I'm either a masochist or an idiot

[Blank_Dave]

I have to be one or the other. I mean I don't date, and have never had a relationship, or civilian sex. Most of my SP encounters have been alright at best. Yet for some damned reason I keep looking to see who is working on my days off that I'm free. :wacko:

 

[Jaycob]

One day you will find it. Just don't rush it.

Let it come to you.

If you are a good person then you will find the true you.

Don't push it.

 

[Auggie]

What do you want from life, Dave? :dontknow:

I think you were smart to rule out seeing escorts after sampling them. :bs:

 

[Banker]

What do you want from life, Dave? :dontknow:

I think you were smart to rule out seeing escorts after sampling them. :bs:

Escorts are not his problems.

Finding himself is.

 

[Bubba]

Dave none of us can advice you on matters, just be yourself. In case you don't what that means, just write down your likes and dislikes. Your future plans and your goals.

Then PM me.

 

[Auggie]

Escorts are not his problems.

Finding himself is.

Agreed, just saying he was smart to realize they aren't part of his solution.
I think he knows himself well, just doesn't like what he sees.

 

[Carlitos]

I think he knows himself well, just doesn't like what he sees.

There are worse people out there. No leg, no arm, can't hear, can't see. He still has them all but must realize that there are people way worse off than he is.

 

[-b]

Dave......most people have the same feelings as you....you are not alone......
We all have our hang ups but we mange to deal with them.....
You are too hard on yourself........Try to thinking positive......you are a very smart and by what you write
caring person........Instead of looking at what you don't have ....Look at "All the Friends" you have here...
I am sure any one of them would be there for you if you ever need them.......

You are a very Lucky person.....All these people find you interesting and feel for you.....:kissed:

 

[BEER]

Hang in there Dave. Your time will come and it will all get better.

 

[Guido]

Dave you need to look at the cup half full instead of always half empty. Life is what you make it and you only get one shot at it.

 

[Blank_Dave]

Dave none of us can advice you on matters, just be yourself. In case you don't what that means, just write down your likes and dislikes. Your future plans and your goals.

Then PM me.

Hell I'm so used to being someone for somebody else, I don't know how to be myself for me...Much less who I am.

As for what I want out of life...Hell if I know. Again, I'm usually too busy taking care of other people's stuff to worry about my own.

 

[Titfondler]

Hell I'm so used to being someone for somebody else, I don't know how to be myself for me...Much less who I am.

As for what I want out of life...Hell if I know. Again, I'm usually too busy taking care of other people's stuff to worry about my own.

It's fine to take care of your family but who are the other people?.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

I got this in a piece of junk mail today but maybe it will have some meaning to you too....

"Take the time to love who you are and what you are becoming"

 

[Auggie]

As for what I want out of life...Hell if I know. Again, I'm usually too busy taking care of other people's stuff to worry about my own.

You have time to read tons of self help books, therefore you have time to put a few into action.

 

[tboy]

Dave......most people have the same feelings as you....you are not alone......
.....

Speak for yourself please and thank you....

As for seeing sp's:

There is absolutely NO reason not to partake of their services as long as it doesn't get out of hand. In other words, it becomes all you spend your money on.

There are countless threads online about how sp's are better than a relationship or marriage. I find too many people get caught up in the "I can't be alone I MUST MUST MUST find someone" craze. (and yes, that's what it is). YOU don't need anyone in your life. Do what YOU want, get what YOU want, and lead YOUR life by your own rules.

You've proven time and again you're better than many people out there: you can be alone and be ok with that. Countless others can't stand to be by themselves for more n a week/month/year.

I work with a guy who daily reminds me how good I have it. Just about every morning he comes in with yet one more story of how his bitch of a wife is ragging his ass. Just the other day he came home from a day in freezing rain, working outside with me, chilled to the bone, mud up to his ass, and wanted to sit down and watch the hockey game. Nope, couldn't do that. His wife cancelled his sports channel to get more cartoon channels for the kids.

2 weeks ago she went with the kids to visit her mother for the weekend. He hooked up with some of the guys and went out drinking. I think he spent $200.00. He said he can't even remember the last time he went out and only goes out once every 6 months or so. She came home and ragged on his ass for a week for spending that money. Then they went out shopping for the weekly groceries. She spent $150 just on hair care and makeup products. (He's bald like me) But that's ok, because it's for HER, but he spends some of HIS money on some entertainment for HIM, ooooh noooooo that's wrong wrong wrong......(btw, she doesn't work, she's a stay at home mom).

So, count your blessings my friend...you do NOT know how well you have it......

 

[a 1 player]

Dave, my advice for you is...

Carpe diem

Go out there, try it, do it, and if you fail... fuck it.

I would much rather fail consistently than live with regret for never having tried.

It is all about perspective, bro.

Even if you can't climb the entire mountain, the view is still better from the higher ground.

 

[Guido]

Dave you have some great advice here from the brothers and sisters. T is right about being alone sometimes is a good thing, remember the grass is not always greener on the other side and borrowing the green bush for an hour sometimes is better than owning it. :biggrin:

Start doing things you enjoy, whatever they are before you're too old and look back thinking I should've done this or done that!!!

 

[tboy]

Oh yeah, I have to add: this guy said to me one time when I said "every day you come in here telling me about the latest bitchfest with your wife reminds me of just how lucky I am to not be in your shoes".....he says to me: Oh yeah? Least I get free sex...

I said to him: Free? You pay for it every time she opens her mouth to bitch at you and how much did she spend on shampoo this week? Oh that's right, you're getting free sex....how often? Once a month when she's not so pissed at you?

Thank you...NOT

 

[Dan]

There is no such thing as free sex! One way or another we pay for it. The only advantage to civvie sex is not having a time limit and of course the lady wanting to be with you.

Dave as Guido said you need to look at the cup half full, looking at it any other way will have you always down and depressed my friend. Nobody is perfect and we all have are ups and downs, it's how you handle the down times that dictate how happy your life will be.

BTW I remember you were really into working out, how's that going for you? I know it's really helping me mentally besides physically.

 

[tboy]

There is no such thing as free sex! One way or another we pay for it. The only advantage to civvie sex is not having a time limit and of course the lady wanting to be with you.

Dave as Guido said you need to look at the cup half full, looking at it any other way will have you always down and depressed my friend. Nobody is perfect and we all have are ups and downs, it's how you handle the down times that dictate how happy your life will be.

BTW I remember you were really into working out, how's that going for you? I know it's really helping me mentally besides physically.

Well, I've had a few escorts say to the agency: if I'm off shift and he calls, call me because I'll book in just for him....and have had escorts want to continue to see me after they've left the biz.....so you can actually get free sex after paid sex lol....