This hobby can be a curious place but I hope you will now remember that you do have a wife at home.
It seems to me that she is trying to be the supportive wife. I did the same with my SO. He went through a phase of casual encounters with other women. With my knowledge and reluctant consent. He needed it for himself. I knew it was a phase, a little longer of one that I had hoped, but it was indeed a phase he needed to go through and I needed to support if I wanted to remain with him after it.
He sees now the error of his ways for some of the things he did during that time and how much it hurt me. Now, years later it is his turn to support me. Not in a sleep around phase, but in the healing that is now required for some of the poor treatment I endured.
You are on your mission from God, to help people in this hobby. Again, while I do not agree in your methods, your quest in this has and will affect your wife personally in a negative way. How strong she is to stand by you during this, only you and her know, but remember that while you are out saving the souls of others, the one soul you promised life and after too, is feeling the negative affects. I am will even go as far as as saying she is feeling them more then she is letting you know. The ultimate choice for any christian is their God or their spouse. Is doing "God's work" to a bunch of people who do not want it, more important than ensuring the feelings of love, commitment and emotional security to your wife.
I truly hope for the sake of your marriage but more so your wife's feelings, you will not need to "further explore" this hobby. To maybe take a step back and focus on your wife. To help those who truly ask for it and leave the rest to deal with their own demons in their own way. If I can be so bold, but I think your manhood is coming out a little more the longer you stay here. I see, and I actually mean this is in the nicest way possible, but I see you becoming for angry, aggressive, purposefully if only playfully insulting, a little more egotistical. You post yesterday of "I am here to stay and deal with it" as oppose to a year ago when it was a little different. Throwing jabs at HOF now, and liking it as oppose to "not resorting to that type of behavior" a year ago. Next we might see you posting pictures! We often don't notice these thing when we go through them, but while you are here trying to change others, seems it is you who is changing. If that is good or bad, that is between you and your God. As I see the stats, is seems the hobby has won you twice at least {party and massage}, and I see no one saved on your side.
Probably should have PMed all this, and didn't expect to write all I did. However it is just some food for thought. Maybe have Ida read this and see if I am on the right page. Then discuss as a couple, just how you want to proceed. It has been a year now, right? Probably the best time to reflex and see if further change is needed.