Theoretical Dating Question

[a 1 player]

If you were/are a man in their early forties, and a young lass around the age of 21 took a liking to you, would you consider dating her?

I'm not talking about a one night stand, but normal, social dating.


As for me, not a chance. I would however like to hear others opinions. The ladies opinions are welcome too of course.

 

[Guido]

I would go out with her for a date but not for a long term relationship because I know the age difference would eventually do us in. If she would be into being a FB, hell yeah, I have to be honest.

 

[Caesarsalad]

No way. After a few weeks what else can you talk about.

 

[SillyGirl]

hmmm...I might consider a one-night stand with a 21yo lass if there was enough tequila involved, but a big No for either with a lad.

First, there would be a huge Ick factor for me about someone who is that close in age to my son. That's why I didn't nail PizzaBoy last year, it just seemed weird.

Then there's the matter of not having the same cultural references...I'd probably know about the shows he watched when he was a kid, because my kid was watching them too. But odds are he wouldn't be familiar with Romper Room or Petticoat Junction. Movies, music, fads, it's all different.

Views on current events would differ too, because you look at things differently based on what you've experienced and remember. You might see US/Iranian relations differently if you actually remember the Iran hostage crisis, for example.

Also, there's the issue of how most 21yo's have no problem going out at 10pm and staying out until the bars close, dancing for hours in very loud clubs, and sleeping until noon the next day when they get up and start going again. Since I turned 40 my sleep patterns have changed pretty drastically...usually I can't do it for more than two consecutive hours, and I always wake up early no matter how late I was up. I'm tired by 10, and I want to go to bed.

Not to mention the way bodies start to fall apart after 40...things start to hurt. YoungStuff might be sympathetic about my arthritic neck, but an older guy will totally understand, because his knees hurt when he gets up out of his chair. :tongue:

 

[a 1 player]

hmmm...I might consider a one-night stand with a 21yo lass if there was enough tequila involved, but a big No for either with a lad.

First, there would be a huge Ick factor for me about someone who is that close in age to my son. That's why I didn't nail PizzaBoy last year, it just seemed weird.

Then there's the matter of not having the same cultural references...I'd probably know about the shows he watched when he was a kid, because my kid was watching them too. But odds are he wouldn't be familiar with Romper Room or Petticoat Junction. Movies, music, fads, it's all different.

Views on current events would differ too, because you look at things differently based on what you've experienced and remember. You might see US/Iranian relations differently if you actually remember the Iran hostage crisis, for example.

Also, there's the issue of how most 21yo's have no problem going out at 10pm and staying out until the bars close, dancing for hours in very loud clubs, and sleeping until noon the next day when they get up and start going again. Since I turned 40 my sleep patterns have changed pretty drastically...usually I can't do it for more than two consecutive hours, and I always wake up early no matter how late I was up. I'm tired by 10, and I want to go to bed.

Not to mention the way bodies start to fall apart after 40...things start to hurt. YoungStuff might be sympathetic about my arthritic neck, but an older guy will totally understand, because his knees hurt when he gets up out of his chair. :tongue:

Pretty well exactly how I feel, Silly.

 

[Macho Man]

What Sillygirl said.

What A1player feels.

 

[Pullmyfinger]

No way. After a few weeks what else can you talk about.

Doesn't it depend how mature and smart she is. I think it can work as long as he doesn't mind some giggles here and there :biggrin:

 

[IFUSEEKAMY]

Funny how nobody mentions any of the disadvantages for the younger person...how he/she will be all alone eventually a lot longer than if in a conventional relationship where both partners are closer in age. It's a harrowing concept but so's life.

 

[Art Mann]

My knees hurt, SillyGirl, when I get up out of the chair.

 

[Auggie]

If she's up for it, I'd be game.

I wouldn't consider how long we'd last, just give it my best effort.

As for the ickyness factor of fucking someone who could be the same age as your son or daughter, you could say the same thing about someone your own age because it might remind you of your brother or sister. It's not worth consideration.

You should have fucked the pizza boy, SillyGirl.

 

[jumpingjackflash]

You should have fucked the pizza boy, SillyGirl.

I totally agree with Auggie. I was a pizza delivery boy between the ages of 18 and 20. Pizza Pizza to be exact and I sure would have appreciated sexy 40 years old babes allowing me to take care of their cookie while they enjoy my pizza! Shame on you SG but you can make up for it by allowing a retired pizza boy to service your cookie!:shout:

 

[Orgasmo]

One word answer.

NO.

 

[tboy]

Well, not to brag or anything, but when I was 42 I dated a girl 21......and all the points expressed pretty much summed it up.

Although the main reason it didn't work is because all she wanted to do was play fricken nintendo every friday and saturday night. Her roommate had a BF who was in his 30's and we'd all arrive at their place and we'd be all let's go out and do something but nope, just drive to blockbuster and rent yet another video game.

Now playing video games isn't such a bad thing, I play Battlefield online myself, but the problem was they only had a 14" tv, and it was on the other side of the room. Now being 42, my eyesight isn't what it used to be but we'd be playing this desert driving game and everyone would be yelling "pickup the nitro power pack pick it UPPPPPP" and I'd zoom right by it.....What nitro power pack? You mean those 4 pixels that went zooming by? Then they'd want to go head to head on split screen and everything would be even smaller! I brought a pair of opera glasses once just so I could see wtf was going on.

The worst had to be when we did go out to dinner. The matre'd said "would you and your father like a booth or...."? lol.....:shocking:

It only lasted for a month or so, but we never really got into old tv shows, or stuff like that.....just current events really. We weren't together that long to worry about any serious topics.....

I think it depends a lot on the 42 yr old and the 21 yr old. I've met some really mature 21 yr olds and really immature 42 yr olds.

 

[ShowmeThemoney]

The worst had to be when we did go out to dinner. The matre'd said "would you and your father like a booth or...."? lol.....:shocking:

You dirty old man :clapping::clapping:

 

[tboy]

lol ayup, that's exactly how I felt....(and was proud of it too hehehehe)

 

[SillyGirl]

As for the ickyness factor of fucking someone who could be the same age as your son or daughter, you could say the same thing about someone your own age because it might remind you of your brother or sister. It's not worth consideration.

You should have fucked the pizza boy, SillyGirl.

We'll have to agree to disagree on that, Auggie. I'm a mom before I'm anything else, and I couldn't get past the Ick factor.

I didn't raise my siblings, so dating someone their age doesn't feel creepy.

Shame on you SG but you can make up for it by allowing a retired pizza boy to service your cookie!

LOL. Nice try.

 

[Trump]

I love it, 20 and up. I'm 43, now mind you as others have mentioned it's strictly only about the sex.

 

[a 1 player]

I love it, 20 and up. I'm 43, now mind you as others have mentioned it's strictly only about the sex.

I have no issues with the sex part, it is the relationship part I could not do.

 

[tboy]

Funny how nobody mentions any of the disadvantages for the younger person...how he/she will be all alone eventually a lot longer than if in a conventional relationship where both partners are closer in age. It's a harrowing concept but so's life.

Sorry, I missed this post.....

I really don't see any disadvantage for the young lady.

I have heard countless times from 20 somethings how all the guys they meet in their age group are only interested in getting in/getting off/getting out and are immature dicks. (not saying all of them are....).

Most 20 something guys aren't very established therefore usually can't afford anything better than McDonald's and a movie.

Most 20 something guys aren't very experienced in the sack and don't know their way around a woman's body (that is, those that care enough about her to ensure she has a good time as well).

Most older guys have a decent house/condo/apartment that is usually fairly neat.

Most older guys, while we can't cum 10 times a night, we can last long enough to give her more than her fair share of O's.....

We know which fork to use, wine to order, etc

We hold the door for them, be it the car door, the restaurant door, the hotel room door......

If she gets into trouble late at night and calls us for help, we're not going to simply say "take the fricken bus...." (I personally have done this, even for ex-girlfriends when they got into it with their current bf.....at 3 am on a work night no less).

We can talk about something other than the latest hip hop rap star.......or what's happened on Orange County.....

Yes, we might die before them (if it lasts that long) but then again, even with a woman our own age we're going to die before them anyways so that really isn't a valid argument against....

If she has a problem that she wants to talk about, we have experience enough to actually offer good advice as opposed to something someone with no experience will offer.

 

[-b]

I will not see any woman under 35 anymore......the last civvie was 34.......
I want different things then the younger ones.......Also I do not like to feel like I am just there to
pay for everything......:rofl1: Not that I mine paying it just I start thinking what is important with this arrangement. Also I enjoy having conversations from helping the needy to what is in the news....etc....
Also it does not interest me to have somebody that young in my life......even if it was a young man....I feel that they need their time but mine you, when I was 19 I was living with a woman who was 35. I had a great time .......it broke her heart when I wanted to move on......