blurred Lines regarding our industry and human trafficking

[jeg]

Love the idea of license, unfortunately that can't happen right now because it isn't a legal business. that's not entirely true; its half way legal, my end, the business end is legal, and taxable, and its very easy to run it "as a business", and any ladies who would want help figuring out how to do that should contact me, its so easy, also, city licences already exist, provincial would just make things a lot easier.

I totally agree that the government should focus on street prostitution, it is a different world for the most part.

I believe one way to target the trafficked women is by making it a licensed business for each individual woman. Impose stiff fines for those who do not comply, this would be the cities jurisdiction. I see a problem with that, many women do not want their name being recorded as a prostitute, nor do they want the CRA sniffin their asses.[/QUOTE]
i absolutely agree with the first part, however, i dont think it should be recorded as "prostitute", "adult service provider" is the more likely term, and honestly, as an adult service provider myself, i have zero shame associated to what i do for a living.

that's something we all have to find a way to deal with (the stigma), but my personal philosophy is this;

"God created me perfectly, and i am who i am supposed to be, this is what i am good at, what i am drawn to, and what i have spent almost half my life doing one way or another. i accept and love myself for who i am, and i am grateful for the interactions i have with the people i meet, i don't believe in coincidence, the people we come in contact with, are put in our paths for a reason, we all have our chances to be angels, to give grace, kindness, benevolence, to uplift, and to encourage, and i try to take those opportunities whenever i can, because its really good karma. i do what i do with pride, integrity and honor, and because of that, i feel no shame in what i do."

once you can get to that Zen point of self acceptance, you know who you are, and others negative opinions about your lifestyle don't matter very much.

if you are in this industry, either its a huge secret, or no secret at all.

and for those who are keeping it this huge secret, they are opening the door for extortion, blackmail, there are those who will make a point in figuring out who you are and they will try to extort you (been there, had that happen) and half the time, due to technology, you wont even know who's behind it
so then you have a choice, do i give in to fear and start paying these people to keep it a secret? in my case, i was told my name, my ex husbands name, where he worked, where we lived and where my kids went to school.
they wanted $1000/week, or everyone would know.
the stress was unreal, the tight feeling in your chest of panic setting in....i cant even begin to describe what an awful feeling it was

within 24 hours, anyone who was important to me knew what i was doing for a living
on MY terms
and you know what? my family not only still loves me, but they have grown to respect what im doing with my life.
those who couldnt handle it, didnt matter as much as i thought they would.

not long after, they contacted me again, threatening to send my info to the CRA for tax evasion.

the next day, i hired an accountant, obtained a GST#, and started claiming my income.
for the last 3 years, i have reported my income, and i have 3 years worth of tax returns now as a sole proprietor small business owner, and if you have a good accountant, its really not hard to keep your net income a lot lower than your gross, because we have a lot of deductible expenses.

so thanks to my psycho would be extortionist, i was forced to out myself and learn how to run my business as a business.
and you know what? i dont mind.
sometimes, a house must be burt before you rebuild a nice new one.

paying taxes isnt really that hard or scary, honest to god.

so you are saying that it is legal to purchase sex?

I hear you about people knowing. When I brought my wife home to meet my parents withe her two friends. My wife knew wanna dance, Hi, what's your name and every currency value in $20.
To put it in a generalization, my mom is British, yeah you know the kind.
Fast forward 29 years. My dad passes and my brother says to my wife that my father LOVED her, my response ti him was that I believed her loved her the most, yes even more than his children.

 

[cristycurves]

so you are saying that it is legal to purchase sex?

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I didn't get that from her post, that she is saying sex is legal to purchase, but I shouldn't speak for anyone else. It is legal, to an extent, for providers to sell sex, it is ILLEGAL in every way, to purchase it. The laws are pretty skewed, as we can​ be charged if we advertise "knowingly" sex for consideration. SO, I'm not sure how they think we can sell something we can't advertise "knowingly" or sell in public, but our government never has been easy to understand, lol.
More about the laws as they stand https://www.theglobeandmail.com/new...-everything-you-need-to-know/article19610318/

 

[Madman]

I didn't get that from her post, that she is saying sex is legal to purchase, but I shouldn't speak for anyone else. It is legal, to an extent, for providers to sell sex, it is ILLEGAL in every way, to purchase it. The laws are pretty skewed, as we can​ be charged if we advertise "knowingly" sex for consideration. SO, I'm not sure how they think we can sell something we can't advertise "knowingly" or sell in public, but our government never has been easy to understand, lol.
More about the laws as they stand https://www.theglobeandmail.com/new...-everything-you-need-to-know/article19610318/

I'm very disappointed in how slow the Justin Liberal party is moving on this when they kept mentioning striking BillC36 off the books.

 

[jeg]

I didn't get that from her post, that she is saying sex is legal to purchase, but I shouldn't speak for anyone else. It is legal, to an extent, for providers to sell sex, it is ILLEGAL in every way, to purchase it. The laws are pretty skewed, as we can​ be charged if we advertise "knowingly" sex for consideration. SO, I'm not sure how they think we can sell something we can't advertise "knowingly" or sell in public, but our government never has been easy to understand, lol.
More about the laws as they stand https://www.theglobeandmail.com/new...-everything-you-need-to-know/article19610318/

Yes, BUT she did respond to my assertion that the business is illegal. LOL, you can sell it but it is illegal to buy. I stated that the only thing the government did was de-criminalize prostitution and only in regards to the ladies. Everything else is on the books and then some. It is hardly a solution but many countries are opting for this route as the other infringes on rights. Too many people associate the act with prostitution negatively.
The reality is that there is no way to stop it.

I'm not trying to beat down on her, her posts speak volumes.

 

[jeg]

Yes, BUT she did respond to my assertion that the business is illegal. LOL, you can sell it but it is illegal to buy. I stated that the only thing the government did was de-criminalize prostitution and only in regards to the ladies. Everything else is on the books and then some. It is hardly a solution but many countries are opting for this route as the other infringes on rights. Too many people associate the act with prostitution negatively.
The reality is that there is no way to stop it.

Don't hold your breath, the liberals are known for not living up to their promises.
How many new laws and new programs are associated with the liberal that doesn't suck money out of our pockets, it is not their style.

 

[cristycurves]

@Jpeg, I know you aren't trying to beat her down, her posts are insightful and valued, as are yours Thank you to you both