How much is too much?

[Blank_Dave]

Silly girl, good luck no matter what. I hope you have tons of fun! And I wouldnt give up on soulmates, you never know!!

What if you have no soul?

 

[SillyGirl]

Silly girl, good luck no matter what. I hope you have tons of fun! And I wouldnt give up on soulmates, you never know!!

Thanks 3, so far he's pretty easy to have fun with. I look forward to trusting him enough to break out the handcuffs. :great::tongue:

What if you have no soul?

Everyone has soul...some people just don't like to show it.

 

[Transient]

Define what you want from this relationship, the boundaries, expectations. Then you can better communicate them to Mr. Sheetburner. The discovery phase of new relationships is fun, exciting, and scary as you are well aware. Start out as FBs and let it progress if you want. Take caution not to cross your boundaries, going backward can be most difficult. Make sure he knows exactly what you are expecting. Good luck.

 

[SillyGirl]

Define what you want from this relationship, the boundaries, expectations. Then you can better communicate them to Mr. Sheetburner. The discovery phase of new relationships is fun, exciting, and scary as you are well aware. Start out as FBs and let it progress if you want. Take caution not to cross your boundaries, going backward can be most difficult. Make sure he knows exactly what you are expecting. Good luck.

Excellent, he has a name! LOLOL

I don't want to decide in advance how it plays out...I just want to ride the ride. I'm not sure what I want but I'm pretty clear about what I don't want, and so far he's cool with that.

That's good advice about going backward, I will keep that in mind. Thanks.

 

[Butch]

Excellent, he has a name! LOLOL

I don't want to decide in advance how it plays out...I just want to ride the ride. I'm not sure what I want but I'm pretty clear about what I don't want, and so far he's cool with that.

That's good advice about going backward, I will keep that in mind. Thanks.

What is it that you don't want?.

 

[Blank_Dave]

Everyone has soul...some people just don't like to show it.

Well I'm opting to have one of these installed...

Not to sound like a dick, but I have a hard enough time making mysf happy. Like hell am I going to be responsible for someone else's.

 

[SillyGirl]

What is it that you don't want?.

I don't want to meet his kids, have lunch with his mom or sign his sister's bday card. I don't want to be half of a couple. I don't want to have to explain what I was doing when I say I was busy. I don't want to need him or be needed by him.

He was here last night, and a couple things happened that made me think I will have to manage this carefully. The first was when it came out in conversation that he was supposed to leave on a trip yesterday, and he rescheduled it until today so he could be here last night. The second was when I found myself doing the Girl version of thinking with the little head, and wanted to ask him to come back this weekend. Which of course would be too soon, but that didn't seem to matter in the moment.

Thank goodness he has his kids this weekend, so I was saved from my own stupidity.

Well I'm opting to have one of these installed...

Not to sound like a dick, but I have a hard enough time making mysf happy. Like hell am I going to be responsible for someone else's.

Hey, I have one of those too. But why does having a soul imply that you would be responsible for someone else's happiness?

 

[train]

Thanks 3, so far he's pretty easy to have fun with. I look forward to trusting him enough to break out the handcuffs. :great::tongue:

.

Cuff him to the bed first, then put the garden shears on the bedside table but don't say anything. Don't use them or threaten him , just leave them sitting there for awhile. If he doesn't wet the bed and can still get hard he might be a keeper

 

[- - -]

Thanks 3, so far he's pretty easy to have fun with. I look forward to trusting him enough to break out the handcuffs. :great::tongue:


QUOTE]


OHHHH, I love that stage of the relationship!!! Have fun!!!

 

[SillyGirl]

Cuff him to the bed first, then put the garden shears on the bedside table but don't say anything. Don't use them or threaten him , just leave them sitting there for awhile. If he doesn't wet the bed and can still get hard he might be a keeper

Gasp! LOL um, I don't know that I want a keeper who would be ok with a psycho move like that. :shock:

OHHHH, I love that stage of the relationship!!! Have fun!!!

hehehehehe...so far, so fun! :great:

 

[Art Mann]

Not to sound like a dick, but I have a hard enough time making mysf happy. Like hell am I going to be responsible for someone else's.

Very often the greatest reward in making someone else happy is the happiness that act brings you.

Also you're not always responsible for that other person's happiness. Sometimes that person puts effort into making you happy and personal joy is the reward.

It's a two way street: "The love you take is equal to the love you make."

 

[Blank_Dave]

Basically all I'm saying is that I do not want the responsibility (real or implied) of making someone else happy. By the same note, I don't want anyone to feel they need to make me happy. I don't want anyone to 'need' me, and vice versa, in such a manner. I also that I can't hobby, can do the FB thing, and I choose to have nothing to do with the relationship thing so...For me, it's best to hide my heart and soul away.