DISTRAUGHT AND ALONE

[thesun]

We joined together and I haven't really participated. Brent was hellbent on learning about the industry but now I know it was more about feeding his lust and indiscretions.

An infraction, very interesting to say the least. Let us protect the adultery and not the victim, how poetic and fair.

Baz, this is how I will refer to you from now on because you deserve to be referred to as a fictional character.

Sorry Baz, if you keep information hidden from Ida, you are definitely cheating. It doesn't have to be physically. It can be emotionally too. If you are just curious, then why didn't you share it with your wife? She seems to be supportive of your involvement with this board. Actually she seems hesitant about it but it seems she was ok with it as long as you are honest about it.

Sillygirl has a point, you have to make a choice: is being curious and making Ida feel uncomfortable more important than your marriage? Some marriages are flexible. Some are not. It is between 2 people and their choices and no one else's business. If you cannot fully respect each other's feelings or choices, then the marriage is inevitably done; now if but when.

Meanwhile, I just think it is wrong to sneak into other people's emails/letters.

 

[5Startastetester]

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[ida]

I can see most here agree Brent is an asshole pretending to be a sweet man.

He prefers to join the johns who prefer to pay for play as opposed to romance and sweep a woman off her feet.

How many of these men after paying for play still know how to have a caring relationship Baz, have you asked yourself this in your yearning for knowledge?

You are doomed to be alone, saving your pennies hoping to pay for the next big thing who really just wants your money. Enjoy the rest of your life and stop calling me!

 

[User-E]

I can see most here agree Brent is an asshole pretending to be a sweet man.

He prefers to join the johns who prefer to pay for play as opposed to romance and sweep a woman off her feet.

How many of these men after paying for play still know how to have a caring relationship Baz, have you asked yourself this in your yearning for knowledge?

You are doomed to be alone, saving your pennies hoping to pay for the next big thing who really just wants your money. Enjoy the rest of your life and stop calling me!

I find it really odd that you continue to air your dirty laundry on an escort review board.

 

[Ms.MelodyMerlot]

Men are leaders. Men understand sacrifice and comittment.

Women only understand themselves. A woman's first thought is of herself.

A woman will always leave if she thinks she can 'do better' in the near future - called 'trading up'. Men will stay out of a sense of loyalty.

When I said takers, I don't just mean financially. They take in every way possible.

WOW! what a thing to preach like its truth! you know, my mom always told me the people i attract in life will reflect the sort of person i am.
at different points in life, we attract different sorts of people.


that being said, op, im so sorry to hear about this, i went through a divorce 2 years ago, its not easy.
the first 6 months was hell, emotional roller coaster of extremes, extreme elation, extreme anger.....i found binging on Game of Thrones therapeutic, except then i start envisioning his head on a stake, it seemed quite reasonable at the time, lol.
it doesnt sound like there are kids involved, so be grateful for that, seeing your ex all the time kinda made getting over the relationship harder.

eventually you will begin to appreciate your new routines, you will find enjoyment in picking furniture YOU want, eating what YOU want, and not having to answer to anyone.
and you can go on whatever adventures you want now, and meet new people on the way, and eventually you will realize you haven't thought of her in months.

big hugs, mel

*** after reading other replies i realize Ida is here too, so ....i suppose that pep talk goes for you both, please no one chop anyone's head off....as satisfying as it may sound it is very illegal.
best of luck to you both......***

 

[MisterAsianLover]

I find it really odd that you continue to air your dirty laundry on an escort review board.

Its because this is a troll post. The thread is a troll thread. It is not based on truth.

So easy to see.

 

[Tourist]

Its because this is a troll post. The thread is a troll thread. It is not based on truth.

So easy to see.

There is an old saying, "It takes one to know one.", would that be applicable here??

 

[Baz]

I find it really odd that you continue to air your dirty laundry on an escort review board.

Ida has gone completely off the deep end. I'm sorry she is burdening you with our dirty laundry.

 

[Baz]

WOW! what a thing to preach like its truth! you know, my mom always told me the people i attract in life will reflect the sort of person i am.
at different points in life, we attract different sorts of people.


that being said, op, im so sorry to hear about this, i went through a divorce 2 years ago, its not easy.
the first 6 months was hell, emotional roller coaster of extremes, extreme elation, extreme anger.....i found binging on Game of Thrones therapeutic, except then i start envisioning his head on a stake, it seemed quite reasonable at the time, lol.
it doesnt sound like there are kids involved, so be grateful for that, seeing your ex all the time kinda made getting over the relationship harder.

eventually you will begin to appreciate your new routines, you will find enjoyment in picking furniture YOU want, eating what YOU want, and not having to answer to anyone.
and you can go on whatever adventures you want now, and meet new people on the way, and eventually you will realize you haven't thought of her in months.

big hugs, mel

*** after reading other replies i realize Ida is here too, so ....i suppose that pep talk goes for you both, please no one chop anyone's head off....as satisfying as it may sound it is very illegal.
best of luck to you both......***

Thank you.

 

[Baz]

Its because this is a troll post. The thread is a troll thread. It is not based on truth.

So easy to see.

Really Mr. AsianSPIN your opinion into trolling for responses. You realize how maddening it is to belittle the women who frequent this type of forum yet your insistence on berating and verbally abusing the ladies is appalling and the act of a degenerate. The word Troll should be listed in the dictionary under MisterAsianLover.

 

[Baz]

As of today I announce I'm done. I've tried and it's over. Ida, you have poked the bear enough and now you have your wish. This is the last post in this thread by me and the only correspondence from me to you madam will be through my solicitor.

I bid adieu to you and I hope one day you shall find peace.

 

[thesun]

As of today I announce I'm done. I've tried and it's over. Ida, you have poked the bear enough and now you have your wish. This is the last post in this thread by me and the only correspondence from me to you madam will be through my solicitor.

I bid adieu to you and I hope one day you shall find peace.

That is your anger talking. Wait it out and you may have a different approach.

 

[peace]

I hope one day you shall find peace.

I am here. Are you still looking for me?:wink2:

 

[Madman]

Baz, Ida where are you?

What's going on, inquiring minds would like to know:don'twantto-see:/

 

[Wanker]

Baz, Ida where are you?

What's going on, inquiring minds would like to know:don'twantto-see:/

Easy there, I ran out of popcorn.

E

 

[ida]

Baz, Ida where are you?

What's going on, inquiring minds would like to know:don'twantto-see:/

So you take joy in other people's misery, how classy.

Then again you're a man, probably also a cheating useless one at that.

I'm surprised Baz hasn't been posting but also not surprised he has changed his password.

Probably so I don't see all the pm's he's sending now that he lives all alone.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

So you take joy in other people's misery, how classy. Then again you're a man, probably also a cheating useless one at that. I'm surprised Baz hasn't been posting but also not surprised he has changed his password. Probably so I don't see all the pm's he's sending now that he lives all alone.

So now you are going to just grind away at him now huh?....Very classy yourself.

 

[Ms.MelodyMerlot]

why are you still you on here? you caught him...so...not to be rude or anything....but...what are you still doing here?

divorce is NOT fun or easy, i can understand if you have no one else to talk to or something, but there are better forums for that sort of thing...

or are you just here to watch? in which case that's kinda creepy and also kinda unhealthy (for your mental health)

So you take joy in other people's misery, how classy.

Then again you're a man, probably also a cheating useless one at that.

I'm surprised Baz hasn't been posting but also not surprised he has changed his password.

Probably so I don't see all the pm's he's sending now that he lives all alone.

 

[User-E]

I am posting this in the Lobby because by no means is this meant to be a review. This was a research and discovery mission conducted by myself with the approval and support of a very understanding wife. I could not express the gratitude I have for my lovely wife Ida, I’m truly blessed.

We've been in deep discussion over the last several weeks. When I initially proposed my idea my wife quickly shut me down. Through communication, revealing to her the scope of my intentions Ida finally capitulated and allowed me to go through with my plan in an attempt to understand the lure of pay for play. I believe much of this community’s displeasure in my posts arise from being looked upon as an outsider. I also wanted to understand on a personal level why so many are bitten by this bug and are seemingly addicted to the euphoria achieved from being with many different sexual partners.

There is a spa near our home and this is where my quest for knowledge begins.. I won’t mention the spa or the attendant but I expressed to Ida that I would like to enter the spa, choose an attended and proceed to a room where I would receive a massage only. No nudity, no touching of sexual parts but strictly a back massage for 30 minutes and an opportunity to discuss the “hobby” with a lady on a personal level. I was also very curious to see if I myself had the will power and self control to resist any advances. I have always been confident I do but to be actually put to the test in the field is an entirely different proposition.

Upon entering the establishment I was approached by a young lady. I was then introduced to several attractive young women. I chose one that seemed very friendly and I was escorted to the room, handed a towel and instructed to shower. I was asked for $40 and left to freshen up. I did not shower because I had done prior to arriving. I disrobed into my briefs only, laid face down on the bed and placed the towel on myself only exposing my back as this is what I had promised my lovely wife I would do.

I waited approximately 10 minutes for the arrival of the attendant. She walked in carrying some towels. Placed the towels down and commenced massaging my back with gentle light strokes, not really the type of massage I’m used to receiving from a professional. She asked me what type of session I was looking for and it was evident she was taken aback when I stated only a massage on my back and to please keep all her clothing on. I quickly saw her demeanor changing and so I began by asking why she appeared to be upset. She expressed her dismay at not being compensated for the type of session I chose. I was surprised to learn that the attendant does not receive any money from the door fee. I reassured her I would happily give her $50 for some good conversation and a decent back massage. This quickly cheered her up she continued to caress my back. She attempted on several occasions to seduce me by slipping her hand into the towel and offering me to touch her body which on all occasions I refused and restated my service requirements.

I learned she is doing what she does by choice and enjoys the extra money as opposed to working for minimum wage. Her words not mine. I also realized why so many of you are drawn to this mode of self gratification. It’s simple provided one has several hundred dollars in their pocket. I see how one can lose their self control especially if they do not have a significant other or live in a marriage where the love has diminished.

The young lady was warm hearted, well spoken and I’m sure once she completes her education she will land a much more satisfying career. She did promise me that was her goal and this was a temporary career choice, this claim warmed my heart. She also disclosed to me the differences in many of the clients are night and day. Some gentlemen are understanding and generous while others are demanding and very cheap, again her words not mine.

Perhaps now when I make suggestions it will come from a point of little more understanding on my part.

Hmmmmmm

 

[Madman]

So you take joy in other people's misery, how classy.

Then again you're a man, probably also a cheating useless one at that.

I'm surprised Baz hasn't been posting but also not surprised he has changed his password.

Probably so I don't see all the pm's he's sending now that he lives all alone.

I'm sorry Ida, I meant no harm and if you need someone to talk to over a coffee just let me know.