For the men that hobby - change your phone passwords or use a hobby phone

[JustRiley]

please please change your passwords on your phones regularly or use a hobby phone and make sure its somewhere. your S/o can not find it

I just got a very interesting email.

 

[Stuff]

Thanks for caring. Now tell us about that email.

 

[Waxed]

How can an SO know one's password?.

 

[Prick]

Spill it, Riley.

 

[Jessica Rain]

Ya I would love to know the full story because as I said on the other board, none of this makes sense to me.

Why would you engage with the woman and talk and tell her how to spice up her sex life? I am really curious. It is just so opposite to what I would do.

 

[HOOKED]

please please change your passwords on your phones regularly or use a hobby phone and make sure its somewhere. your S/o can not find it

I just got a very interesting email.

Excellent suggestion, we all should do this regularly. So was the S/o irate or tell me she booked a duo?:biggrin2:

 

[JustRiley]

Excellent suggestion, we all should do this regularly. So was the S/o irate or tell me she booked a duo?:biggrin2:

Awww Cute

Well let's see she called me crying. I had a chat with her which according to the superiors of escorts out there I didn't follow protocol.

The thing is I am barely back at this. I've been out of the loop so long where I do not remember majority of who saw me and when they saw me. I am not keeping log books of who my clients are.

You guys are passing ships to me.

 

[JustRiley]

Ya I would love to know the full story because as I said on the other board, none of this makes sense to me.

Why would you engage with the woman and talk and tell her how to spice up her sex life? I am really curious. It is just so opposite to what I would do.

I went with my instincts.

I am not going to hang up on someone who is calling me crying and wondering if I am a threat to her relationship. especially when I am barely back to work , over a year or two hiatus I've been on.

it was much easier to talk to the person and tell them I am not a threat and your man is a blurr to me. then hang up on someone crying and thinking everything worst about me.

 

[Slick]

I went with my instincts.

I am not going to hang up on someone who is calling me crying and wondering if I am a threat to her relationship. especially when I am barely back to work , over a year or two hiatus I've been on.

it was much easier to talk to the person and tell them I am not a threat and your man is a blurr to me. then hang up on someone crying and thinking everything worst about me.

I guess I can buy that theory. No one is perfect but you do know what you did is a big no no. Live and learn Miss Riley and move on.

 

[bolt.upright]

You guys are passing ships to me.

Jeez, that's encouraging to hear.

Good luck Riley.

 

[Jessica Rain]

I went with my instincts.

I am not going to hang up on someone who is calling me crying and wondering if I am a threat to her relationship. especially when I am barely back to work , over a year or two hiatus I've been on.

it was much easier to talk to the person and tell them I am not a threat and your man is a blurr to me. then hang up on someone crying and thinking everything worst about me.

I am going to copy and paste what I wrote on the other board




So I have clearly ruffled some of your feathers with my comments. That was not my intent, but let's go with what we have, shall we?


I understand there is no written manual for being a hooker. However, I do know that common sense would tell you that NOT speaking to wives is probably the best course of action in these types of situations. And let's be real, you don't forget how to fuck or take the money, so I can't see how you forget what your job entails




So why don't we speak to the wife? Because #1 your professionalism is suppose to include discretion and speaking with a wife, is not very discrete. #2 your profession is geared to fucking men who have wives, so if a moral issue is at play here for you, it might be a better idea to stay retired.




This is not just my opinion. I asked on a private escort board what others in our line of work do and all came back with "Deny Deny Deny!" and that is only if you get stuck on the phone. If you are contacted via email or text, you ignore.




As for her crying and feeling bad, I am not that cold hearted, I do understand - I simply say, "I am sorry ma'am, I can not help you and I can't keep speaking with you. May I suggest calling a friends, family member or bringing this discussion to your husband. Try to have a better day. Take care, Goodbye" There is nothing wrong with saying or doing any of that.




Maybe this is a good lesson for both sides of the industry. Men be more careful with your pooning and ladies, don't talk to the wife. EOD

 

[JustRiley]

@Jessica Rain I really do not care what you and the private escort boards are discussing about me with everything that has happened in the last couple of days. I just can't

 

[JustRiley]

Jeez, that's encouraging to hear.

Good luck Riley.

Let's face it that's what it is

I am a good time girl. that's it.

 

[nntsci]

Let's face it that's what it is

I am a good time girl. that's it.

Reminds me of a song by Billy Holiday.

I think the onus is on the man to (1) make sure his phone is password protected and does not easily fall into the hands of his wife... technically it is illegal for her snope on his phone (guys, try that out on your wife, lol) if it is password protected there is a legal expectation of privacy (which is not true if you cross any international border so purge your text before crossing a border), (2) that there are no previous texts that indicate anything about the nature of the relationship (old texts having being purged), I have goofed on this in the past... I once during an opera intermission, got a message from my son and just before I clicked it, clearly visible on the screen was "kisses" from one of my ladies, but fortunately my wife didn't have her glasses on at the time (or did see it and didn't bother me about it). (3) that the name in the directory of the phone should not give away anything (e.g., one lady I have listed as 4 apparently random letters that could be a business title, CATM, another I had listed as the somewhat ironic N.O.T.) so that if my wife was looking through my phone she would see those letters and not immediately be suspicious... alternatively, give her a name that completely obscures the nature of the relationship such as Bob. (4) There are acronyms listed in my directory for businesses and there are in fact female names who are mutual friends or business relationships, such as Jill or Shannon or Farrah, which would make it even difficult to find those suspicious numbers if she was looking. Actually she doesn't know about Jill, but Jill would be easy to explain away because she is a colleague for some volunteer work I do and Farrah is my employee (I have three female employees and 5 female colleagues listed in my directory, all legit) so finding the SP's number would be a needle in a haystack. (5) have an explanation about the number if needed that is related to work or whatever (e.g., Centre for Accident Treatment Medicine or the National Organization for Transportation) or whatever... (6) My phone is my phone and she has no access to the bills for that phone (password protected on line). Ironically, she was going to buy a phone for me (5 years ago), but didn't get around to it and just got one for herself, and told me rather sarcastically to get my own phone... lol... so I did and as a result she has no legal access to it. (7) I don't snope into my wife's phone or emails or try to find out who she's in contact with... I respect her privacy and she returns the favour. (8) if I see a particular lady on a long term basis (e.g., CATM -- over 5 years) we've actually worked out rules of contact especially given that we often don't see each other for months at a time when she retires (which she has done 2 times), or when she is traveling and I always include an innocuous statement to indicate who I am in my text that would not arouse suspicion in part because she herself doesn't want to be exposed and from time to time may be living with her boyfriend. For her part she will text me "hey" or "hi" if she is in town, but will not follow up that conversation with anything else until I respond.

This all makes it easy for the lady if my wife does somehow call CATM because it gives the lady in question plausible deniability or simply that the wife has the wrong number. Her response to unfamiliar text message is, who is this, lol... including text messages from me if I don't include my innocuous statement identifying myself, lol. I don't know how she answers the phone as I've never actually called her... ever... which would immediately alert the lady in question.

Of course nothing is fool proof. But if the guy has goofed to the point that his wife has the lady's number and she has an inclination about the nature of the relationship, its his fault, not yours, and no matter what you say he's in deep dodo.

PS... Riley in your original post you said something about helping her see that you are not a threat to her marraige... I'm not sure if my wife would be more upset if she found out I had a lover for free who loved me or whatever, or was seeing SP's (for money)... I actually don't want to find out. I don't know if she would think of the SP as less of a threat to her marriage... especially if she found out how much I've spent in the past year -- enough for 3 weeks in Punta Cana for my wife and I, at the Grand Bahia Principe Turquesain, in January, all inclusive, with NOT alone... add in CATM... maybe a 4th week. LOL.

 

[cristycurves]

^ I agree and I'm glad you said it first. I too feel the onus is on the client. I'd be very angry if a client put me in that type of situation. When a client is with me he is treated like a king, when he leaves my company I no longer know him, until he contacts me again..... But if I was called, and the caller was crying and seeking help, well, I'm a human being first, then an escort so I'm not sure how I'd react, truthfully, and hope I never have to face the situation to find out.

 

[demien3k5]

But if I was called, and the caller was crying and seeking help, well, I'm a human being first, then an escort so I'm not sure how I'd react, truthfully, and hope I never have to face the situation to find out.

This is exactly the reason clients need to be very VERY careful about who they decide see and trust.

In this industry, discretion is THE cardinal rule. There is no wiggle room whatsoever; virtually every hobbyist and SP knows this from Day 1, and it goes both ways.

If a client (male or female) or SP cannot expect 100% absolute discretion at all times, they shouldn't ever trust that provider/client.

For most who engage the industry, there is simply far too much at stake to risk.

 

[cristycurves]

Lol..... and you are the reason many escorts are thankful review boards exists, they help us, the escorts, weed out the assholes from the gentlemen. You need to stop worrying about and following all my posts, your obsession with me is getting tiring, old and very boring. Move on little man .

 

[nntsci]

This is a large part of why I've never actually hobbied. There just seems like to many ways to be found out (at least in my life).

(And that's besides the point that if I was willing to see an escort because things at home were so bad, I'd end the things at home openly first).





I can see both perspectives here.....someone calls you and they are in pain......most people have sympathy or empathy for others. But at the same time....discretion. Deny everything. Never heard of him. I know nothing.

Each person has to do what they feel is right for them. They just also have to be aware that there are consequences for any choice.

I don't see escort because things are "bad" at home... actually I rather like my wife... we get along well... just not much sex.

Went to marriage counselling... were told to go on date nights... which we do... we go to dinner or a movie or an opera, a concert, the art gallery, or a vacation... didn't help the sex life... except when I take her on vacation... (recent vacations include Cuba, Mexico, Portugal, England, Las Vegas, Florida, Paris), but escorts are cheaper than vacations.

Yes I agree about denial. Denial, denial, denial. Wrong number. Don't know him. But the guy has to make sure that denial will work (plausible deniability) by making sure the spouse doesn't see anything incriminating such as text messages. If she calls the SP and already has seen text messages about arrangements, there is no real response on the part of the SP that is going to save the situation.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Lol..... and you are the reason many escorts are thankful review boards exists, they help us, the escorts, weed out the assholes from the gentlemen. You need to stop worrying about and following all my posts, your obsession with me is getting tiring, old and very boring. Move on little man .

I'm assuming you are not directing this at Primo.

He's one of the good guys. Even if he is American..............Just kidding.

 

[cristycurves]

I'm assuming you are not directing this at Primo.

He's one of the good guys. Even if he is American..............Just kidding.

Lol, no I'm not, sorry, should have quoted..... I thought most knew who I think is the asshole.