Your moral Barometer.

[Jesus Quintana]

I'm is a situation where I'm left with a question.

I've been pulled into a situation where I can do one of the following:
Do I advise a person to continue with a civil action OR do I inform this person to drop it to protect a family member.
Personally I believe that the person in question is completely in the right and deserves everything he may get in a civil suit, PLUS if I encourage him to proceed I will certainly be called to testify and prove his allegations true. On the other hand - if I protect my family member I get the guilt of protecting a family member and also get to retain what is at best a prickly relationship with family.

I've often been told the "Blood is thicker..." axiom but it's worn pretty thin with me.

So what do you do.

Family or Conscience?

Please note that this would be a CIVIL matter and not a criminal one.

 

[Caesarsalad]

A very tough call SH. The only time that Blood is thicker in when it comes to your parents and brothers. All othe family members do not count.

Good luck.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Conscience wins for me every time.

Your family member most likely knows they were in the wrong. Do they not?

 

[papasmerf]

with the details provided

Only you can decide because only you know the facts of the situation.

Short of your sharing more info any direction you receive here will be incomplete.

 

[Robintheboywonder]

with the details provided

Only you can decide because only you know the facts of the situation.

Short of your sharing more info any direction you receive here will be incomplete.

I agree with PS on this one. We do not have enough detail to make a proper suggestion. To me since it's civil it really depends the seriousness of the situation and frankly how much I like the family member vs the person with a valid complaint.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Conscience wins for me every time.
Your family member most likely knows they were in the wrong. Do they not?

This is where I am leaning.
Does he know he's wrong? Well simply put his attorney told him that it was but he doesn't care.
And Prim0 sadly it is immediate family....

 

[Bubba]

A very tough call SH. The only time that Blood is thicker in when it comes to your parents and brothers. All othe family members do not count.

Good luck.

What salad dressing said.

 

[Stubby]

This is where I am leaning.
Does he know he's wrong? Well simply put his attorney told him that it was but he doesn't care.
And Prim0 sadly it is immediate family....

We need more info....

 

[Chunky]

It's a tough one when it's immediate family, especially when you will more than likely loose the trust of the rest of the family, especially because it is only civil.

It is hard to comment without knowing the gravity of the civil wrong done.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Does anyone here remember the Pierre Trudeau story about a "long walk in the snow"?

Win or lose this is going to set me against my family and conservatively cost me between $9 to $10 million.
Here we go.....

 

[tboy]

Well, I don't personally believe blood is thicker than water BS. If my brother committed a serious crime, and was on the lam, I'd turn him in. It's the right thing to do.....

If the family member is in the wrong, and won't face up to it, so be it. Doesn't matter if you want to testify or not, you could be compelled to via a subpoena anyways....

Now if your family thinks you should go to jail instead of testifying, then that shows you just how much YOU mean to them. As for the value of your possible "loss".....one of the reasons I am not well off is because I will NOT trade off my morals for cash...in other words, I won't rip someone off and I won't lie for monetary gain.

 

[a 1 player]

If you do nothing how will it pan out?

Stand back, let the thing unfold, and do what you are legally entitled to do. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[Madman]

Well, I don't personally believe blood is thicker than water BS. If my brother committed a serious crime, and was on the lam, I'd turn him in. It's the right thing to do.....

If the family member is in the wrong, and won't face up to it, so be it. Doesn't matter if you want to testify or not, you could be compelled to via a subpoena anyways....

Now if your family thinks you should go to jail instead of testifying, then that shows you just how much YOU mean to them. As for the value of your possible "loss".....one of the reasons I am not well off is because I will NOT trade off my morals for cash...in other words, I won't rip someone off and I won't lie for monetary gain.

Tboy, I don't believe there is a successful CEO alive today that can make the claim you just made! :biggrin:

Short-hair, you're in a situation I'm happy to this day I've never been in.

 

[tboy]

Tboy, I don't believe there is a successful CEO alive today that can make the claim you just made! :biggrin:

Short-hair, you're in a situation I'm happy to this day I've never been in.

You forgot to include politicians too......

 

[Madman]

You forgot to include politicians too......

politicians are in a category all by themselves!

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Doing nothing is not an option to me.
If I help then I sleep, if I hinder then I'm in a situation that will eat my soul.
If I do nothing then the problem doesn't go away but I lose my self respect.
Like I mentioned I took my "long walk in the snow", will be disowned and I'll watch the company eventually turned over to a pair of douchebags.
So be it.
I'll sleep.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Tboy, I don't believe there is a successful CEO alive today that can make the claim you just made! :biggrin:

I'm sure there may be one or two who can make the claim. They just aren't held in as high regard as all the other cunts by investors.

 

[jumpingjackflash]

Do what allows you to sleep at night SH, go with your gut!

 

[RAWD]

I don't know what I would do. Honor and integrity mean everything to me, but so does my family. Not sure I could sleep knowing I sold out my family, even if it was the right thing to do.

Maybe you can help the plaintiff build a documentary case against your family. If you know where the bodies are buried, so to speak, maybe you can dodge being called to testify.

 

[kefrm]

If it's a civil suit any way to convince your family member to do the right thing him/her self and try to settle the matter out of court? Confront them tell them you know they are in the wrong, save the family the embarassment of going to court and making whatever was done public knowledge. Talk to the other side, tell them you've persuaded your family member to settle because they were wrong and try to make all happy (somewhat)???