Kyra.Graves
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Reading these comments I wonder if empathy with the victim is even possible but if you could all just imagine what it is like to be in that situation for a minute perhaps you'd see why the women are saying that rape is rape and perhaps you'd be more supportive for the male victim.
He's young, only 19, he's quite possibly been out drinking that evening and isn't making the quickest or best decisions he's ever made. It's late, he needs to get home and he's a guy. Now most girls are raised to know getting into a car with 4 people of the opposite sex can lead to a lot of problems, whether you know them or not women are just raised to question that because we know that more often than not we're at a physical disadvantage. He's been told he's a man, he's okay.
He gets into the vehicle and realises something is wrong, he doesn't want to fuck any one of these girls but no one is listening to him. They're pushing forward while he's saying no. Maybe he fights back, but what happens if he hits one of them? Maybe they are threatening him... maybe they are using status to intimidate him... saying things like if you touch me I'll tell the police you assaulted me, he's a drunk guy and they are 4 girls. What is he supposed to do? This doesn't feel like sex, this is pure exploitation and it's wrong.
We don't know what happened the police haven't released the details but imagine any number of scenarios; maybe he froze it's not an uncommon response among rape victims, maybe he's drunk and unable to walk so he's just watching this happen and they're raping his ass, maybe they're having a Stuebenville moment with him, fingering him, urinating on him, maybe they did something like the rapist in the example below where she drugged and intimidated him then he sat there and waited for it to end... maybe... maybe... maybe...
The point is that he didn't want it and they forced it upon him.
What makes it worse is that when he decides to finally come forward people start to tell him he's lucky for having this done to him, that he should have enjoyed it. They don't even know what it was but whatever it was they say "Boy that's my dream!"
They blame him for it, question his masculinity and his story instead of applauding him for having the courage to come forward.
Maybe it's time we started letting male victims of rape tell their stories and showing them support, then we might start seeing a little more equality in our society.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/01/women-raping-men-a-surviv_n_2224204.html
He's young, only 19, he's quite possibly been out drinking that evening and isn't making the quickest or best decisions he's ever made. It's late, he needs to get home and he's a guy. Now most girls are raised to know getting into a car with 4 people of the opposite sex can lead to a lot of problems, whether you know them or not women are just raised to question that because we know that more often than not we're at a physical disadvantage. He's been told he's a man, he's okay.
He gets into the vehicle and realises something is wrong, he doesn't want to fuck any one of these girls but no one is listening to him. They're pushing forward while he's saying no. Maybe he fights back, but what happens if he hits one of them? Maybe they are threatening him... maybe they are using status to intimidate him... saying things like if you touch me I'll tell the police you assaulted me, he's a drunk guy and they are 4 girls. What is he supposed to do? This doesn't feel like sex, this is pure exploitation and it's wrong.
We don't know what happened the police haven't released the details but imagine any number of scenarios; maybe he froze it's not an uncommon response among rape victims, maybe he's drunk and unable to walk so he's just watching this happen and they're raping his ass, maybe they're having a Stuebenville moment with him, fingering him, urinating on him, maybe they did something like the rapist in the example below where she drugged and intimidated him then he sat there and waited for it to end... maybe... maybe... maybe...
The point is that he didn't want it and they forced it upon him.
What makes it worse is that when he decides to finally come forward people start to tell him he's lucky for having this done to him, that he should have enjoyed it. They don't even know what it was but whatever it was they say "Boy that's my dream!"
They blame him for it, question his masculinity and his story instead of applauding him for having the courage to come forward.
Maybe it's time we started letting male victims of rape tell their stories and showing them support, then we might start seeing a little more equality in our society.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/01/women-raping-men-a-surviv_n_2224204.html
