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SillyGirl said:
Sorry, but I disagree. It doesn't mean that at all.
None of us know precisely what HE (and only he) meant by that but I think Scotty said it best: He hopes he'll be with you forever but who the heck knows what the future holds?
Here's a suggestion:
Why not ask him for clarification? (it's too late now, if you weren't clear then, should have asked then). I think most guys don't play the word games that women do. If we talk, we don't talk in code.....
Anyone can tell you what you want to hear, he is telling you what is really in his head. Nobody can predict how they will feel 5 or 10 years down the road.
I knew it, you are the little blue ax murderer smurf. You make that statement as you stand over them with your ax over your shoulder don't you?:he:
papasmerf said:
I knew it, you are the little blue ax murderer smurf. You make that statement as you stand over them with your ax over your shoulder don't you?:he:
^^^ which is what I was trying to say all along!
*shakes his head*
(this is the pita in me coming out again)
But but but....what if he was to be the best fuck of your your LLLLIFE? OMG the regrets the regrets....
Now I don't know you personally in the least but it's attitudes like this that create crack addicts, accidental deaths, love triangles (which often result in criminal charges being laid), calling out the emts or the mountain rescue to get some poor schmuck off some mountain ledge with a broken back.
Here's a little example for you:
When I was 17(ish) a buddy and I had these two hotties over. We ended up playing caps and the girls got drunk. My buddy took his home and mine wanted to hang out for a bit. She had a couple more drinks (on her own accord) and ended up driving the pocelain bus while I held her hair back.
Now this chick was hot, valerie bertinelli (in her heyday) hot. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE wanted to get with her.
Well, she mumbled she can't go home like this, so I had a choice: put her in MY bed, or put her on the spare. I took the honarable route put her on the spare, kissed her on the cheek, covered her with a blankie and went to my room.
One of my (albeit minor) regrets was not stripping her naked and continuing the party. See, I was a dork when I was a teen. I couldn't pick up chicks with a forklift.
According to your definition, I should have taken advantage of her in her vulnerable state. See, that could have gone either way: if she had woken up next to me naked, she could have thought: whoa, wasn't that a party...or she could have thought: ewww what did I do.......as it turned out, her older sister who worked at a place I hung out at, said to me she appreciated that I took care of her sister and made sure she got home the next day safe and sound. I got a rep as a nice guy (which is probably why I didn't get laid again until I was 20).
See, the way I look at it: living with no regrets or not taking chances is just an excuse for people who say "at least I took a chance" and lost the house, their life, or their loved ones. There are measured risks, and there are foolish risks. One can gamble with a couple of hundred dollars or one can gamble their kid's college tuition on a 1,000,000 to 1 longshot.
There was a thread on here about whether or not a guy should cheat on his wife. If you live by the "no regrets" rule, anytime someone who is in a marriage or relationship meets someone who is into them, they should fuck them.
In this case in particular, I'd say "taking a risk" would be going out with a type of guy SG had never gone out with before NOT going out and getting involved with someone who is obviously in a situation that is rife with peril.
*shakes his head*
(this is the pita in me coming out again)
But but but....what if he was to be the best fuck of your your LLLLIFE? OMG the regrets the regrets....
amy said:I've always found it is better to regret DOING something than to regret NOT doing somethingGood luck hun.
Now I don't know you personally in the least but it's attitudes like this that create crack addicts, accidental deaths, love triangles (which often result in criminal charges being laid), calling out the emts or the mountain rescue to get some poor schmuck off some mountain ledge with a broken back.
Here's a little example for you:
When I was 17(ish) a buddy and I had these two hotties over. We ended up playing caps and the girls got drunk. My buddy took his home and mine wanted to hang out for a bit. She had a couple more drinks (on her own accord) and ended up driving the pocelain bus while I held her hair back.
Now this chick was hot, valerie bertinelli (in her heyday) hot. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE wanted to get with her.
Well, she mumbled she can't go home like this, so I had a choice: put her in MY bed, or put her on the spare. I took the honarable route put her on the spare, kissed her on the cheek, covered her with a blankie and went to my room.
One of my (albeit minor) regrets was not stripping her naked and continuing the party. See, I was a dork when I was a teen. I couldn't pick up chicks with a forklift.
According to your definition, I should have taken advantage of her in her vulnerable state. See, that could have gone either way: if she had woken up next to me naked, she could have thought: whoa, wasn't that a party...or she could have thought: ewww what did I do.......as it turned out, her older sister who worked at a place I hung out at, said to me she appreciated that I took care of her sister and made sure she got home the next day safe and sound. I got a rep as a nice guy (which is probably why I didn't get laid again until I was 20).
See, the way I look at it: living with no regrets or not taking chances is just an excuse for people who say "at least I took a chance" and lost the house, their life, or their loved ones. There are measured risks, and there are foolish risks. One can gamble with a couple of hundred dollars or one can gamble their kid's college tuition on a 1,000,000 to 1 longshot.
There was a thread on here about whether or not a guy should cheat on his wife. If you live by the "no regrets" rule, anytime someone who is in a marriage or relationship meets someone who is into them, they should fuck them.
In this case in particular, I'd say "taking a risk" would be going out with a type of guy SG had never gone out with before NOT going out and getting involved with someone who is obviously in a situation that is rife with peril.
thank you all for your input. I'm hoping that those of you who said he really hopes it'll last but nobody knows the future is the correct answer. I still don't know what to think...
I had asked him right before that if he thought we would work and he said he didn't know and followed that with this question....
He doesn't have chronic committment issues because he was committed to me for almost 14 years until this summer and we do have 2 kids together but we're trying to work things out now. His answer just threw me off 'cause if I wanted it to work but didn't know if it would I would have answered "yes I want it to work" and followed it with I don't know what the future holds or I hope things don't change or something like that....been more specific.
Anyways, thanks, the answers you gave obviously can't tell me what's going on in his head but at least it gives me hope that it can be a positive answer, not necessarily that he doesn't want it now but hopes he will before it's too late.
I had asked him right before that if he thought we would work and he said he didn't know and followed that with this question....
He doesn't have chronic committment issues because he was committed to me for almost 14 years until this summer and we do have 2 kids together but we're trying to work things out now. His answer just threw me off 'cause if I wanted it to work but didn't know if it would I would have answered "yes I want it to work" and followed it with I don't know what the future holds or I hope things don't change or something like that....been more specific.
Anyways, thanks, the answers you gave obviously can't tell me what's going on in his head but at least it gives me hope that it can be a positive answer, not necessarily that he doesn't want it now but hopes he will before it's too late.
Instead of regrets, tell yourself that he's most likely unavailable with a wife and children who depend on him. As you've found out there are plenty of others.
If you took him on, would you have to drop another fuckbuddy?
That's where the drama might lie.
If you took him on, would you have to drop another fuckbuddy?
That's where the drama might lie.
We don't know him, I think you have to trust your instincts about him.
I sounds like he's being honest and realistic, but you need reassurance more than anything at this time and it isn't quite there and maybe he's just not the type of guy who can fake that.
Is he making an attempt to help you fix things, change what went wrong or is it all up to you? It sounds like you're being very patient with him and giving him a lot of chances to do so, but maybe he's seeing that he doesn't have to if you accept him back anyway or if he has other options readily available.
Good luck.
I sounds like he's being honest and realistic, but you need reassurance more than anything at this time and it isn't quite there and maybe he's just not the type of guy who can fake that.
Is he making an attempt to help you fix things, change what went wrong or is it all up to you? It sounds like you're being very patient with him and giving him a lot of chances to do so, but maybe he's seeing that he doesn't have to if you accept him back anyway or if he has other options readily available.
Good luck.
Send me a pic of yourself and I will gladly tell you if you should think about staying with him for eternity or if maybe a fling is warranted. DON'T worry about his feelings because he isn't worried about yours.
Sorry in advance for being a shallow, selfish neanderthal of a man but it's my new years resolution to take every opportunity that presents itself for sexual gratification.:666::great:
arty:
Sorry in advance for being a shallow, selfish neanderthal of a man but it's my new years resolution to take every opportunity that presents itself for sexual gratification.:666::great:
arty:
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PervChunky said:Send me a pic of yourself and I will gladly tell you if you should think about staying with him for eternity or if maybe a fling is warranted. DON'T worry about his feelings because he isn't worried about yours.
Sorry in advance for being a shallow, selfish neanderthal of a man but it's my new years resolution to take every opportunity that presents itself for sexual gratification.:666::great:
