speaking of ex girlfriends......

[tboy]

Here's a question for the masses:

Not so much pertaining to ex-wives, but in regards to contacting ex-gfs to see how they're doing, what they've been up to etc.....how do you feel about them contacting you or you contacting them?

I for one would have no problem with any of the women I've dated emailing me or contacting me through facebook to see what's up. Even the splits that weren't so amicable. It'd be nice to know if they got married, had kids, built a life for them, whatever.....I feel this way because any woman I've dated (not a one night stand though lol) knew that if they ever ran into trouble or whatever, they knew they could contact me for help....(this happened once, she was stranded in the wilds of mississauga with no money and no way home).

I ask because the other day I was bored and started typing in people's names from my past and a woman came up who I had dated (and lived with) 16 yrs ago....I just want to see how she is, how her mother is (we got along famously) etc.....but she hasn't responded....

 

[Mutt]

Some respond some don't it all depends on what is going on with their lives at the present time. I say keep trying others but not her unless she replies back.

Maybe she is in a bad relationship now and if having problems coping. I for one would love to hear from some of my ex's but there are a couple that I would never reply back. Only because I would be embarrassed as of how badly I treated them.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Some exes I still have amicable relationships with. You have to because you run in the same circles.
The ones I don't have amicable relationships with I am not really interested in hearing about, nor do we run in the same circles.

 

[God]

Best of luck Tboy.

 

[-b]

Hmmm.....Do I want to speak to my Ex....
the man who said " Blissful, you are lucky I do not throw you out on the street"
Hmmm....Yes the man who took everything and cut off my health coverage so I
am paying about $300 to $400 for my meds a month.....Hmmm...who still is reading
my emails in my computer...Hmmm....
At this point in time....I do not want to deal with him....that a person who loved me
would be so mean and hurtful.......If he left me for whatever reason why would I want
to stay in contact....

It called Moving On for a reason......It not like a friendship......to me it is different....
it runs deeper.....Reality I could never be his friend, buddy or whatever....Sorry but that
is my take.....

 

[Baz]

Tboy, I encourage you to keep reaching out to real relationships you've had in your life. I'm positive your soul mate is out there waiting for your good wishes and as long as you keep reaching out you shall find her.

 

[-b]

tboy, why not meet with him....:tongue:

 

[Art Mann]

Excuuuuuuse me, Blissful.

Are you suggesting tboy could find his soul mate in bazerko?

Think I'll go pour myself a litre of single malt while I ponder that scenario.

 

[-b]

Excuuuuuuse me, Blissful.

Are you suggesting tboy could find his soul mate in bazerko?

Think I'll go pour myself a litre of single malt while I ponder that scenario.

:rofl1: Stop getting me in trouble.....

It was just meant as two people who like to debate....
And since he won't meet with the ones willing to meet him,
maybe he will meet with tboy....if they both want too...that is...:dontknow:

 

[tboy]

bliss: if you read my post i specifically said "not ex-wives" and in your case, that means not ex-husbands....the reason being is that when a marriage as opposed to a relationship fails, there are often harder feelings and yours is a prime example......

I for one would like to hear Brash's (i think that was his handle wasn't it?) side of the story...so far, we've only received yours......

 

[007]

I wouldn't contact any of them. The past is just that.

 

[tboy]

I wouldn't contact any of them. The past is just that.

while i agree in theory, i see nothing wrong with getting caught up....for example, a buddy i worked with 20 yrs ago found me on facebook and we filled each other in on what our lives have been like since.....not like we're going to start hanging out again or anything but it was cool to see how our lives went off in different directions......

 

[Madman]

I agree with you T. I've had great conversations years after with people from the past that at one point in time we locked horns. I'm opening this up to friends, co-workers and of course relationships. I've gone as far as going out for drinks and I had one ex girlfriend that the meeting ended up going into overtime at the nearest motel. She happened to be in an unhappy marriage and only wanted a fling that had some familiarity for her, which worked out great for me.

 

[tboy]

well, with some of my exes i don't know that i'd want any extra curricular activities....some mutual friends saw one and said that she'd basically doubled in size lol....eeek

The thing is, i have conversed with some high school friends and while it's nice to get caught up, going any further isn't an option.....things change. I did some work for a old buddy last summer and he and I were like brothers....but over time, we'd both changed and really, i didn't like the guy he'd become (a bit of a snot actually, he started a company and became fairly successful and imo it went to his head).....

 

[Madman]

i didn't like the guy he'd become (a bit of a snot actually, he started a company and became fairly successful and imo it went to his head).....

Money and status will change a lot of people's personality, I've seen that first hand.

 

[a 1 player]

Meh, whatever. Some contact me occasionally. I don't have a problem with it, but they are exes for a reason.

 

[Madman]

Meh, whatever. Some contact me occasionally. I don't have a problem with it, but they are exes for a reason.

So given the chance you would not bed one of those "done worse" ladies for ole times sake?:spiteful:

 

[tboy]

Meh, whatever. Some contact me occasionally. I don't have a problem with it, but they are exes for a reason.

i agree, but sometimes they are exes for the wrong reasons....i know with this facebook one, if she returns my msg, the first thing i'll do is apologize for some of the shit things i did during the relationship. Nothing terribly bad, just i was a bit of a jerk at times and if i knew then what i knew now, things definitely would have been different......

 

[SillyGirl]

Money and status will change a lot of people's personality, I've seen that first hand.

Me too. :sad:

 

[Jesus Quintana]