Blank_Dave
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As I'm sure we all know, I have some issues. Fortunately, not with any of the members here...I hope.
I've been slowly reading my way through , and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) book. I've gotten to the part that has us identify our values. These aren't moral values, or material values...Well I guess they could be, but personal values. What do we as individuals value, what does our hearts crave? This has troubled me for the past week, and I've been plodding my way through it.
It's been extra difficult for me, because I typically tend to run away from this sort of stuff. I find soul searching very difficult. Also, to my knowledge, I operate under multiple , including emotional deprivation, defectiveness, social exclusion, dependence, subjugation, and probably several more.... This is problematic because is this value something I want, or something the schema makes me want....
The book breaks the values into four areas: relationships, work/education, personal growth/health and leisure. Some of these are difficult for me to put a finger on, or figure out what I want. It focuses on what do you want, and what can you contribute to it, because you can only control your own actions.
To help with the reading...Titles, questions, my answer, and my comments
So away we go....
Relationships
Partner -What sort of relationship do you want to build? Loving, emotionally open. As I said in Blissful's Love thread, I don't really know what love is....
How would you behave in this relationship? Thoughtfully/courteously, dependably, non-antagonistically I am very bad for acting antagonist in any form of relationship. Basically, I just start acting like a dick. Notice Loving or sex machine aren't in there....
What personal qualities do you want to develop? Emotional connection (connect with my own emotions), openness (to express what's on my mind/heart), over come my aversion to physical contact. (I don't like being touched...)
How would you treat others if you were the "ideal you" in the relationship. Don't be a dick. I can be a grade A dick with people I know.
Children
Don't plan on having kids...Cat in the Cradle springs to mind. (That song is hard for me to listen to)
Friends Ok, I just skipped this one.....Call me lazy
Work
What personal qualities would you like to bring to work? Hard working, dedicated, intelligent, creative, pleasant
How would you behave towards others if you were the ideal you? Conscientious, pleasant, even tempered, dependable
What sort of relationships would you want to build? Working friendships Friends at work, but not outside of work.
What skills/knowledge/personal qualities do you want to develop? Foresight, assertiveness, self restraint (I've gotten in trouble over emails I've sent
), computer skills (I'm the 3rd most skilled user in the store as it is, behind a woman who's been at the job for 10 years, and the guy that wrote the system we use)
Personal growth/health
What ongoing activities would you like to start or take again? Aikido, university programs/renew degree When I wrote that down I was "WTF did that come from?"
What groups or centres would you like to join? uhhhhhh......
What life style changes would you make? Improve on my diet, and cooking I can cook, but I don't like to and I'm rather limited.
Leisure
What sort of hobbies/sport/leisure do you want to participate in? Music, aikido, riding, running, working out
How do you wish to relax, unwind or have fun in healthy, life-enhancing ways? relax/unwind: Music, excercise, meditation I find exercise to be very relaxing Fun: uhhhhhhh, what is this "fun" he is talking about? Honestly?
What sorts of activities would you like to take up or do more of? Aikido, guitar/bass, run and ride
There we go, finally got to the end of it. Feel free to leave input or free form mocking, or your own values/answers.
Why does the image of Genevieve passing around a hat for donations so she can fuck the brains out of a certain loser come to mind?
Speaking of being a loser...18-19% body fat.:happy:
I've been slowly reading my way through , and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) book. I've gotten to the part that has us identify our values. These aren't moral values, or material values...Well I guess they could be, but personal values. What do we as individuals value, what does our hearts crave? This has troubled me for the past week, and I've been plodding my way through it.
It's been extra difficult for me, because I typically tend to run away from this sort of stuff. I find soul searching very difficult. Also, to my knowledge, I operate under multiple , including emotional deprivation, defectiveness, social exclusion, dependence, subjugation, and probably several more.... This is problematic because is this value something I want, or something the schema makes me want....
The book breaks the values into four areas: relationships, work/education, personal growth/health and leisure. Some of these are difficult for me to put a finger on, or figure out what I want. It focuses on what do you want, and what can you contribute to it, because you can only control your own actions.
To help with the reading...Titles, questions, my answer, and my comments
So away we go....
Relationships
Partner -What sort of relationship do you want to build? Loving, emotionally open. As I said in Blissful's Love thread, I don't really know what love is....
How would you behave in this relationship? Thoughtfully/courteously, dependably, non-antagonistically I am very bad for acting antagonist in any form of relationship. Basically, I just start acting like a dick. Notice Loving or sex machine aren't in there....
What personal qualities do you want to develop? Emotional connection (connect with my own emotions), openness (to express what's on my mind/heart), over come my aversion to physical contact. (I don't like being touched...)
How would you treat others if you were the "ideal you" in the relationship. Don't be a dick. I can be a grade A dick with people I know.
Children
Don't plan on having kids...Cat in the Cradle springs to mind. (That song is hard for me to listen to)
Friends Ok, I just skipped this one.....Call me lazy
Work
What personal qualities would you like to bring to work? Hard working, dedicated, intelligent, creative, pleasant
How would you behave towards others if you were the ideal you? Conscientious, pleasant, even tempered, dependable
What sort of relationships would you want to build? Working friendships Friends at work, but not outside of work.
What skills/knowledge/personal qualities do you want to develop? Foresight, assertiveness, self restraint (I've gotten in trouble over emails I've sent
), computer skills (I'm the 3rd most skilled user in the store as it is, behind a woman who's been at the job for 10 years, and the guy that wrote the system we use)Personal growth/health
What ongoing activities would you like to start or take again? Aikido, university programs/renew degree When I wrote that down I was "WTF did that come from?"
What groups or centres would you like to join? uhhhhhh......
What life style changes would you make? Improve on my diet, and cooking I can cook, but I don't like to and I'm rather limited.
Leisure
What sort of hobbies/sport/leisure do you want to participate in? Music, aikido, riding, running, working out
How do you wish to relax, unwind or have fun in healthy, life-enhancing ways? relax/unwind: Music, excercise, meditation I find exercise to be very relaxing Fun: uhhhhhhh, what is this "fun" he is talking about? Honestly?
What sorts of activities would you like to take up or do more of? Aikido, guitar/bass, run and ride
There we go, finally got to the end of it. Feel free to leave input or free form mocking, or your own values/answers.
Why does the image of Genevieve passing around a hat for donations so she can fuck the brains out of a certain loser come to mind?
Speaking of being a loser...18-19% body fat.
:happy:
