No More Mr Nice Guy

[Blank_Dave]

How many here think I would benefit from this book?

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

I've always wondered how is someone who has never met you going to help you get what you want exactly.

 

[JackassJack]

Dude you don't need someone to tell you what and how to do. You need to figure out on your own.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

I think that what you really need is to go to Germany and get leg lengthening.
Every one knows that the true path to happiness and success is being taller.

 

[Auggie]

Skip the self help books if you don't put the advice into practice.

 

[- - -]

Dave, I dont think it could hurt. We've all been inspired to change by certain books or people that have influenced our lives. It certainly isnt good to put your needs last and if this would help you get what you want out of life then go for it. Tell me how it is.

 

[dreamblade]

Interesting topic. I'll have to pick this book up.

I've struggled with the Nice Guy thing for a long time. Nice Guy is often equated with pushover, but I have found ways around that. There are ways of being assertive AND nice.

 

[Trump]

Be yourself Dave and add some assertiveness into it and you should be fine.

 

[RAWD]

There's nothing wrong with being nice. In fact, the ladies all want us to be nice, TO THEM. We can be assholes to everyone else, but she wants to feel special.

As Trump and Dreamblade said, it's about assertiveness and self-confidence. Get comfortable in your own skin and with who you are.

Took me 30 years to figure it out.

 

[Butch]

Dave, I dont think it could hurt. We've all been inspired to change by certain books or people that have influenced our lives. It certainly isnt good to put your needs last and if this would help you get what you want out of life then go for it. Tell me how it is.

Why do I get turned on by you when you post . Sorry Sentry it's only an infatuation.

 

[Blank_Dave]

I've always wondered how is someone who has never met you going to help you get what you want exactly.

I look at as cow grace. II can see their destination, and if I like it, I can try to follow their path. Or I can assimilate their information, using what I want and discarding the rest.

There's nothing wrong with being nice. In fact, the ladies all want us to be nice, TO THEM. We can be assholes to everyone else, but she wants to feel special.

I think the Nice Guy Syndrome the author talks about isn't the genuinely Nice Guy, but the doormat Nice Guy. The ladies may want us to be nice, but do they want us to be push overs as well?

 

[HOF]

Why do I get turned on by you when you post . Sorry Sentry it's only an infatuation.

HAHAHA, Butch, I've met "3" twice, once at a party and once in an elevator

It was in an elevator https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LvyDTsbL_5s&feature=related I wish!!!

 

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Why do I get turned on by you when you post . Sorry Sentry it's only an infatuation.

No worries Butch. If you think you get turned on by her posts, you should see her in person!! I get SOOO turned on every time I see her!!

 

[RAWD]

I think the Nice Guy Syndrome the author talks about isn't the genuinely Nice Guy, but the doormat Nice Guy. The ladies may want us to be nice, but do they want us to be push overs as well?

Sometimes. My field of work tends to have a lot of strong women (weak/timid personalities of either sex just don't survive). I find it fascinating that most of these women claim to want strong men, but many are married to doormats. To be sure, they could yield if they chose to. They just chose not to. They want doormats. They like to be dominant. I believe that they are not secure enough to yield even in their personal lives.

The irony is that if these doormats try to assert themselves, they suddenly become assholes.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Ah yes the infamous "If you don't put up with my shit then you're an asshole" argument. Heard that more than a few times in my life.

 

[GenevieveLajoie]

Before you go spend money on that book, have a look at this:.

 

[Hangman]

Nice counterpoint, Gen. Lore's been a fave writer of mine for years. Some pretty good insights in there...

 

[Jawbone]

Nice guys finish last take it from me. I use to be a soft hearted marshmallow until one day I woke up and a light bulb went off. I went from NDP'er, to a bleeding heart Liberal and then when all my senses were realized I became a staunch conservative. Now the ladies are all over me and won't let me get any sleep!

 

[Blank_Dave]

Before you go spend money on that book, have a look at this:.

I have a feeling the book and the above article may not be mutually exclusive. Alan speaks about the pseudo-Nice Guy, or No So Nice Guy (which I am apparently). I haven't read sufficient material by Glover to determine if he's addressing Nice Guys, or the pseudo-Nice Guys

Only time will tell if they both do agree on similar approaches.

 

[Al Bumin]

Before you go spend money on that book, have a look at this:.

Many guys like this:

Let me help you out: part of it is likely that you’re not as nice as you think you are, especially if you’re busy judgmentally viewing everyone else who’s managed to find a partner in contempt.