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Trans women refer to their genitals in myriad ways: Some say “clit,” “vagina,” “vulva;” some say “dick,” “girl-dick,” or “cock;” some say “junk,” some say “genitals,” some say “lady parts,” and one hilarious woman described her nether bits to me as “Brenda.” (For illustrative reasons, I’ve used anatomical terms like “glans” and “penis” at times in this piece, but have otherwise let the women interviewed describe their bodies however they prefer.)
Names for oral sex also run the gamut, and include “cunnilingus,” “going down on,” “getting eaten out,” “face fucking,” and some women even enjoy the term “blow job.” It depends on the recipient and how they feel about the act and their genitals.
“'Going down' and 'getting eaten out' are great terms,” says , a photographer and trans woman living in Oakland, “though I'm typically not the one to offer them. I definitely dislike any terms that have historically been used to denote oral sex with a cis male.”
Mara, a trans woman in Chicago (whose last name has been omitted for privacy), says her descriptions for the act depend on the situation. “I'm pretty flexible in what I use. Sometimes I like it rougher and will say things like, ‘I want you to suck my dick now,’ and other times it's very sweet and I'm all, ‘I want to go down on you and eat you out until I can't breath.’"
Oral givers: If you’re not sure what to call it—or unsure if your partner even wants to receive oral at all—just ask. Making wrong assumptions can be a real turn off.