Tangled Web

[Smooth]

My Situation- im a single guy but i do have a girlfriend of 2 years. The relationship is not bad and the sex is good.

Here is the twist. I've started seeing a co-worker. It gets better, she's a married woman and she's my girlfriends very good friend.

I told my married friend that perhaps it would be a good idea to put an end to it while we still can and nobody will be the wiser but she didnt buy it and would not allow it. I must admit the sex is incredible with woman number 2.

At the same time i dont want to hurt my girlfriend and dont want to lose her either.

Im laying here in bed racking my brain at what to do and decided i would ask my fellow HUBGFEerites for some friendly advice.

I already know what some of you will say but perhaps someone will have the perfect solution to an old problem that arises when men and women are involved.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Been exactly where you are and even worse.

I managed to get both girls pregnant within a month of each other. Say what?

In the end I lost both of them as I could not continue the charade for any longer.

Not to mention all the lying and deception was messing my head up big time.

Good luck because heavy duty analysis is in your near future unless of course you don't have a conscious, in which case you will be okay.

 

[a 1 player]

In my opinion the only reasonable thing to do is end it with both of them. They WILL both find out soon enough.

 

[Hangman]

<quote>I told my married friend that perhaps it would be a good idea to put an end to it while we still can and nobody will be the wiser but she didnt buy it and would not allow it. </quote>

That sounds a little offside. Sounds like woman number 2 may be the real problem. Is she likely to tell woman 1? You might end up losing both if she does. Of course, she's got a husband to worry about finding out, right?

 

[Auggie]

Try being honest.
If you don't want to hurt your girlfriend and you don't want to lose her then don't fuck around on her.

 

[peace]

Hmmm...."she wouldnt allow it?"...does this mean you cant walk away from it? If you do, will she get furious? I personally think a situation likes yours will be exposed eventually. My advice....just end it as soon as you can. Im not trying to judge you or anyone but there are other people involved and it wouldnt be fair to them.

I was in a similar situation but I was single. I tried to end this secret affair with this married woman and she freaked out. Boy I paid a huge price for it and believe me, I didnèt expect her to react in that way, i.e. being so vindicative and trying to ruin my reputation at work and within the social circles.

Good Luck Smooth

 

[Jesus Quintana]

My own experience in this tells me that you have no way out. Eventually number 1 will find out about number 2. If you dump number 2 she'll tell number 1. Best you can do is maybe hope for a 3-way.
One buddy of mine was in a similar situation and he asked number 2 if she liked the taste of number 1's pussy. Because it was still on his dick when he went to see her.
Reality is this.
Life is gonna serve you a shit sandwich very soon and you're going to have to take a bite.
Good luck, Smooth.

 

[Dan]

You're in a tough spot smooth especially because they know one another. I agree with most that number one will eventually find out unless of course number 2 dumps you first, then her having a husband will want to keep quiet about it, does she have children as well?

The only solution I could think of is too sabotage yourself to number 2. Tell her you can't get it up, don't shower when you go see her, don't brush your teeth in other words do things that will really show her you're not smooth at all.

 

[Art Mann]

. . . Here is the twist. I've started seeing a co-worker. It gets better, she's a married woman and she's my girlfriends very good friend. . .

Oh, boy, this is going to hurt something fierce. This is probably a good time to start looking for a job in Timbuktu.

 

[Transient]

If you want your relationship based on more than secrets, tell #1, then break up with #2.
Head it off before she hears about the affair from #2.

If it's to be, it will be. Good luck.

 

[Smooth]

Maurice your version scares the hell out of me. That must have been a serious mind numbing time in your life, glad it's behind you now.

I believe if I forced the break up with number 2 I think it would have left her distraught and I am worried she'd do something stupid. Her husband is an OPP officer if you know where this is going.....

Dan, your suggestion might have some merit my friend. She is a bit of a clean freak and some of your suggestions might just work.

Thank you gentlemen, I knew my HUBGFEerfite brothers would help. Keep the idea's coming incase not brushing my teeth doesn't work.LOL

 

[BlueBalls]

Been exactly where you are and even worse.

I managed to get both girls pregnant within a month of each other. Say what?

In the end I lost both of them as I could not continue the charade for any longer.

Not to mention all the lying and deception was messing my head up big time.

Good luck because heavy duty analysis is in your near future unless of course you don't have a conscious, in which case you will be okay.

Wow dude those must have been bad times. How did you cope with it?.

 

[Kyra.Graves]

Oh, boy, this is going to hurt something fierce. This is probably a good time to start looking for a job in Timbuktu.

Timbuktu is still under a travel advisory, probably best to look for a job in a safer place. As it's on my wish list of places to visit in my lifetime I'll be happy to notify Smooth if/when the travel advisory changes and it goes from "Avoid all Travel" to either "Avoid All non-essential travel" or even "Exercise a High Degree of Caution" depending on what level of risk he is comfortable with which judging from this thread I'm guessing to be the former as he certainly didn't exercise a high degree of caution in other areas of his life.

 

[Candyman]

Timbuktu is still under a travel advisory, probably best to look for a job in a safer place. As it's on my wish list of places to visit in my lifetime I'll be happy to notify Smooth if/when the travel advisory changes and it goes from "Avoid all Travel" to either "Avoid All non-essential travel" or even "Exercise a High Degree of Caution" depending on what level of risk he is comfortable with which judging from this thread I'm guessing to be the former as he certainly didn't exercise a high degree of caution in other areas of his life.

Ms Kyra I think I can get to like you too :heart:

 

[Madman]

Smooth, tsk tsk tsk not so smooth buddy.:biggrin:

Mistakes

1) engaging with a co-worker is never a good thing. The work place is a mind field when a break up occurs. Avoid sex at work at all cost!
2) her husband is a cop, DUDE WHAT WERE YOU THINKING??? If he finds out God help you if you get pulled over, even for a simple traffic violation!
3) your gf's friend?? Well, this mistake is a common one but really should be avoided.

The work place and friends/relatives should be off limits, it's the principle known as "not shitting in one's own backyard". Follow this simple rule and enjoy the warm inviting moist caves that adultery provides.:biggrin:

I'm not judging you, as men we are weak and cannot most of the time avoid being drawn in by the mighty pink pussy. I like Dan's idea of coaxing the married woman into dumping your smooth ass. Achieve this and you may survive.

Do not come clean to your girlfriend at this point and time. Many are under the false impression that coming clean will set you free, if you want to be single and free yes, if you want to keep her the answer is keep your mouth shut. She will never trust you again and this will put much strain on your relationship.

Good luck to you Smooth!!

 

[tboy]

I think some of my smartassedness is rubbing off on Ms Graves.....

My question to smooth is:

Why do anything? Seems to me like you've got your cake and you get to eat it too!

Just enjoy the ride while you can until something changes on it's own.......

Life is too short to be worrying about things like this, unless of course you plan to marry Girl #1....but alas, if you are, or were, you've blown that all to hell.....

 

[Art Mann]

. . . depending on what level of risk he is comfortable with which judging from this thread I'm guessing to be the former as he certainly didn't exercise a high degree of caution in other areas of his life.

Clearly a case of throwing caution to the winds. A much wiser course of action would have been to visit you on Twitter, Miss Kyra, or better yet, in person.

 

[RAWD]

.... which judging from this thread I'm guessing to be the former as he certainly didn't exercise a high degree of caution in other areas of his life.

Men are capable of doing some incredibly stupid things. Prime among them being - why did you cheat?

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Men are capable of doing some incredibly stupid things. Prime among them being - why did you cheat?

Because I could?

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Wow dude those must have been bad times. How did you cope with it?.

The thing is that I really did not cope that well.

The stress was unbelievable to say the least.

Tried exercising a lot but that didn't really do the trick.

Smoked a lot of Maryjane but that was just temporary.

Had nobody to blame but myself and in the end had to man up and do the right thing.