I've read all the private messages and thank you all very much. I've taken some time to think about all this and have come to the simple conclusion that it's my life. Ida has been notified and as long as her husband can log on then why can't I right? I'm not here to save or judge anyone. I'm here because I find the posts hilarious and some are just very interesting to read. I hope my presence doesn't make anyone feel uncomfortable including my hopefully still friends.