How long do you hold grudges?

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Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is your gift to yourself - a great gift - the gift of happiness.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies
--Voltaire

 

[RAWD]

A grudge (or people with negative energy) are like bad farts.

You should just let them go, and walk away quickly.....

 

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The one thing I am learning just now, is if you say sorry....quite a few times
hoping the person will see, that you mean it....and they still are negative or not answering,
then I am learning to walk on.....I made a mistake and the person who can
not see,that people make mistakes are not worth my friendship...
I will still care about them but I really do not want them in my life....
I love having friends....and I forgive quite easily but I can not forgive myself
for being stupid....I blame myself ....even if I am wrong...or right I blame myself
I can not keep doing that........

I blame myself for my marriage falling apart...I blame myself because the judge said I
should be getting more alimony....I blame myself that I won 90% of the court
case....but I cry for my ex....I cry that no one will say to him... You need to stop...
I realize I blame myself for all these years I have been the person to reason with him...
I saved him....I blame myself now he is falling and I have to just watch him do it...
I care for him.....with all he has done to me....I am crying for him.....

So I blame myself.....It is easier than looking into somebody Soul that you love
or like and seeing the true person......Seeing what they really are like ...lying
to yourself about them.......because you do not look at that part but the part you care
and love, you want to help, you want to make happy......I blame myself....but I am realizing
that they will never be happy.....they are so rapped up in themselves, that they can see
what they are missing......in life, people and laughter....I really try to understand these people
who can say they care and then slam the door in your face.....because they feel you did something..
I can not keep blaming myself......I realize that people do not think like me.....that there probably
something wrong with my thinking....but I forgive....and I beat myself up and blame myself for
being right or wrong...Guess I am a Good Catholic Woman...

Sorry.....

 

[RAWD]

Good Catholic woman. LOL. Perhaps you're wearing a bit too much of that Catholic guilt?

It's good to take responsibility for your own actions. It's not healthy to carry a burden that is not yours to assume.

Live the best life you know how, without regrets. You can't control what others choose to do. They will have to bear the consequences of their own actions (or inactions), including the loss of your love and care.