JessieJames
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- Dec 31, 2013
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I just cut off a regular I've been seeing for almost a year now, am I wrong?
I started seeing this particular independent in Feb. 2016. It began with 3 full paid 2 hour sessions so rightly so she considered me a regular. On the fourth session, as I was getting dressed to leave she inquired what I had planned for the rest of the day which I replied I was just going to grab a bite and head home. She asked if she could join me because she was starving and of course I was happy for the company. I paid for the meal and drinks and we went our separate ways. This continued for a year, occasionally catching dinner, going to a movie but it was understood I always paid for the 2 hour sessions at the full rate which worked for me. To also note, these outings were not always at my request, more so than not it was the young ladies idea.
The 2 hour sessions were a 2X a month ritual with a net gain of $1200.00 in compensation.
This brings me to about 3 weeks ago, I happen to ask at the end of our session if she was hungry I was going to a very nice restaurant if she was free to join me. This was my answer
"I'd love to but from now on if you don't mind, maybe you can pay me half of the hourly rate for the outside time" .
This floored me and I surely stood in her presence like a deer caught in the headlights. Once I gathered my thoughts I turned to her and said, no thank you and maybe it's best we end this relationship here and now. She was visibly upset and said she still hoped I would at least see her for our regular sessions which I of course told her, we are done, have a good life and left.
The only reason I lasted a year as her regular was the personal touch, once that was done, in my eyes we were done. It won't change my feelings if most of you believe she was correct but I'm curious what most would have done as well from hearing from the providers side?
I started seeing this particular independent in Feb. 2016. It began with 3 full paid 2 hour sessions so rightly so she considered me a regular. On the fourth session, as I was getting dressed to leave she inquired what I had planned for the rest of the day which I replied I was just going to grab a bite and head home. She asked if she could join me because she was starving and of course I was happy for the company. I paid for the meal and drinks and we went our separate ways. This continued for a year, occasionally catching dinner, going to a movie but it was understood I always paid for the 2 hour sessions at the full rate which worked for me. To also note, these outings were not always at my request, more so than not it was the young ladies idea.
The 2 hour sessions were a 2X a month ritual with a net gain of $1200.00 in compensation.
This brings me to about 3 weeks ago, I happen to ask at the end of our session if she was hungry I was going to a very nice restaurant if she was free to join me. This was my answer
"I'd love to but from now on if you don't mind, maybe you can pay me half of the hourly rate for the outside time" .
This floored me and I surely stood in her presence like a deer caught in the headlights. Once I gathered my thoughts I turned to her and said, no thank you and maybe it's best we end this relationship here and now. She was visibly upset and said she still hoped I would at least see her for our regular sessions which I of course told her, we are done, have a good life and left.
The only reason I lasted a year as her regular was the personal touch, once that was done, in my eyes we were done. It won't change my feelings if most of you believe she was correct but I'm curious what most would have done as well from hearing from the providers side?
