Long Distance Relationships

[Auggie]

More than a cumbucket?? WTF??

That sounds a bit selfish, SillyGirl - lotsa luck finding someone!! :wink:

 

[SillyGirl]

More than a cumbucket?? WTF??

That sounds a bit selfish, SillyGirl - lotsa luck finding someone!! :wink:

I know, right? I'm a selfish, selfish girl. Maybe I should change my handle. :rofl1:

 

[SillyGirl]

A LDR sucks. The times when you do meet are fantastic, intense and passionate, but what about the in-between? It sucks to be in a relationship AND be lonely.

That's true, but it sucks even more when you're lonely and you're not alone.

That's the worst lonely, when the middle of the bed feels Grand Canyon wide.

 

[a 1 player]

You know what Silly Girl...

Forget everything that everyone says here. Go for it, give it a try, if it doesn't work, at least you tried. Better that than the regret of not having tried at all.

 

[SillyGirl]

You know what Silly Girl...

Forget everything that everyone says here. Go for it, give it a try, if it doesn't work, at least you tried. Better that than the regret of not having tried at all.

Yea, I just like to get as much input as I can before I go ahead and do what I wanted to anyway. :biggrin:

My biggest regrets are things I didn't do.

 

[-b]

3 hours is not that far away......Go have a good time....It is nice to try something new....
then you will know if it works for you.........
Good Luck SG :tongue:

 

[SillyGirl]

Thank you...we'll see how things play out. I've just been mulling over options lately.

 

[a 1 player]

Thank you...we'll see how things play out. I've just been mulling over options lately.

An option that you do not take ceases to be an option.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

I had a couple and always ended up cheating on her. That was when I was younger and hornier. Now I am older and hornier.
Never mind I make no sense.

Completely agree with you on this. Personally it was tough to be horny or lonely midweek and then turn it on for the weekend.
I've done a few and never again.

"

It's just been crossing my mind lately that it might be nice to be more than a cumbucket to someone."
That's awfully harsh on yourself but think of it this way - if you use condoms you aren't really a cumbucket. You just become someone's living "fleshlight".​

 

[SillyGirl]

An option that you do not take ceases to be an option.

I know, but there's no need to rush the option either.

Right now the distance is beneficial in a way, because if he lived around the corner I would have definitely gotten me some of that already. Sometimes I get the girl version of thinking with the little head.

It seems like it could all be doable as long as no one catches too many feelings.

 

[SillyGirl]

That's awfully harsh on yourself but think of it this way - if you use condoms you aren't really a cumbucket. You just become someone's living "fleshlight".​

:rofl!::rofl!::rofl!:

omg, you totally made me laugh. Thank you, I needed that.

 

[Transient]

Sorry Transient I disagree. One person always agrees to less and sacrifices more than the other person just so they can stay together. It may be a romantic concept but it doesn't truly work when it becomes a one-sided relationship. The other person, if they have a soul, will feel guilty more and more until they cannot bear it.

Compromise is important in any relationship. If someone is taking advantage of the concessions given by the other, than the relationship is being abused. What you state can happen with any couple without the complication of distance.

Never a need to apologize for disagreeing Amy. :music:


SG, never have any regrets, I too live with many. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

 

[SillyGirl]

Compromise is important in any relationship. If someone is taking advantage of the concessions given by the other, than the relationship is being abused. What you state can happen with any couple without the complication of distance.

Never a need to apologize for disagreeing Amy. :music:


SG, never have any regrets, I too live with many. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

ugh, all that compromise talk makes everything sound so complicated.

It made my eyes roll, that doesn't seem like a good sign. :tongue:

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

lol you crack me up SG

 

[Transient]

ugh, all that compromise talk makes everything sound so complicated.

It made my eyes roll, that doesn't seem like a good sign. :tongue:

But at least you have a 3 hour buffer! :yahoo:

 

[RAWD]

That's true, but it sucks even more when you're lonely and you're not alone.

That's the worst lonely, when the middle of the bed feels Grand Canyon wide.

Then you just end up in different beds. And you look outside the relationship for fulfillment.

And so LDR don't work for me, but that's just me.

 

[SillyGirl]

It's too early yet to know how things will turn out.

The key to success would seem to be in the not catching of too many feelings.

 

[LickingGravity]

Do you have Mr 3 Hours picked out yet. Hell if you were commuting in TO in winter that might only be Oakville or Aurora. Does the guy have to have at least 3 hour stamina as well?:smiling:

You want feelings but not something you don't have an excuse to avoid if you want to. Tough balancing act there. Good luck with that , but nothing ventured....

 

[SillyGirl]

I have a potential Mr. 3Hours in the pipeline, but it's too soon to really know. 3 hour stamina is not required, just greatly appreciated. :heart:

You want feelings but not something you don't have an excuse to avoid if you want to.

You said it better than I could, that's exactly what I want. :great:

 

[SillyGirl]

So here's what I'm wondering...how does one mix feelings with non-monogamy?

I'm good at monogamous, and I'm good at casual sex with people I barely know, but I've never tried Casual with Feelings. I'm not sure I would be good at it, but I don't know how to know that without trying it. :dontknow: