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- Dec 5, 2017
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When I started on the boards I used to thank members who reviewed me or honourably mentioned me in a thread via PM. Swede pointed out to me that gents like to see a show of appreciation and that I should publicly thank members, so I began doing just that.
A few years back the red board changed the rules of engagement rather suddenly, asking that ladies not thank everyone in a review or what I term a recommendation thread (e.g. who's good at x, y or z), only once or twice. I've always been of a mind that I should thank everyone who praises me and therefore supports me and my services. Unaware of the new rule (I know ignorance of the law does not exonerate you) and feeling that it's bad form to thank some and not others I continued to do what I had always done without issue and was banned from the former "incall' section for 2.5 years. I feel this was harsh, especially given the insults some ladies sling towards members on there who get banned for their arguments but then reinstated rather quickly. Mind you, they are supporting (blue) members.
When the new 'indy' section was revealed I was mysteriously restored to full rights. I endeavored not to make the same mistake again so I went on a review once, thanking those who had mentioned me thus far. I either misunderstood the "ladies/advertisers" part or they have arbitrarily changed the rules again. According to mgmt no less than 5 advertising ladies have flagged my post. I apologized for my apparent lack of comprehension and never responded to the review again. However, I received further communication from admin that my posts continue to get flagged. This means that my lounge contributions are being perceived as 'phantom advertising'. I've been recently posting in the lounge quite liberally, as I have here in the lobby, when I feel I have something to lend to the topic on hand. I can assure everyone that I don't post for the sake of posting, trying to get my name, etc. out there every chance I can. In fact, ladies and members alike have stated that my posts can be quite good and benefit the community.
I realize that this is a slow time of year, but given that I always try to support my fellow providers, backing them up post wise or respectfully disagreeing with them online and giving truthful references in a timely manner, which cannot be said for some advertisers there, I'm quite hurt to discover that many have complained behind my back, without knowing me or my intention(s). I will continue to aid others regardless as that's a reflection on who I am, not their treatment of me.
Do members and other ladies feel that it's inappropriate for a non advertising provider to post in either section? I for one worry about myself and don't usually concern myself with what others are doing, unless it directly affects me. I'm sorry if these ladies feel I'm somehow taking food from their table by posting on the boards, but I can honestly say that I get little to no business from them, especially as I've been around as long as I have and given most members proclivity towards variety, my screening practices, age limit and non central location. I rely on my regulars, not new clients to keep me afloat. I've already ran this by a lady whose opinion I value and gotten her take on the matter, which is pretty much in line with mine. Now I'm curious what the general population thinks. Personally I don't believe anyone should have to pay to post a thoughtful opinion in the lounge, thank a member or gain access to the section whereby we warn other providers of bad dates.
Your candor is appreciated and I thank you for taking the time to address my concern(s) in advance!
A few years back the red board changed the rules of engagement rather suddenly, asking that ladies not thank everyone in a review or what I term a recommendation thread (e.g. who's good at x, y or z), only once or twice. I've always been of a mind that I should thank everyone who praises me and therefore supports me and my services. Unaware of the new rule (I know ignorance of the law does not exonerate you) and feeling that it's bad form to thank some and not others I continued to do what I had always done without issue and was banned from the former "incall' section for 2.5 years. I feel this was harsh, especially given the insults some ladies sling towards members on there who get banned for their arguments but then reinstated rather quickly. Mind you, they are supporting (blue) members.
When the new 'indy' section was revealed I was mysteriously restored to full rights. I endeavored not to make the same mistake again so I went on a review once, thanking those who had mentioned me thus far. I either misunderstood the "ladies/advertisers" part or they have arbitrarily changed the rules again. According to mgmt no less than 5 advertising ladies have flagged my post. I apologized for my apparent lack of comprehension and never responded to the review again. However, I received further communication from admin that my posts continue to get flagged. This means that my lounge contributions are being perceived as 'phantom advertising'. I've been recently posting in the lounge quite liberally, as I have here in the lobby, when I feel I have something to lend to the topic on hand. I can assure everyone that I don't post for the sake of posting, trying to get my name, etc. out there every chance I can. In fact, ladies and members alike have stated that my posts can be quite good and benefit the community.
I realize that this is a slow time of year, but given that I always try to support my fellow providers, backing them up post wise or respectfully disagreeing with them online and giving truthful references in a timely manner, which cannot be said for some advertisers there, I'm quite hurt to discover that many have complained behind my back, without knowing me or my intention(s). I will continue to aid others regardless as that's a reflection on who I am, not their treatment of me.
Do members and other ladies feel that it's inappropriate for a non advertising provider to post in either section? I for one worry about myself and don't usually concern myself with what others are doing, unless it directly affects me. I'm sorry if these ladies feel I'm somehow taking food from their table by posting on the boards, but I can honestly say that I get little to no business from them, especially as I've been around as long as I have and given most members proclivity towards variety, my screening practices, age limit and non central location. I rely on my regulars, not new clients to keep me afloat. I've already ran this by a lady whose opinion I value and gotten her take on the matter, which is pretty much in line with mine. Now I'm curious what the general population thinks. Personally I don't believe anyone should have to pay to post a thoughtful opinion in the lounge, thank a member or gain access to the section whereby we warn other providers of bad dates.
Your candor is appreciated and I thank you for taking the time to address my concern(s) in advance!
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