Die with dignity

[Greeter]

What the hell is that supposed to mean anyway? "Die with dignity".... most people shit themselves at the moment of death... the rest are pissing themselves.... all kinds of bodily goo leaks out.... and you're generally not in a good way that you'd want anyone seeing you in..... so how the hell are you supposed to "die with dignity"?


I submit that there is no such thing.

 

[Snail]

Isn't that phrase used for soldiers only?.

 

[papasmerf]

It means you came into this world kicking and screaming.

Face death with a better attitude then you came into life with.

 

[DannyDeVito]

I plan to.

With at least 2 babes on my bed.

 

[Anto]

 

[SiNbaD]

It means you don't bitch and complain what curves life brought you upon. Take it like a man.

 

[User-E]

It must take a strong stomach to be a mortician.

 

[papasmerf]

It must take a strong stomach to be a mortician.

for the most part it is a family business.

Few go into it cold.

 

[oldguyzer]

for the most part it is a family business.

Few go into it cold.

I'm going to assume you meant the double entedre there, papa.

To die with dignity means going on your own terms, in possession of your bodily functions as much as possible. I do not want to die having been treated like an infant for the past X years by nurses and relatives. When I'm close to that point, I go when I want, on my terms, on my timetable. And not after.

Having seen people go with dignity and totally without it, I assume the former is the better. For all concerned.

 

[papasmerf]

 

[Louis XIV]

I think a lot of people who have been used to being completely independent and self-sufficient are completely humiliated and destroyed when suddenly they become sick or incapacitated and can no longer care for themselves in even the most basic ways such as eating, bathing, dressing, or 'wiping'. Many would prefer to die when they can do so without giving up that degree of self-sufficiency. We work all our lives to be independent and our personal pride grows with each evolutionary accomplishment, only to forfeit that against our will as old age advances and death approaches.

I'd rather be allowed to end things my own way, at a time of my choosing, than to become a tragic burden to others, and nothing but a vague shadow of my former self.

 

[papasmerf]

In the past several years I have been hospitalized twice and both times death was not too far from my hospital bed.

I never became bitter or self pitying because as I told the staff I lived on my own terms and would be damned if I go out the way I came in.

We are all born naked and afraid. We are thrust into a world foreign to us and yanked from the only security we have ever known.

I have seen more than my share of people die in my lifetime. Including my parents who died in Hospice.

A bit about me. I have been pronounced dead twice, once as an infant and once as a teen. So death and I are old friends.
I perhaps better than most know his embrace and still resist it.

Now back to the last couple of times...... As I told the staff, when my time comes I will face death alone. No bargaining, no crying or regrets. I have lived on my own terms and will die on my own terms......Much like the way I came into this world.....Alone but not afraid....The naked part is yet to be determined.

You see as in Birth we do alone face Death.

Don't live your life with regrets.

Never accept that you must die but rather accept it when the time comes.

 

[Wanker]

Louis and Papa /-Thumbs-up::/

 

[Danolo]

Well, the subject hits home...

Ten days ago, my step son died. He had been battling cancer for several weeks and we knew it was just a matter of time.

He was a good guy, solid and stable, raised two beautiful successful daughters, and left his affairs in good order.

His mother, my wife, handled it all pretty well, until the day of the funeral, when we went in to see his body lying in the casket. There was NO dignity there... His skin was a pale shade of green and he looked terrible. The fucking funeral directors made his daughters and mother go through this whole ceremony of viewing and visitation and a "closing the casket" ceremony. It was just wretched. The casket should have been closed.

I will not be having a funeral. I have made instructions to my family that when I go, the body is to be harvested for organs and then disposed of the fastest and cheapest way possible. My wife feels the same.

This funeral was just an excuse for the morticians to make money.

If you want to have a ceremony to celebrate my passing, fine, go ahead, but leave my tired old body out of it.

 

[papasmerf]

Sorry for your loss

Your step-son sounds to be a man you respected.

 

[SillyGirl]

I'm sorry for your loss, Danolo. It seems so very wrong for a parent to have to bury a child. :BigHug:

 

[papasmerf]

I'm sorry for your loss, Danolo. It seems so very wrong for a parent to have to bury a child. :BigHug:

it is ass backwards...............We are to outlive our children.
With that said we must take away from their death the love and hope they gave us.

 

[WhiteLion]

Well, the subject hits home...

Ten days ago, my step son died. He had been battling cancer for several weeks and we knew it was just a matter of time.

He was a good guy, solid and stable, raised two beautiful successful daughters, and left his affairs in good order.

His mother, my wife, handled it all pretty well, until the day of the funeral, when we went in to see his body lying in the casket. There was NO dignity there... His skin was a pale shade of green and he looked terrible. The fucking funeral directors made his daughters and mother go through this whole ceremony of viewing and visitation and a "closing the casket" ceremony. It was just wretched. The casket should have been closed.

I will not be having a funeral. I have made instructions to my family that when I go, the body is to be harvested for organs and then disposed of the fastest and cheapest way possible. My wife feels the same.

This funeral was just an excuse for the morticians to make money.

If you want to have a ceremony to celebrate my passing, fine, go ahead, but leave my tired old body out of it.

Condolences Danolo.

 

[oldguyzer]

it is ass backwards...............We are to be a pain to our children.

Fixed your post for you. :biggrin2:

 

[oldguyzer]

Well, the subject hits home...

Ten days ago, my step son died. He had been battling cancer for several weeks and we knew it was just a matter of time.

He was a good guy, solid and stable, raised two beautiful successful daughters, and left his affairs in good order.

His mother, my wife, handled it all pretty well, until the day of the funeral, when we went in to see his body lying in the casket. There was NO dignity there... His skin was a pale shade of green and he looked terrible. The fucking funeral directors made his daughters and mother go through this whole ceremony of viewing and visitation and a "closing the casket" ceremony. It was just wretched. The casket should have been closed.

I will not be having a funeral. I have made instructions to my family that when I go, the body is to be harvested for organs and then disposed of the fastest and cheapest way possible. My wife feels the same.

This funeral was just an excuse for the morticians to make money.

If you want to have a ceremony to celebrate my passing, fine, go ahead, but leave my tired old body out of it.

Very sorry to hear about your step son. It is always a tragedy, especially from such a disease as cancer. As an ex-oncologist, I've seen many tragic deaths, including some loved ones, and it is never fair nor gets acceptable.

When my father died, I had a hell of a time shutting the funeral director up about what's right for him. Open casket, big memorial ceremony? Bullshit! That's so the funeral director can make money. My dad wanted to just disappear on death, with no fuss except those who loved him remembering him (which I do every day) and I made that happen.

I admire your resolve about your wishes to donate your organs. I have carried an organ donor card since they first came out. I won't be needing them, so all my organs or my body are to be used as needed, including being cut up by some hack first year medical student who might actually learn something from me (despite years of teaching at a University!). I wish more people would do exactly what you are doing. Kudos, and best wishes.