Do you compartmentalize sex? Perhaps this is a redundant question for a forum such as this, but as a woman and one who has had to consiously do so on a professional level but finds doing so generally a challenging prospect, I am curious about how people deal with this issue.... And if you do so, what does that say about you from a psychological perspective? Maybe nothing... maybe that is the appropriate approach, and I and women like me are empathetic freaks suffering love addiction or maybe there is an innately incongruous biological sexual construct that steers men and women towards utterly different goals? What I am really asking is why can't I be allowed to be both the Madonna and the whore? Why can't I find love and be the filthy dirty slut I long to be... is that too much to ask? Struggling...pondering.... horny tonight....
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I am a man. I compartmentalize everything but sex. Sex is the end game. Everything else is the ways and means to sex.
It is both concious and unconcious, sex is always on the surface or just below the surface of my conciousness. My greatest fear as I age is losing the abillty to perform and enjoy sex.
Sexually remorsless? I wish I was, even men have empathy, I want to share your joy, not your pain.
Madonna? Whore? Frankly?" Rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints" And damn. I love me a dirty a little slut.
Sorry, the whiskey makes me ramble some, what I mean to say is "I like sex". What was the question again?
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I used to be horrible at compartmentalizing. It's gotten me more than my fair share of emotional pain. These days, i'm getting better and am actually having more fun. So yes, it's possible.
Most married men who use the services of an escort compartmentalize sex. They see the professional for the sex but go home to their wives for the emotional aspect of the relationship so why the hell not can't you have both. Perhaps look into finding a relationship with a client this way he knows what you do and will be fine with it.
PS... can I lick it, please.
PS... can I lick it, please.
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cristycurves
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You are a deep person
One who is obviously also, very intelligent, thank you for such an interesting post. I'll ask you though, why can't you be the Madonna and slut? I believe anyone is capable of living just as they choose, regardless of set laws,emotional boundaries, expected moral codes, etc. Obviously there are more challenges to certain lifestyles and choices we make, but regardless, we all get to chose how we live and love. I also think that men and women are more alike sexually than they are dissimilar. Certainly it is possible for most to separate love from sex, I think even those in love do it, yet to have no emotion attached to a sexual encounter, to feel nothing for the person you are having sex would be abnormal and of sociopathic tendencies,imo.
Compartmentalizing may be easier for some than others and it may be necessity for some. I couldn't do it, that is why I've chosen this (escorting) as my lifestyle, not as work. This way I don't hold back my feelings within a sexual encounter, enabling me to be genuine and in the moment with whomever I choose to have sex with. Although perhaps I've other issues, since loving a person is, so it seems not something I'm capable of, loving in the sense of a man/woman relationship, that is. Alas, we've all issues we deal with, things we'd like to change and thoughts we think on more than others. Sex however seems to be one of the more complicated aspects of being a human being. Since it is the strongest motivating force in most of our lives. It can cause intense pleasure and fulfillment and considerable pain and suffering. It truly rules how we react and respond to most everything we do.
Here is a link to an interesting post about compartmentalizing sex-https://www.healthyplace.com/sex/articles/psychology-of-compartmentalizing-sex/
One who is obviously also, very intelligent, thank you for such an interesting post. I'll ask you though, why can't you be the Madonna and slut? I believe anyone is capable of living just as they choose, regardless of set laws,emotional boundaries, expected moral codes, etc. Obviously there are more challenges to certain lifestyles and choices we make, but regardless, we all get to chose how we live and love. I also think that men and women are more alike sexually than they are dissimilar. Certainly it is possible for most to separate love from sex, I think even those in love do it, yet to have no emotion attached to a sexual encounter, to feel nothing for the person you are having sex would be abnormal and of sociopathic tendencies,imo.Compartmentalizing may be easier for some than others and it may be necessity for some. I couldn't do it, that is why I've chosen this (escorting) as my lifestyle, not as work. This way I don't hold back my feelings within a sexual encounter, enabling me to be genuine and in the moment with whomever I choose to have sex with. Although perhaps I've other issues, since loving a person is, so it seems not something I'm capable of, loving in the sense of a man/woman relationship, that is. Alas, we've all issues we deal with, things we'd like to change and thoughts we think on more than others. Sex however seems to be one of the more complicated aspects of being a human being. Since it is the strongest motivating force in most of our lives. It can cause intense pleasure and fulfillment and considerable pain and suffering. It truly rules how we react and respond to most everything we do.
Here is a link to an interesting post about compartmentalizing sex-https://www.healthyplace.com/sex/articles/psychology-of-compartmentalizing-sex/
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Compartmentalization, justification or rationalization are just all part of being human.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Be who you are.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Be who you are.
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Like my friend @ERecTile, I was in the same mode.
I often confused physical sex with love. It damaged my already damaged mind. It got me in to a lot of situations I could have avoided. It deflated my wallet. It deflated my self worth.
I make no bones about who I am these days, to my friends especially. It's distanced some but has shown me who is a true supporter.
I have fun with a lot of ladies who I consider "friends". I have no issue with cutting anyone loose who is of nefarious character.
Seeing SP's is like dating in reverse. You have sex and THEN you get to know them.
I often confused physical sex with love. It damaged my already damaged mind. It got me in to a lot of situations I could have avoided. It deflated my wallet. It deflated my self worth.
I make no bones about who I am these days, to my friends especially. It's distanced some but has shown me who is a true supporter.
I have fun with a lot of ladies who I consider "friends". I have no issue with cutting anyone loose who is of nefarious character.
Seeing SP's is like dating in reverse. You have sex and THEN you get to know them.
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ERecTile
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That's probably one of the best lines you've written Fuggie! So true!
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