Ottawa When you don't finish ... thoughts from both sides please

[jazzitup]

There have been a few occasions when the agreed upon time is running down and in spite of the best efforts of the escort you don't finish even when you get a bit of extra time.
It certainly can create an awkward situation. How do you guys handle it? How do you gals deal with it? Egos can get hurt and questions of adequacy arise.
For me, I just accept that it will happen sometimes and I don't need to blame anybody. But I am sure not everyone is like that.

 

[Auggie]

It's happened to me a quite often, I'm still hard yet I know I won't cum in the next few minutes at the end of an hour session. Other times I've blown my load a bit early, it depends on so many factors. I never decide to book another hour though if I had an unlimited budget I would.

It doesn't bother me, I don't see someone because of a great need to have a release - it's the full experience. It often makes her feel she's let me down in some way but I reassure her that I'll cum when I think back to the memory of her. If she got me hard, I don't blame her for not getting me off.

 

[jazzitup]

Auggie,

Nicely said. I share your "whole experience" point of view.

 

[jazzitup]

Would any of the gals like to comment?

 

[Michelle_MA]

Would any of the gals like to comment?

It's always a bit of a balancing act as an MA as to how much time to leave for the flip. Don't want to start too soon, not only because you don't want to finish too soon but also because I really like to give a good massage and like to be as thorough as possible, but don't want to start too late just incase it's not enough time... Different men have different "staying power" so it's difficult to judge perfectly everytime. My sugestion to someone who knows if they are a particularily shorter or longer fuse should say so up front so I can budget my time the most efficiently.

Now to the actual question! I will always give an extra 5 to 10mins and also ask if there is a different technique that may be more effective or that they may need to help me. If it doesn't happen it doesn't happen. I have only ever had one guy be very, very rude about it (after an extra 15mins of my best effort at no extra charge!) but most people are really cool and understand that I can't spend all day.

On the flip side of that (no pun intended!) if someone finishes too early I will always offer to wash my hands quickly and give a nice face and scalp massage for the remainder of the time

 

[Winder]

Good problem to have Gents. Hard enough for me to last 5 minutes :frown:.

 

[DocOdd]

I've occasionally taken medications that have made it hard for me to orgasm (many anti-depressants can have this as a side effect). When I've been on one of those, I've occasionally had a session where I couldn't finish. I definitely didn't complain about the SP not taking care of me in those cases, obviously, and I would always tell them about my meds so they didn't feel like they were doing anything wrong. I suppose someone could also use this as an excuse if they can't finish for some other reason they're reluctant to admit.

 

[Al Bumin]

Good problem to have Gents. Hard enough for me to last 5 minutes :frown:.

I beat you. I am a gonner at 10 minutes.

Good thread. Sp should never feel guilty if a guy cannot come.

 

[Eddie]

It happened to me once. The sp was genuinely concerned and sad that she didn't make me come. Tried to tell her that I was tired and had a hard day at work. She said OK but when I left I knew it would bother her all night.

 

[lucky_blue]

So far it has never happened, usually I like to make it last as long as possible and I have no problem hitting it once I get the five minute warning! lol

Usually I'm sweating like the only hooker at a Shriners convention by the time I'm ready to pop.

But for some reason I seem to prefer to finish in the spoon position.

Just curious for the quick draw guys, have you tried any of the ed meds? I can go for 2hrs (lots of wet platinum) with a half tab of levitra. My back will be sore as hell for a few days but lots of fun!

 

[catherine st.claire]

It's happened to me a quite often, I'm still hard yet I know I won't cum in the next few minutes at the end of an hour session. Other times I've blown my load a bit early, it depends on so many factors. I never decide to book another hour though if I had an unlimited budget I would.

It doesn't bother me, I don't see someone because of a great need to have a release - it's the full experience. It often makes her feel she's let me down in some way but I reassure her that I'll cum when I think back to the memory of her. If she got me hard, I don't blame her for not getting me off.

I have always believed it was the experienced that my guests come to visit me for, not simply the release. If a man wanted a release he can do that himself. I have some clients that are on meds or have conditions that make it difficult at times to "finish up" but thankfully they don't worry about not reaching orgasm. Just as I don't enjoy a playdate less if my bell doesn't get rung. I can be completely satiated without a release. When I was younger I did feel guilty when I couldn't get someone past the finish line, but with age comes wisdom and I no longer worry as long as he has a smile on his face...

cat

 

[pistolpeteottawa]

When you're smiling it always good

I have always believed it was the experienced that my guests come to visit me for, not simply the release. If a man wanted a release he can do that himself. I have some clients that are on meds or have conditions that make it difficult at times to "finish up" but thankfully they don't worry about not reaching orgasm. Just as I don't enjoy a playdate less if my bell doesn't get rung. I can be completely satiated without a release. When I was younger I did feel guilty when I couldn't get someone past the finish line, but with age comes wisdom and I no longer worry as long as he has a smile on his face...

cat

 

[blackram]

When you're smiling it always good

I've had another issue, some providers get discouraged if I'm not finishing up quickly enough. They start asking if they're doing things right (that just kills the mood, having to explain). Sometimes it just takes me a little while to get to completion, and I keep telling them they're doing fine, just need to keep doing it, but they don't believe you.

 

[roamingguy]

I have always believed it was the experienced that my guests come to visit me for, not simply the release. If a man wanted a release he can do that himself. I have some clients that are on meds or have conditions that make it difficult at times to "finish up" but thankfully they don't worry about not reaching orgasm. Just as I don't enjoy a playdate less if my bell doesn't get rung. I can be completely satiated without a release. When I was younger I did feel guilty when I couldn't get someone past the finish line, but with age comes wisdom and I no longer worry as long as he has a smile on his face...

cat

That's the wonderful thing I discovered about hobbying. I thought, when I started, it was the menu of services that interested me. But I found it was the entire experience of being with a lady, conversation, company, and yes, sex too.
But I normally schedule two hour encounters with ladies, and it's not because I can "run" a two hour marathon LOL, it allows enough time to talk and get to know the lady
RG

 

[peace]

dont forget to hug when u greet and say good bye...now thats classy.

 

[jazzitup]

I have always believed it was the experience that my guests come to visit me for, not simply the release. If a man wanted a release he can do that himself. I have some clients that are on meds or have conditions that make it difficult at times to "finish up" but thankfully they don't worry about not reaching orgasm. Just as I don't enjoy a playdate less if my bell doesn't get rung. I can be completely satiated without a release. When I was younger I did feel guilty when I couldn't get someone past the finish line, but with age comes wisdom and I no longer worry as long as he has a smile on his face...

cat

Very well said Cat. I share your perspective on how an encounter can be experienced in different ways. Afterall, we are not machines that respond whenever are buttons are pushed.

 

[LoveGoodHead]

It happened to me once because i was nervous that day and the SP felt very sorry. She offered 30 minutes free for the next time I see her.

 

[blackram]

It happened to me once because i was nervous that day and the SP felt very sorry. She offered 30 minutes free for the next time I see her.

Sometimes it happens if the SP is ham-fisted too. For BJ, can she be ham-lipped? :he:

 

[jazzitup]

It happened to me once because i was nervous that day and the SP felt very sorry. She offered 30 minutes free for the next time I see her.

I bet you are a regular customer now. It is great when the SP does things like that.

 

[Berlin]

Sometimes it happens if the SP is ham-fisted too. For BJ, can she be ham-lipped? :he:

Er, ham-fisted? What exactly does that mean?

I don't take it personally when a client doesn't finish--though I am a perfectionist and a pleaser and I don't like to disappoint. But sometimes it can't be helped. No big deal.

And it's definitely not an issue if I don't orgasm. As others have said, it's about the whole experience, not just the finish. I can enjoy dinner, even if I don't have dessert.