How Do You Deal With Loss?

[s a l s a]

Let us know how it's going Dream.

 

[Smooth]

Best wishes DB, glad to see you are going to spend as much time as possible with your GF. It will help in your healing process through the years.

 

[Gordon Ramsey]

Dream, How is it going?.

 

[Blank_Dave]

I can't contribute much to this thread that hasn't been said already.

Just fromy experience, sitting on the grief and not dealing with it (for whatever reason) simply sucks. It'll come back and get you eventually...And how it'll get you can manifest in some interesting ways...Until it is dealt with.

And ask me tomorrow if I dealt with it...

 

[dreamblade]

So I went to MTL to see him. On Saturday, he was fairly lucid, and I was able to say my goodbyes. Seeing him this morning was hard. I already said sunday that he won't live past Tuesday, and it seems like I'm right: The doctors took him off any actual medicine this evening, administering only morphine and atavan to ease his pain. By the time I wake up, I may not have a grandfather anymore. Or maybe he'll last till friday (his birthday)...who the hell knows. Our family stamina is stuff of legend.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. Thank the gods I have wonderful friends who make me drink and dance and realise life is worth living. Otherwise...

This is definitely one of those life-changing events people keep talking about.

 

[HOF]

So I went to MTL to see him. On Saturday, he was fairly lucid, and I was able to say my goodbyes. Seeing him this morning was hard. I already said sunday that he won't live past Tuesday, and it seems like I'm right: The doctors took him off any actual medicine this evening, administering only morphine and atavan to ease his pain. By the time I wake up, I may not have a grandfather anymore. Or maybe he'll last till friday (his birthday)...who the hell knows. Our family stamina is stuff of legend.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. Thank the gods I have wonderful friends who make me drink and dance and realise life is worth living. Otherwise...

This is definitely one of those life-changing events people keep talking about.

It's not goodbye; it's another travel for your grandfather, and he'll be looking out for you. Remember everything that he taught you, be rest assured that he knew you were there, and happy to see you. Grandfather will not feel the pain and he will be able to continue his journey. Remember, he wouldn't want you to mourn, he would want you to celebrate his life and continue with yours.

All the best.

 

[SillyGirl]

So I went to MTL to see him. On Saturday, he was fairly lucid, and I was able to say my goodbyes. Seeing him this morning was hard. I already said sunday that he won't live past Tuesday, and it seems like I'm right: The doctors took him off any actual medicine this evening, administering only morphine and atavan to ease his pain. By the time I wake up, I may not have a grandfather anymore. Or maybe he'll last till friday (his birthday)...who the hell knows. Our family stamina is stuff of legend.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. Thank the gods I have wonderful friends who make me drink and dance and realise life is worth living. Otherwise...

This is definitely one of those life-changing events people keep talking about.

Big hug...

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

It's not goodbye; it's another travel for your grandfather, and he'll be looking out for you. Remember everything that he taught you, be rest assured that he knew you were there, and happy to see you. Grandfather will not feel the pain and he will be able to continue his journey. Remember, he wouldn't want you to mourn, he would want you to celebrate his life and continue with yours.

All the best.

This pretty much says it all for me.

I know it is sometimes easier said than done but rest assured you will get through this.

Bosco,