How much is too much?

[SillyGirl]

So I'm wondering what you all think about this question...if you're seeing someone and you want to keep it Lite, how often is too often to see each other?

 

[papasmerf]

every ten days to two weeks is a spacing for seeing them.

 

[Auggie]

16 days, that also keeps it from being the same day of the week rut.

But keep open to the idea of lite becoming something heavier if he feels right for you.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

More than once a week? Have never tried to keep things light. I let the other person decide what's comfortable for them. But seeing someone once a week or every two weeks sounds casual to me.

 

[Macho Man]

So I'm wondering what you all think about this question...if you're seeing someone and you want to keep it Lite, how often is too often to see each other?

If you are meant to be with him it doesn't matter.

 

[TINY]

Keeping it lite means sex twice a week and make him want you the other 5 days.

 

[SillyGirl]

Thank you all for the input...this was on my mind today because a guy who was just here on Thursday wanted to come back tonight, and I declined because it just seemed like it was too soon. I was tempted, though, even though my neck and shoulders still hurt and the sheet-burn on my elbows isn't quite healed yet. :666:

I had also been thinking more than once a week would be too much...I see the common sense in waiting two weeks, but parts of me don't listen to common sense and they don't want to wait that long. :tongue:

But keep open to the idea of lite becoming something heavier if he feels right for you.

If you are meant to be with him it doesn't matter.

awwww, you guys are adorable. Um, the thought of something heavier makes my skin crawl, I don't want it. And sorry MM, but "meant to be" is an illusion. Or maybe a delusion, I guess either word works. People don't stay together because they were "meant to be", they stay together because they decide to. Sometimes they have to decide daily, or hourly, but they decide.

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

People don't stay together because they were "meant to be", they stay together because they decide to. Sometimes they have to decide daily, or hourly, but they decide.

+1

 

[Stan Lee]

Why decline?.


Have you ever heard of fate?.

 

[tboy]

Why decline?.


Have you ever heard of fate?.

yeah, that's right up there with soul mates...witches, warlocks, and white knights....all fairy tales......

 

[- - -]

Why decline?.


Have you ever heard of fate?.

I like your answer. I say go for it!

 

[HOF]

There must be four sleeps between hook-ups or it's too routine! Hmmm, wait a minute that's pretty routine. Ah, screw it whenever the carpet burns are healed and ---- doesn't hurt!

Enjoy life to the fullest, you only get one!

 

[The Options Menu]

So I'm wondering what you all think about this question...if you're seeing someone and you want to keep it Lite, how often is too often to see each other?

I'd day not more than once or twice a week (tops, and not necessarily every week).

 

[SillyGirl]

Why decline?.


Have you ever heard of fate?.

I like your answer. I say go for it!

But I really want to keep it Lite, I don't want anyone catching feelings.

This morning I'm thinking twice a week might be ok, but that could just be the Horny talking. :tongue:

 

[LickingGravity]

You could get two and do once a week each.
I actually think 2x a week will be tough. It will either escalate or peter out (so to speak).

 

[Auggie]

Is lite a bit heavier than fuckbuddy?
Can you have more than one lite on call?

I'm the same way about not wanting a relationship at the moment and I don't believe "meant to be" or fate. That's something Hollywood and fairy tales try to sell us.
But I recognize that I might allow myself to fall in love if I connect well with someone.

 

[SillyGirl]

Is lite a bit heavier than fuckbuddy?
Can you have more than one lite on call?

I'm the same way about not wanting a relationship at the moment and I don't believe "meant to be" or fate. That's something Hollywood and fairy tales try to sell us.
But I recognize that I might allow myself to fall in love if I connect well with someone.

I'm hoping Lite will be a little heavier than FB...we'll see how it plays out, it's still new.

Yes most definitely there can be more than one on-call...there doesn't have to be, but I'm all about keeping my options open. Once something turns monogamous, that's a BF and I don't want one of those.

You could get two and do once a week each.
I actually think 2x a week will be tough. It will either escalate or peter out (so to speak).

Yes, that was my concern about twice a week. I can't risk escalation, that would ruin everything.

 

[Skipper]

Everyday till you are either sick of each other or you may have found your soulmate.

 

[SillyGirl]

Everyday till you are either sick of each other or you may have found your soulmate.

LOL, I don't even want to talk to him every day. and I don't really believe in soulmates. :no:

 

[- - -]

LOL, I don't even want to talk to him every day. and I don't really believe in soulmates. :no:

Silly girl, good luck no matter what. I hope you have tons of fun! And I wouldnt give up on soulmates, you never know!!