guys fall deeply in love with another woman, and sincerely care about them. They have a woman who thrills them, makes them feel young, captivates their attention.

Yet, they refuse to leave a marriage that is not completely satisfying. Why? Besides the easy answer of money (i don't want to part with one-half of my assets)....why?

 

[Esquire]

Not saying I have, but how and what does one have to look forward to?

Spending years with a loved one then Zap...Gone.

My divorce was longer than my marriage.

 

[Esquire]

Divorce is an awful thing. It is probably one of the most personal failures one will ever encounter. But, a lot of times it can make sense.

I've been chatting with a friend a lot lately about it.

I have a slightly different question - at what point does divorce become a viable option? What thinking process do you go through to consider leaving your marriage?

Married men will hobby or get into affairs. Obviously something is missing at home so we wander. But, I'm not talking about casual encounters or flings. Many guys fall deeply in love with another woman, and sincerely care about them. They have a woman who thrills them, makes them feel young, captivates their attention.

Yet, they refuse to leave a marriage that is not completely satisfying. Why? Besides the easy answer of money (i don't want to part with one-half of my assets)....why?

Not just money but young children too.

 

[papasmerf]

divorce is much more emotional than burring a spouse but it is legal

 

[Esteban]

Just take it easy when dealing with your children's visitation times. After a while if you are a good Father she will let you keep them every weekend instead of once a month.

 

[Curly]

My divorce was longer than my marriage.

The first, second or third one :biggrin2:

 

[Klutz]

Only the children lose when there is a breakup. There was one Professor that told me once. They teach everything in school but they neglect to validate the real punch card on how to behave and act during a marriage. It took me a while to comprehend his words of wisdom but it now makes sense to me. Hoping you can get his philosophical analysis of it.