You see someone hit a child unnecessarily. What would you do?.

[HOF]

I did read it and had a hard time deciding what the OP meant. I don't know anyone who just hit a kid for no reason. There's usually an action or a verbal exchange happening. So I have a difficult to me grabbing 'unnecessary'. To really grasp that term applied to any situation you'd have to be privy to the minutes leading up to the moment and the history of the family. For all we know the parent didn't get any last night or the kid is a holy terror and this was the last straw for the moment.

The terms hit and beating were being used in the posts interchangingly and they're really different.

You would have to be privy to minutes if not hours before. Remember that there are some that will take out their frustrations on children/animals for no reason at all.

 

[Blackrock13]

You would have to be privy to minutes if not hours before. Remember that there are some that will take out their frustrations on children/animals for no reason at all.

The good news is I've not seen that often in this country.

 

[papasmerf]

Got to ski the lounge for a while did ya?

Skied it for a couple of years, but gave up skiing. I've been back there a couple of time out of season and it's great part of the state. I've got a cousin who spent many years as a Park Ranger in the area and when he told me his estimates on how many times he 'scrambled' up the mountain I'd gag on my cowboy coffee.

It coming up time for a visit to Mirror Lake again.

Winter or summer it is a great place to visit

Lake Placid is one hell of great place

 

[tboy]

The good news is I've not seen that often in this country.

You obviously haven't spent a lot of time in Woodbridge or along St Clair west (though not so much anymore. They are both predominantly italian neighbourhoods and believe me, those big italian mamas can really wield a wooden spoon (towel, broom, or just a big meaty backhand).

As for the 18 month old in the restaurant, I'd probably step in too. 18 months? Holy crap, that's just barely a toddler and for being cranky? Future bully in the making.....

 

[Blackrock13]

You obviously haven't spent a lot of time in Woodbridge or along St Clair west (though not so much anymore. They are both predominantly italian neighbourhoods and believe me, those big italian mamas can really wield a wooden spoon (towel, broom, or just a big meaty backhand).

As for the 18 month old in the restaurant, I'd probably step in too. 18 months? Holy crap, that's just barely a toddler and for being cranky? Future bully in the making.....

You're right. I don't spend that much time in those parts. I know it happens, but I obviously live and hang in a much more gentile part of TO.

All I can say is that I've not ever seen anyone in my circles hit any child. It's just not done and not much need to be done as the kids know they've got it good.

 

[papasmerf]

spanked my daughters butt once when she was 2

21 years later I still get sick to my stomach when I think of it.

Apologized to her a few years back for it.......She assured me she did not recall it. I did and that was more then enough to bring tears to my eyes.

I can never make it up to her but I can make sure I never see it happen again

 

[Blackrock13]

spanked my daughters butt once when she was 2

21 years later I still get sick to my stomach when I think of it.

Apologized to her a few years back for it.......She assured me she did not recall it. I did and that was more then enough to bring tears to my eyes.

I can never make it up to her but I can make sure I never see it happen again

Infant amnesia can be a blessing. Just as long as you eat your mushrooms on command, you'll be alright.

 

[papasmerf]

Infant amnesia can be a blessing. Just as long as you eat your mushrooms on command, you'll be alright.

Just one slap but that made me so sick I realized I could never get that angry again.

Aside from the tears at the time she never suffered from it but I did.

However that did not stop me from being a father and having rules she had to live by.

 

[tboy]

Let me ask you something there smerf, in all sincereity, did your daughter deserve it at the time? Was she totally out of control or did she ever get out of control in her later years?

It is widely known that I don't have kids but have been around many (via family, gf's, etc) and believe me, I've met more than my fair share that had they spoken to me the way they did their mothers? They'd get more than a slap in the ass and I would't shed a tear over it.

My father never laid a hand on us, he didn't have to. My mother did all the beating and as we got older and were able to defend ourselves, my father stepped in and made it perfectly clear that if we ever laid a hand on our mother we'd better hit the road and fast because we'd spend a year in the hospital. (kind of hypocritical now that I think about it that she could hit us with whatever she wanted, or what was at hand yet we couldn't even grab her to stop her....).

I will be honest and tell you: those memories of cowering in a corner while a coat hanger flies is one of the main reasons I don't have much contact with my parents especially my mother. She always asks "why"? and I bite my tongue whenever it comes up.

I remember one conversation she was having with a GF at the time. She was saying how well behaved my brother and I were when we went out to dinner or whatever. Once again I kept my mouth shut (at the time) about how if we spoke out of turn blood would be shed when we got home. This is one of the reasons why I hear about people being arrested for one swat in the ass and just can't fathom it. I can't help but think: holy crap, is that ALL you have to do to go to jail?

If the authorities only knew.....

 

[Guido]

I hear you. We can always call Guido :he:.

Somebody needs my services?

I come from an Italian home and a cazzoto (slap) here and there was common. I wouldn't consider it a beating and looking back it was usually warranted.

Today I have a great respect for my parents and we have always been a very close family. Most Italian families are close and most Italian parents, especially the last generation would let the odd slap or wooden spoon fly.

 

[papasmerf]

Let me ask you something there smerf, in all sincereity, did your daughter deserve it at the time? Was she totally out of control or did she ever get out of control in her later years?

At the time I felt she did but seconds later I realized she never could deserve that.

I was wrong no if ands or buts about it.

 

[Al Bumin]

At the time I felt she did but seconds later I realized she never could deserve that.

I was wrong no if ands or buts about it.

You sound like my Dad :neutral::happy:.