Have you ever been caught cheating?.

[SillyGirl]

I think u have to talk to the other partner to know the truth. But I donno if that is a good idea

I don't really think it is, but Amy has me reconsidering.

Thank you all for the input, I appreciate it.

 

[Cycleguy007]

I have been told the only way I can be sure is to talk to the wife, and that the odds are she would probably have a very different idea about the status of her marriage.

Just couldn't take my word for it could you?! :roll: :tongue:

**sigh** :arf:

As with ALL the "fidelity/ infidelity" threads on escort boards, one thing remains consistent... and that is that one can find all sorts of ways to "justify" in their mind right from wrong, but the only opinion of what is acceptable/ unacceptable and therefore the ONLY one that TRULY matters is what the spouse thinks. Only way to know that with 100% accuracy is to ask the spouse.

The definition of what is "cheating" is subject to interpretation from couple to couple and even individual to individual. uch:

Take my own situation for example. I have sex with other women, and Mrs. CG has sex with other women... she also (as it turns out now, has had sex with another man...) Most "normal" definitions of "cheating" would classify this as questionable activity in the realm of "fidelity"... HOWEVER, the difference is, we each have given each other approval of said consensual sex acts, and were even in the same room.

Taking this one step further, Mrs. CG also has full approval from me to pursue any sexual encounter with another female, as long as I have full disclosure. I, in turn may also pursue a sexual encounter with another female provided she is included and also has full disclosure. (i.e. same room)

So, in closing- the definition of cheating in OUR case, would include anything that we know our partner would not approve of. (e.g. if she pursued a sexual encounter with another female and did not advise me, or another male, or if I pursued a sexual encounter with another female in which she was not included.)

This being the case SG... the only way to know for sure, is to contact the spouse... in some way... Some have suggested e-mail, but even THAT can be faked, (very easily I might add), and even telephone can be easily faked TBH... so face to face is the most preferable method to be 100% fool proof...

Sorry SG, but that is the bitter truth. :shock:

 

[SillyGirl]

Just couldn't take my word for it could you?!

Well I didn't really like your answer.... :tongue:

This being the case SG... the only way to know for sure, is to contact the spouse... in some way... Some have suggested e-mail, but even THAT can be faked, (very easily I might add), and even telephone can be easily faked TBH... so face to face is the most preferable method to be 100% fool proof...

Sorry SG, but that is the bitter truth. :shock:

Face to face is not gonna happen.

I'll see what kind of a vibe I get if I meet him, and decide from there.

hahaha I said "if" like there's a question about it. Situations like this are why I swore off men for the first year after my divorce...sometimes, Heat makes me stupid.

Guys aren't the only ones who think with the little head sometimes. :neutral:

 

[Cycleguy007]

Well I didn't really like your answer.... :tongue:

Just cuz you didn't like it, doesn't mean it was wrong...

See....

You are ALREADY trying to justify it to yourself! :na:

 

[SillyGirl]

Just cuz you didn't like it, doesn't mean it was wrong...

See....

You are ALREADY trying to justify it to yourself! :na:

I hate how right you are.

The other day I found myself thinking if he is sneaking around, he's gonna do it whether it's with me or not. Wife would be better off if it's with me, as I genuinely have no interest in stealing her husband. I just want to borrow him sometimes.

That is Grade A Primo Pathetic Justification, I can't even begin to deny it.

 

[Cycleguy007]

:shock:

 

[tboy]

Ummm why not just walk away?

Then you could go about your life with a clean conscious......or (and I use this a LOT) would that be too simple?

No matter what his situation really is, you are in fact entering into what is commonly called a "love triangle" and the news is full of them turning out badly.....

BTW: I'm sure you know this, that the net is full of married men finding a little something something on the side and ALL of them say "they're in an open marriage". The odds of you finding one that actually is? Well, I'd play the powerball lottery because the odds are probably greater of you winning that than this guy actually telling the truth....

 

[Cycleguy007]

BTW: I'm sure you know this, that the net is full of married men finding a little something something on the side and ALL of them say "they're in an open marriage". The odds of you finding one that actually is? Well, I'd play the powerball lottery because the odds are probably greater of you winning that than this guy actually telling the truth....

Except for Fuji... he has more "class" than that! :roll:

LOL

 

[SillyGirl]

Ummm why not just walk away?

Then you could go about your life with a clean conscious......or (and I use this a LOT) would that be too simple?

No matter what his situation really is, you are in fact entering into what is commonly called a "love triangle" and the news is full of them turning out badly.....

BTW: I'm sure you know this, that the net is full of married men finding a little something something on the side and ALL of them say "they're in an open marriage". The odds of you finding one that actually is? Well, I'd play the powerball lottery because the odds are probably greater of you winning that than this guy actually telling the truth....

I know the odds are against that he's telling the truth, but it is possible (thank you, Amy) and I want to find out either way.

Yes, walking away would seem simple, but I don't like looking back at things and wondering what might have happened. I don't trip over many men I find all that interesting...so when I find one who actually turns me stupid, well, that's completely intriguing. I don't usually have to make an effort to keep my wits about me.

He's completely under my skin...

 

[Cycleguy007]

I know the odds are against that he's telling the truth, but it is possible (thank you, Amy) and I want to find out either way.

Yes, walking away would seem simple, but I don't like looking back at things and wondering what might have happened. I don't trip over many men I find all that interesting...so when I find one who actually turns me stupid, well, that's completely intriguing. I don't usually have to make an effort to keep my wits about me.

He's completely under my skin...

Sounds like you got it all figured out then...

Glad we could help! :tongue:

And have fun with Mr. Rough Sex! :shock: (Or should we call him Mr. Open Marriage

?)

 

[SillyGirl]

Sounds like you got it all figured out then...

Glad we could help! :tongue:

And have fun with Mr. Rough Sex! :shock: (Or should we call him Mr. Open Marriage

?)

If I had it figured out, I'd be bored with it.

Right now I'm calling him Trouble, but I suspect I'll end up calling him whatever he tells me to. :tongue:

 

[Lone Wolf]

He's completely under my skin...

Did you know that many parasites also bore into and underneath their host's skin?

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

He's completely under my skin...

And therein lays the problem.

 

[Cycleguy007]

If I had it figured out, I'd be bored with it.

Right now I'm calling him Trouble, but I suspect I'll end up calling him whatever he tells me to. :tongue:

:tongue: :he: :go:

 

[tboy]

I know the odds are against that he's telling the truth, but it is possible (thank you, Amy) and I want to find out either way.

Yes, walking away would seem simple, but I don't like looking back at things and wondering what might have happened. I don't trip over many men I find all that interesting...so when I find one who actually turns me stupid, well, that's completely intriguing. I don't usually have to make an effort to keep my wits about me.

He's completely under my skin...

So, can we then expect a thread on how all men are dicks and liars and how you hate us all when it turns out this went south on you?

Personally I can see a train wreck on the horizon and will be the first one to say "I told you so..." when the boo hoo hooing starts.....

(I hazard to say that SG isn't the first, nor will be the last woman to do something like this against her better judgement).

Just one more thing then I'm going to back out of this:

I'm intrigued and fascinated by automatic weapons, cannons, and machine guns etc yet you don't see me with a .50 cal turrent mounted cannon in the bed of my truck. Same as coke: the way people describe the high I think it'd be cool to try. But the hazards far outweigh the benefits......it's called self-control......

 

[SillyGirl]

So, can we then expect a thread on how all men are dicks and liars and how you hate us all when it turns out this went south on you?

There's no need to be insulting, Tboy. If I get into this and it goes south, it will be my own fault. I don't blame other people for my own mistakes.

Personally I can see a train wreck on the horizon and will be the first one to say "I told you so..." when the boo hoo hooing starts.....

I'm quite sure I can count on that.

(I hazard to say that SG isn't the first, nor will be the last woman to do something like this against her better judgement).

I haven't done anything, nor is it definite that I'm going to.

Just one more thing then I'm going to back out of this:

I'm intrigued and fascinated by automatic weapons, cannons, and machine guns etc yet you don't see me with a .50 cal turrent mounted cannon in the bed of my truck. Same as coke: the way people describe the high I think it'd be cool to try. But the hazards far outweigh the benefits......it's called self-control......

Please don't lecture me about self-control where men are concerned. I spent 20 years being faithful, another year turning down everyone, and in the last year I've turned down a lot more than I've fucked. I make an effort to be smart about things, and I don't think the fact that I'm tempted by this one justifies your implication that I have no self-control. If that were the case, I would have fucked him already.

 

[SillyGirl]

Ok, now I think I have it figured out. I'll make him a OneFuck....that way, I don't have to look back and wonder if he really is that intense, and I don't have to worry about the wife because OneFucks don't matter.

I think this can work. :great:

 

[Cycleguy007]

Ok, now I think I have it figured out. I'll make him a OneFuck....that way, I don't have to look back and wonder if he really is that intense, and I don't have to worry about the wife because OneFucks don't matter.

I think this can work. :great:

I couldn't find a video for Justify my lust! :tongue:

 

[tboy]

Ok, I lied, one more THEN I'm outta here lol.....

I know the odds are against that he's telling the truth, but it is possible (thank you, Amy) and I want to find out either way.

Yes, walking away would seem simple, but I don't like looking back at things and wondering what might have happened. I don't trip over many men I find all that interesting...so when I find one who actually turns me stupid, well, that's completely intriguing. I don't usually have to make an effort to keep my wits about me.

He's completely under my skin...

Seems to me like you've made up your mind.......

As for insulting: sorry, that wasn't insulting. But seeing as how that happens a LOT, (women bitching about men being dicks after they've gone and fucked a dick), you can't blame me for thinking it will happen.

No Self Control: Did I say you have NO self control? Might I suggest you get the bitch outta your back pocket? Throughout this entire thread you've indicated that you know it's wrong, YET YOU STILL decided to go through with it.....

BTW: turning down 1000 losers is easy, turn down 1000 like this guy, then you can boast about self control......

 

[tboy]

OK ONE more then I'm done, I promise, I'll hit unsubscribe as soon as I hit post:

Women turning down more men than they fuck? Really? does that occur? LMAO...the only women who don't turn down more men than they fuck are E S C O R T S.

Seriously, that's like a duck bragging because he quacks......abd that's like a bear saying "hey everybody, look at me, I shit in the woods"

I think with found a new Captain Obvious....CG had the title for a while, but I think you get it now......