Best places to meet women

[Brad Pitt]

Sillygirl: but the question did ask for the 'best' place. So Brad chose the place least likely to risk rejection. Yeah, a facetious answer, slap me.

OK, best places before bed....
- Online: forget fish and harmony, go for sites with words like gallery and schedule.
- Pet adoption centres: the girl is already in a mood to take something home. Strike while the iron is hot.
- Starbux: lead with how obvious it is that fate brought you together in that place. If challenged by 'we're both getting coffee, moron', reply with some math that includes reference to Pi and which has the implication that it is really very unlikely you two would meet in one of the thousands of starbux' worldwide.
- The pool: it's really just your civic duty to practice your resuscitation techniques.

Blank Dave: stop watching X-Files re-runs. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Like Yoda says, there is no try, just do. Roll with the option you hope it is, and if it turns out you're wrong, remind her you are - after all - a stoopid frakkin male like all males (aka sympathy move).

 

[Blank_Dave]

I declare bullshit. Have you been to a professional photographer? I don't mean one of those bullshit Walmart studios where they have specific poses that they have to take, but one that can really capture your true personality? I'm no professional, but I've taken dozens of 'portrait' shots and to date there has still not been a person who has not looked good, and I'm not talking about Photoshoping the shit out of the picture either. Spend the money, get a good photographer who does the kind of work you like. It is a great investment.

No, I haven't been to a professional, and I would normally consider something like that as frivolous. The last professional shots of me were my university grad photos. Let's just say, we ended up choosing the least crappy. .

If you can't write one, have somebody else write one for you. Tell them what you want to say, and let them reword it. Better yet, check out some mens profiles from far away places, and if you like what they wrote, steal it. It's not like you are writing a college essay here, the idea is to get you a date.

Apart from banging hookers and watching porn, how bad can your hobbies be? One of my friends has 'juggling while riding a unicycle' as a hobby, (true). Beat that.

Well I used to read comics, watch anime, , and , and play MMORPGs (read World of Warcraft)...You know all the fun stuff that screams nerd. Now it's run, ride, work out and practice guitar.

Asking questions is good, but it is not an inquisition. Remember it is also equally important for a woman to get to know YOU.

Well it was more of a joke. While all the other chatters were firing off questions like "favorite position?", "do you do greek", etc, I'm asking about taste in music, what are they studying and how they like it.

One question. Why did you not contact her? Oh, and by the way, fear of being rejected is not a valid answer.

It isn't? How about fear of....Success? Thanks to my social exclusion and , I don't even get off the runway before crashing into the ground and exploding. Certainly, I fear do fear rejection....But WTF do I do if she is interested!!:shock: And how long can I keep up this charade of being a decent person before I let it slip and she can see what kind of douche I really am.

Blank Dave: stop watching X-Files re-runs. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Like Yoda says, there is no try, just do. Roll with the option you hope it is, and if it turns out you're wrong, remind her you are - after all - a stoopid frakkin male like all males (aka sympathy move).

I never watched the X-Files. Freud never wanted to admit he really wanted to suck on a big fat dick. But what does that say about my thought process when I automatically assume that I am only wanted to be used/exploited and not in an enjoyable way.

 

[a 1 player]

It isn't? How about fear of....Success? Thanks to my social exclusion and , I don't even get off the runway before crashing into the ground and exploding. Certainly, I fear do fear rejection....But WTF do I do if she is interested!!:shock: And how long can I keep up this charade of being a decent person before I let it slip and she can see what kind of douche I really am.

Okay Dave, I have tried to give you the tools, and some decent places that have worked out really well for me, but with self pity and this low self esteem, you are pretty well fucked. Sorry bro, but in order to succeed, at the minimum you have to think you at least stand a chance and that you are worthy. Don't know what else to say.

 

[Lone Wolf]

I have not read through the thread, in it's entirety. However, in my experience, the absolute best place to meet a woman, (by orders of magnitude) ....is the wedding of one of her girlfriends.....assuming that the lady is at the wedding solo, and is unmarried....even if she might already have a boyfriend who could not make it to the wedding, for whatever reason, and especially if she doesn't have a current boyfriend...

Other good places include :

museums: especially art museums. Very few single guys go to art museums by themselves. If you have the knowledge, and inclination to become a tour guide,
and you are even remotely smooth, or attractive, you might find that several ladies ask you out, generally under the guise of they are studying a particular work of art, and they would like your opinion...

casting calls for movies or commercials: generally they are 80% very attractive women, more often than not single. There is alot of "down time", waiting around, and they generally are not there to "meet" guys, so it's pretty easy to strike up casual conversation.

If one has children...generally parks, with children's activities, especially zoos.... if you are going as a devoted father, you will attract countless numbers of single mothers. Oftentimes your activities with your children, and you being a devoted father contrast very sharply in the positve for you, relative to what the ladies have gone through with their past significant others, or ex-husbands.

I have offered these suggestions based upon my experiences over many years. I do agree with A1Player, who I have had the pleasure of meeting, and who I am quite fond of, when he stated"

The next thing... I love women. I don't disrespect them, I don't play them, I don't trick them, I don't lie to them. I ALWAYS make my intentions known, this is something I have to do on a personal level or I just can't live with myself. If I can't meet a woman who likes me for being me, I honestly am not interested in pursuing them no matter how they might look..

I also agree with Sillygirl's sentiments to A1's post:

Pay attention, gentlemen. :great:

 

[SillyGirl]

Well I used to read comics, watch anime, ,%20and%20garage kits, and play MMORPGs (read World of Warcraft)...You know all the fun stuff that screams nerd. Now it's run, ride, work out and practice guitar.

Well it's not juggling while riding a unicycle, but those aren't bad hobbies. :great:

Well it was more of a joke. While all the other chatters were firing off questions like "favorite position?", "do you do greek", etc, I'm asking about taste in music, what are they studying and how they like it.

omg, you actually indicated an interest in something non-sexual about her? yea, we hate that. :tongue:

But what does that say about my thought process when I automatically assume that I am only wanted to be used/exploited and not in an enjoyable way.

Probably the same thing it says about mine when I automatically assume a guy is being nice because he wants to get laid. :roll:

If one has children...generally parks, with children's activities, especially zoos.... if you are going as a devoted father, you will attract countless numbers of single mothers. Oftentimes your activities with your children, and you being a devoted father contrast very sharply in the positve for you, relative to what the ladies have gone through with their past significant others, or ex-husbands.

There is something very, very sexy about a man being a great dad.

 

[Danolo]

There is something very, very sexy about a man being a great dad.

A friend of mine, a single guy, used tio take his 3-4 year old nephew to kid's events. He met a LOT of women that way.

I wonder... is there a rent-a-kid service?? Hmmm probably not...

I was at our local Saturday monrning farmer's market today and at the coffee stand I was standing next to a beautiful woman.. we were sort of sharing the cream and sugar and lids...

I looked at her directly and said, I really like your pigtails... She blushed and mumbled something about wearing her hair under a helmet for horse back riding....

I was just about to continue the conversation when her hubby and two kids walked up and took her away...

sigh...

 

[Lone Wolf]

I wonder... is there a rent-a-kid service?? Hmmm probably not...

While not exactly a rent a child, in the US there is: big brothers/big sisters: https://www.bbbs.org/site/c.9iILI3NGKhK6F/b.5962335/k.BE16/Home.htm . Obviously one should join for the right reasons....ie the meeting of women should be a secondary gain . However, in Canada, there may be similar type organizations, a children's home, or orphanage. Perhaps a children's hospital has volunteer type activities.

 

[Danolo]

There is Big Brothers and Big Sisters in Canada as well...

Unfortunately its been polluted by a few pedophiles.

My "rent-a-kid" remark was very tongue in cheek.. I would not exploit the good charities out there...

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Dog Park.
Chicks love dudes with dogs.
Get a real dog because a "Chihuahua" or any toy dog says "FAG"

 

[kefrm]

Dog Park.
Chicks love dudes with dogs.
Get a real dog because a "Chihuahua" or any toy dog says "FAG"

actually a lot of women appreciate seeing a guy with a small dog....tells us that you're confident enough in your masculinity that you don't have to show you're tough by having a pitbull with you.
Nothing says masculine more than a guy with a smaller dog (that said, I hate small yappy dogs)

 

[Blank_Dave]

Okay Dave, I have tried to give you the tools, and some decent places that have worked out really well for me, but with self pity and this low self esteem, you are pretty well fucked. Sorry bro, but in order to succeed, at the minimum you have to think you at least stand a chance and that you are worthy. Don't know what else to say.

I must apologize, A1. Your posts have been quite informative, and I will endeavor to squirrel them away in my tool box for future reference. But like you said, it doesn't matter how good the tools are when the handyman is incompetent.

Well it's not juggling while riding a unicycle, but those aren't bad hobbies. :great:

You mean by before or after hobbies? Notice how most of them tend to be solitary in nature though.

omg, you actually indicated an interest in something non-sexual about her? yea, we hate that. :tongue:

I'm a bastard like that. I don't care if they call themselves escorts, hookers or sluts for pay, they are still people. While I may be a solitary loner by nature, I do find learning about people to be quite interesting. Also it allows me to better scope out the personality and intellect of the lady too. I don't care how hot she is, if she's as dumb as a tent peg, I'm not interested.

Probably the same thing it says about mine when I automatically assume a guy is being nice because he wants to get laid. :roll:

No so, SG, because odds are he does want to have sex with you.

actually a lot of women appreciate seeing a guy with a small dog....tells us that you're confident enough in your masculinity that you don't have to show you're tough by having a pitbull with you.
Nothing says masculine more than a guy with a smaller dog (that said, I hate small yappy dogs)

That's why I like the small working type dogs, like beagles, bassets and schnauzers. Small dogs with attitudes oriented to actually doing stuff besides sitting on their owner's lap and barking.

 

[Blackrock13]

Dog Park.
Chicks love dudes with dogs.
Get a real dog because a "Chihuahua" or any toy dog says "FAG"

Actually a Chihuahua is a very specialized hunting dog with very unique talents. Now, I'm not talking about minis and teacups. I'm not a big fan of Jack Russell's as they never stop, but they can be one of the toughest canines on four legs. As they say, size isn't everything.

 

[SillyGirl]

actually a lot of women appreciate seeing a guy with a small dog....tells us that you're confident enough in your masculinity that you don't have to show you're tough by having a pitbull with you.
Nothing says masculine more than a guy with a smaller dog (that said, I hate small yappy dogs)

+1

 

[a 1 player]

I'm a single young guy and find talking to ladies that I would rate over 8 quite intimidating. I can't explain it but a feeling of anxiety rushes into my body and I usually walk away. At the same time I can see an SP that I would rate a 9.5 and I am fine. It's strange but it's a feeling that is very hard to over come in my case.

Have you thought about why that is? Would you be nervous talking to your cousin if she was stunning? How about a woman you were trying to sell a car to? The thing is this, looks are just that, looks. Nothing more, nothing less. Your feelings of intimidation are probably because you believe that either a) you are not in their league, b) because they are beautiful they should be on a pedestal. The reason you don't have a problem with the hookers is because you know that it is a sure thing. Whether you impress them or not you are getting laid.

Here is an idea... When you see a beautiful woman, talk to her like you would your beer drinking buddy. I mean cut the bullshit, and just treat her as if she had a dick. Fuck the looks, get to know the person. I know this can be a hard thing to do, but work with me here. Despite what many may think, my experience tells me that women are not nearly as shallow as we men make them out to be. Jeezus, you don't think they know we want to sleep with them? In their own self interest, wouldn't they be better off with someone who respected them for who they are instead of just what they look like? Have not the battles of women been about, equality, promotion based on merit, equal opportunity, and anti-discrimination, especially that of the sexual nature? Would they not be seeking a man who has those same beliefs? Now I'm not saying for one second that when a man stutters in front of a pretty woman that her believes the above, but it might well just give the impression that he does.

Perhaps this is where the confidence show up with respect to women. With a confident man it shows that the is more interested in the brains than the beauty, that he wants to get to know the person, not just the body, (in most circumstances, and like I said before about making ones intentions known).

Of course this is just my opinion yet again, and of course I am no professional.

It would be really, really nice right now if a woman or ten stepped in and clarified this shit, I could be way the fuck off base here.

 

[SillyGirl]

Here is an idea... When you see a beautiful woman, talk to her like you would your beer drinking buddy. I mean cut the bullshit, and just treat her as if she had a dick. Fuck the looks, get to know the person. I know this can be a hard thing to do, but work with me here. Despite what many may think, my experience tells me that women are not nearly as shallow as we men make them out to be. Jeezus, you don't think they know we want to sleep with them? In their own self interest, wouldn't they be better off with someone who respected them for who they are instead of just what they look like? Have not the battles of women been about, equality, promotion based on merit, equal opportunity, and anti-discrimination, especially that of the sexual nature? Would they not be seeking a man who has those same beliefs? Now I'm not saying for one second that when a man stutters in front of a pretty woman that her believes the above, but it might well just give the impression that he does.

I don't read that much into it when a guy is intimidated by me.

Smooth...you should know that most women don't think they're as pretty as you do. The most beautiful women on the planet still stand in front of the mirror and beat themselves up for every microscopic flaw.

A1 does make a good point...when you're talking to a beautiful woman, find something to talk about besides what she looks like. She's used to hearing that she's pretty, and you'll make much more of an impression if you notice something else about her.

 

[kefrm]

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Here is an idea... When you see a beautiful woman, talk to her like you would your beer drinking buddy. I mean cut the bullshit, and just treat her as if she had a dick. Fuck the looks, get to know the person. I know this can be a hard thing to do, but work with me here. Despite what many may think, my experience tells me that women are not nearly as shallow as we men make them out to be. Jeezus, you don't think they know we want to sleep with them? In their own self interest, wouldn't they be better off with someone who respected them for who they are instead of just what they look like? Have not the battles of women been about, equality, promotion based on merit, equal opportunity, and anti-discrimination, especially that of the sexual nature? Would they not be seeking a man who has those same beliefs? Now I'm not saying for one second that when a man stutters in front of a pretty woman that her believes the above, but it might well just give the impression that he does.

yes....we want to be with someone we enjoy being with, someone we can talk to. That's probably why women often end up having crushes on male friends. They're someone whose company we already enjoy.
If you treat a woman like one of the guys the conversation will be more natural...not grilling her with questions making her feel uncomfortable and not going on and on about yourself trying to sell yourself to her until she's bored to death.

just my 2 cents worth.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Hmmm I'm not sure ignoring that they are beautiful will always work out. It is good to get the woman's attention by showing her that you're not really hung up on how attractive she is or isn't.... but I'd think she still needs to know that you find her attractive lookswise. She works hard to keep her appearance that way and it does show that she respects her body enough to do so.
Confidence in a man is very appealing. Mostly because nobody, female or male, wants to be around someone who is ALWAYS self-deprecating...it makes them feel inadequate. But I'm not sure I understand how it is supposed to be obvious that a confident man is more interested in knowing the entire person over just the body :???:

 

[Lone Wolf]

Smooth...you should know that most women don't think they're as pretty as you do. The most beautiful women on the planet still stand in front of the mirror and beat themselves up for every microscopic flaw.

Very true!

 

[Stubby]

Bump.

I am having fun here .

Looking what to bump next :intello:.

 

[Esco!]

The Indigo book store (Bay & Bloor) is quite the pickup spot