So in recent weeks, I have had an opportunity to ponder much about men, women, beauty and attraction. It has been an interesting view. Consequently, I have personally seen that my unrealistic perceptions of self, and beauty were exactly that... unrealistic. Of course, I am without a doubt an unforgiving perfectionist with the most insane expectations of myself, and I must frequently give myself a reality check.
That has been extremely important for me to do since starting to work in this industry. And particularly since writing on this particularly critical forum. Hence, I find it frequently necessary to leave this place so as not to become completely demoralized.... But I digress... Ultimately, my experience to date has been an interesting experience in paradigm shift. Like many women influenced by the media, I have felt the sting of inadequacy with my aging body.
However, what I saw as a flaw, many men viewed as an asset! Imagine my surprise! I have had multiple men praise, admire and beg me not to alter my age-appropriate, large, natural, post-breast feeding sagging breasts. I was quite frankly shocked! Here I was, awaiting an accumulation of equity so that I could toddle off to my favorite plastic surgeon, and get those babies lifted.... but now I am not so sure...
You see, as women, we often accept without question what the media says or portrays to us about what is beautiful, or sexy or desirable! Why, even several gentlemen on this board have had the audacity to express their narrow-minded opinions of my success or not in this business based on my age and forthright demeanor... and I ALMOST believed them, but thanks to the wisdom and insightful knowledge of my fellow service providers, who have listened, supported and advised me... I have come to a more realistic perspective of my marketability.
Basically, the men on this and other forums like this forum represent a VERY small portion of the market, that the review board men, have a narrow focus and interest in a very restricted type of service provider... and that there is a VAST majority of available, interested men outside this community with interests and desires for women of all shapes, sizes and types including maturity, experience, natural, realistic bodies, bbws,etc .....
In fact one very astute business man said to me, " honey forget about them,(hobbyists) because that is the same sad, sorry dollars swirling around an over-saturated pool of providers.... what you need to market to are outside this community and hence new dollars..." I think he had a valid point....
And thus have I entered a paradigm shift, whereby my critical mind has changed into an acceptance mind and ultimately an appreciative mind.... glorying in my age, imperfect body, and responsive, mature sexuality.... So in many respects, this whole venture and experience has been an excellent means of challenging my negative perceptions of self, and so by meeting and servicing men who love, enjoy and revel in what I perceive as my imperfections, I am humbled, honoured and awed by their lavish appreciation.... and consequently is my sense of self, and acceptance of myself vindicated.
Damn I love my job!
That has been extremely important for me to do since starting to work in this industry. And particularly since writing on this particularly critical forum. Hence, I find it frequently necessary to leave this place so as not to become completely demoralized.... But I digress... Ultimately, my experience to date has been an interesting experience in paradigm shift. Like many women influenced by the media, I have felt the sting of inadequacy with my aging body.
However, what I saw as a flaw, many men viewed as an asset! Imagine my surprise! I have had multiple men praise, admire and beg me not to alter my age-appropriate, large, natural, post-breast feeding sagging breasts. I was quite frankly shocked! Here I was, awaiting an accumulation of equity so that I could toddle off to my favorite plastic surgeon, and get those babies lifted.... but now I am not so sure...
You see, as women, we often accept without question what the media says or portrays to us about what is beautiful, or sexy or desirable! Why, even several gentlemen on this board have had the audacity to express their narrow-minded opinions of my success or not in this business based on my age and forthright demeanor... and I ALMOST believed them, but thanks to the wisdom and insightful knowledge of my fellow service providers, who have listened, supported and advised me... I have come to a more realistic perspective of my marketability.
Basically, the men on this and other forums like this forum represent a VERY small portion of the market, that the review board men, have a narrow focus and interest in a very restricted type of service provider... and that there is a VAST majority of available, interested men outside this community with interests and desires for women of all shapes, sizes and types including maturity, experience, natural, realistic bodies, bbws,etc .....
In fact one very astute business man said to me, " honey forget about them,(hobbyists) because that is the same sad, sorry dollars swirling around an over-saturated pool of providers.... what you need to market to are outside this community and hence new dollars..." I think he had a valid point....
And thus have I entered a paradigm shift, whereby my critical mind has changed into an acceptance mind and ultimately an appreciative mind.... glorying in my age, imperfect body, and responsive, mature sexuality.... So in many respects, this whole venture and experience has been an excellent means of challenging my negative perceptions of self, and so by meeting and servicing men who love, enjoy and revel in what I perceive as my imperfections, I am humbled, honoured and awed by their lavish appreciation.... and consequently is my sense of self, and acceptance of myself vindicated.
Damn I love my job!
