Is having bad sex is better than no sex at all?.

[Blank_Dave]

I think for one to say its a bad experience or not, one must define one 'goals' and 'objectives' in having sex.

That way one can see where/why the experience went awry.

While I don't know what I want, I believe it involves a level of emotional intimacy. This is problematic in that really its not 'safe' to have this kind of relationship in this hobby. Secondly, I don't know if I'm capably of being intimate with another in such a manner anyhow.

 

[tboy]

I used to feel that i had to have an emotional connection with a woman in order for the sex to be good....i found out quickly that that isn't necessary.....you can have a great time with someone you're not emotionally connected to. Now with that being said, I think you have to like them, hence the criteria i posted previously.....also, you kind of have to care about the other person's enjoyment as well....yeah, liking and caring are emotions but they don't mean an emotional connection as dave puts it.......

 

[Blank_Dave]

I never said that one does need a connection, but that I suspect that I may. I'm well aware there are those individuals out there that only care that the body is warm to hump it. Conversely, there are those that feel that they must be passionately in love with The One to make love. And then there's in between.

For myself, I don't know what I need or want. Until I do, I fear I may well be looking at further disappointments.

I know normal advice is try and try again. But at $250 a pop, it becomes a rather expensive method of trial and error.