This may not be the site to vent but here it is anyway.
I am fustrated and fed up. I have a slight OCD streak in me. I know I have high standard for everything. I run into a lot of issues when it comes to the my kids. They are 8 & 5, good kids, well disciplined, top of their classes, ect. How on earth do I get themm to understand that value in (material) things.
For example, my daughter(8) ruined every pair of shoes she owns by crushing the back of them so the backs are all broke and flat. This drives me insane because now she looks like a slob when she wears them and then they tear and she needs new ones.
I just cut myself down to two jobs last October and finally paid off all my debt. I am not willing to throw $40-60 out the window on her shoes all the time. Same thing goes with DVD's they leave them out and then they get scratched. I could keep listing things that they wear and tear faster then I would like.
I understand that kids do things and ruin things but that doesn't ever make it okay especially when they have been taught and taught and shown how to treat and care for things. Basically I need some advice, How do I teach them value of property and themselves in general.
I want to teach them in a positve way but I know I don't always stay positive, I sure try but my need for perfection gets in my way and my temper boils up and I yell at them and then I am not teaching them anything but anger. I want them to have a lot of respect and a good self esteem. Help and Thank you.
I am fustrated and fed up. I have a slight OCD streak in me. I know I have high standard for everything. I run into a lot of issues when it comes to the my kids. They are 8 & 5, good kids, well disciplined, top of their classes, ect. How on earth do I get themm to understand that value in (material) things.
For example, my daughter(8) ruined every pair of shoes she owns by crushing the back of them so the backs are all broke and flat. This drives me insane because now she looks like a slob when she wears them and then they tear and she needs new ones.
I just cut myself down to two jobs last October and finally paid off all my debt. I am not willing to throw $40-60 out the window on her shoes all the time. Same thing goes with DVD's they leave them out and then they get scratched. I could keep listing things that they wear and tear faster then I would like.
I understand that kids do things and ruin things but that doesn't ever make it okay especially when they have been taught and taught and shown how to treat and care for things. Basically I need some advice, How do I teach them value of property and themselves in general.
I want to teach them in a positve way but I know I don't always stay positive, I sure try but my need for perfection gets in my way and my temper boils up and I yell at them and then I am not teaching them anything but anger. I want them to have a lot of respect and a good self esteem. Help and Thank you.
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