Hypothetical ethical dilemna

[SillyGirl]

As a general hypothetical situation...

Suppose you are on several boards. Suppose you know that a hobbyist from one board is thinking of seeing a certain sp from another board. Suppose you have heard for years (from several unrelated sources, who you consider reliable) that this sp has offered bareback in the past. You consider the hobbyist a decent guy but have had no interaction with him. Do you say anything to him?

 

[Dan]

If you are sure of the fact she is doing BB then I would privately pm him. If you've only read it on some boards and maybe it's only a rumour then I would not.

If it were me I'd want to know so I could avoid her.

 

[LickingGravity]

While its not generally nice to spread unsubstantiated rumours presumeably your connection, acquaintance, friendship or however you want to characterise it is with the hobbyist and if he knew you had info and withheld it he would probably feel somewhat disillusioned.

I would pm but emphasize that its second hand rumours that he might want to ask her about.

 

[Madman]

I'd want to know be it rumour or fact. Honestly even if it were only a rumour it's enough to keep my away. I know it sounds unfair but my safety takes priority for me.

 

[RAWD]

Lessons I've learned...

1. Perfect information is a rarity in life.

2. Not telling the truth can be just as bad as lying.

I wouldn't meddle in the affairs of strangers, but I look out for my friends. I would tell him exactly what you know (including that your information is second hand only).

I'd like to make my decisions with as much information as possible.

 

[tboy]

The easy and safest bet is to simply post links to where you read about her offering bareback.

Spreading a rumor is no different than starting the rumor yourself IMO. People's lives have been ruined by stuff like this.

Say it's just a couple of idiots trying to prove they are so "good" she wanted them au naturel. Then you go and tell this guy, and HE then spreads it to someone else, and so and so on and here this SP never offered it in the first place...(possibly).

If she really does offer BB service, don't you think all the reliable boards would make this known far and wide?

As for reliable sources: do you know these people personally or only online? I ask because I learned years ago to take everything posted online with a grain of salt. For all we know you could be the 12 yr old son of a senator......

As for what Rawd said: tell him what you KNOW...not what you've "heard" or what you "suspect".

A couple things to consider:
1) IF she did offer bareback in the past, maybe she doesn't now
2) Even if she DOES offer bareback and offers it to him when he arrives at their date, it is his decision whether to go through with it or not.
3) Were these discussions about her activities posted in a review or simply via PM or in a non-review thread?

Regarding #3, if it wasn't in a review, then I would hazard a guess as to it not being true. If it were true, and the meaning of these boards is to publically warn each other of things of this nature, and they didn't post it in the review forum, then why wasn't it?

 

[Auggie]

It's not a reliable source unless he got the offer in person.

It can't be posted in a review because most people would see it as smearing her.

 

[tboy]

It's not a reliable source unless he got the offer in person.

It can't be posted in a review because most people would see it as smearing her.

wait what??? smearing her? Dude, reviews post all sorts of things like if she SMELLS or that she might be fatter than her pictures suggested....smearing her? That's what the boards are FOR......(wait, that came out wrong, I mean the boards aren't for smearing anyone but to give an accurate report on the service of an SP).....

 

[Auggie]

No they aren't.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

Never interfere with a man and his sex. Period.

 

[RAWD]

It's not a reliable source unless he got the offer in person.

It can't be posted in a review because most people would see it as smearing her.

Disagree with the first, and agree (sort of) with the second.

Just because information is not received first hand doesn't make it unreliable. BB service generally isn't tolerated on a credible review board for a variety of reasons.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Its none of your business where a man shoves his show.

Would you say anything to him if he was thinking of going to see a dude?

 

[SillyGirl]

sigh...many good points raised, thanks for the input. It's quite a hypothetical conundrum. :dontknow:

 

[L._s.]

If you are sure of the fact she is doing BB then I would privately pm him. If you've only read it on some boards and maybe it's only a rumour then I would not.

If it were me I'd want to know so I could avoid her.

+1 - But I would also point him out to the fact that you heard on some boards that she provides bb.

 

[-b]

People post things that are not true.....If he does his homework before going then he will find out this.........If you say something he will take it as the truth because coming
from you Dear I would......

Then again...I would have to be in that situation....If he is going to be a client and another client pm him about it then I would feel that was ok.....

These women are running a business, like any business their are a few bad apples who likes to
run the competition down......Even clients will do it for the escorts they like.......

 

[Melonballs2]

Sorry for the newbie question but what is BB? What is the service being provided that is so wrong? :dontknow:

 

[tboy]

Sorry for the newbie question but what is BB? What is the service being provided that is so wrong? :dontknow:

BB is short for bare back in other words, without a condom......

No they aren't.

Ummm if the boards aren't for people to post reviews on sp's service, what are they here for then?

You mean all those reviews shouldn't be posted here? I don't understand......

 

[L._s.]

I'd want to know be it rumour or fact. Honestly even if it were only a rumour it's enough to keep my away. I know it sounds unfair but my safety takes priority for me.

+1 again

 

[Kyra.Graves]

I've heard it about almost every single girl I've known over the course of my time in this industry and often from "reliable" sources. Now the reliable source varies a lot, sometimes they are clients of mine whom I used to think were reliable right up until I heard such a thing then I worry about what they are saying about me to other ladies, sometimes it's from other ladies whom I used to think were wonderful respectful ladies right up until I heard such a thing then I worry about what they are saying about me to other ladies and sometimes it's from agencies that the ladies work or worked for. Oddly in a couple of cases the lady was still employed there but shortly after I heard the rumour (not BB but a negative one still) she leaves and though the story goes "she was offering xyz" so we let her go. Then I've heard from other ladies she was interviewing out long before such a time and the rumour is just a way to make the transition difficult and cost her business. It can sometimes be a nasty industry and I really think that no matter what you hear you need to question if your passing on such information is helping or hindering.

I'm reminded of a woman that worked in this industry not long ago, I read a number of reviews where people used to post about how she often was "out there" and that she clearly had drug addiction issues, that she was pimped, etc. Often hateful and spiteful things were said in reviews and I am sure it affected her business and she herself said it hurt her to read them. When she was retiring she posted that she was doing so because she had Huntington's and it had progressed to the point that she could no longer work. I sometimes wonder if the people that spread rumors about her thought about how what they said affected her business, she probably could have used the money for the time when she would be unable to continue working.

My point is you don't know what another persons motivation is or if they even have their facts straight and if you are continuing to pass the information on you are doing just as much damage as the person that started it, in a situation like this you don't have proof unless you are a witness to it and that's only the original two people (or 3 or 4... ).

 

[tboy]

^^^^^ what Kyra said x100........