Bullies will get caught.

[Wanker]

OTTAWA — An Ottawa city councillor says bullying played a part in his son's suicide.
Fifteen-year-old Jamie Hubley took his own life on Friday.

His father, Councillor Allan Hubley, says Jamie was suffering from depression and was receiving care from doctors and counsellors.
Hubley says these professionals, along with family and friends, were trying to help him cope with his depression and his sexuality.
He says his son was a championship figure skater for years and was just beginning to excel as a singer and enjoyed acting.
Hubley, who made the comments in a statement, also says James was bullied.

“In Grade 7 he was treated very cruelly simply because he liked figure skating over hockey,” the councillor said in his written statement.
“Recently, when Jamie tried to start a Rainbow Club at his high school to promote acceptance of others, the posters were torn down and he was called vicious names in the hallways and online.


We had meetings with officials at the school and were working with them to bring an end to it but Jamie felt it would never stop.”

https://www.thestar.com/news/canada...f-ottawa-city-councillor-commits-suicide?bn=1

 

[Slick]

We had meetings with officials at the school and were working with them to bring an end to it but Jamie felt it would never stop.”

You should have done it yourself and taken matters in your own hands. Now it's too late.

 

[AMd'MAN]

I tell my kids if you are ever bullied to talk to me first. After all these suicides I have placed them in Karate school. Let the bullies pick on my kids now.

 

[HOF]

Constant nit-picking criticism, refusal to value, undermining, distortion, false allegations? ​

Bullycide
Death at playtime
An exposé of child suicide caused by bullying
by
Neil Marr and Tim Field
Introduction by Jo Brand
Contributions from...
Dr Miriam Stoppard, Prince Naz Hamed,
William Roache, Coronation Street's Ken Barlow
First round-the-world-balloonist Brian Jones
Childrens' charities Kidscape and ChildLine
ISBN 0952912120
Paperback, 18 chapters, 320 pages, 30 b/w photos, resources, index​

Cover photo by Ian Torrance, British Press Photographer of 2000.
Reproduced by kind permission, © Daily Record and Sunday Mail Ltd, Glasgow.​

"An excellent book"
(Times Educational Supplement, May 2001)
"Required reading in every LEA in the UK"
(Yorkshire Evening Post, March 2001)​

Bullied at school? Still bear the emotional scars? Using a blend of powerful testimony, moving narrative, insightful analysis and practical advice, Bullycide: death at playtime validates the experience of being bullied at school and enables scars to heal, trauma to diminish, self-esteem to return and confidence to grow. The book reveals negative stereotypes ("weak", "sensitive" etc) to be projections of the bully's own weakness and inadequacy and that so-called "victim characteristics" are misperceptions of strengths to be valued and cherished.

Click for excerpts​

Bullycide: death at playtime gives families and children who have been driven to suicide by bullying a voice to enable the truth to be heard, sometimes for the first time. Around 5000 people commit suicide in the UK each year. Bullying causes psychiatric injury, a feature of which is reactive depression. Suicide is now the main cause of death for 18-24-year-old males in the UK.

This pioneering book is the first in-depth study of bullycide - a word the authors have coined to describe when children choose suicide rather than face another day of unrelenting bullying. Contains new interviews with bereaved families, survivors and people who have overcome the trauma of bullying at school to succeed in life - sometimes spectacularly. Includes initiatives to combat bullying, helplines, organisations, suggested reading and web sites.

• at least 16 children commit bullycide in the UK every year
• the scale of misdiagnosed bullycide could be much higher
• 19,000 children attempt suicide annually - one every half hour
• around 2 million children see their GP each year for emotional and psychological problems

Readers say:
"Interesting ... engrossing ... enlightening"
"Should be read by all teachers, trainee teachers, youth club leaders, and anyone involved with children"​

With this book you can:

• find out why the parents are often the last to find out their child is being bullied
• recognise the signs of bullying and take action before it's too late
• understand the trauma caused by bullying
• if you were bullied, achieve closure by finally laying this ghost to rest
• learn why bullies bully whilst most people become targets

Bullycide: death at playtime:

• validates the experience of being bullied at school
• helps people realise that it wasn't their fault and there is no truth in all the vile things the bully and others said
• re-empowers people to reclaim their life, to realise their true potential, and to at last start living and achieving

Chapters
1 Strawberry Fields Forever
Steven Shepherd, Britain's first recognised bullycide and stimulus for this book, and Steven's final fatal walk to the strawberry fields of Newburgh, Lancashire, in 1967.
2 Sudden death
The cases of Denise Baillie in Belfast, and Britain's youngest known bullycide, 8-year-old Marie Bentham from Manchester.
3 "We just don't know": the police view
Comments from Lancashire police and their School Community Action Teams.
4 Little flowers
The bullycides of Maria McGovern from Belfast, Salvation Army girl Kelly Yeomans from Derbyshire, and gifted musician David Tuck from Gloucestershire.
5 Racial violence: the embattled identities
Research and positive action to curb racial bullying.
6 Just a Laugh
How a group of A-level students made a video portraying the nastiness of bullying; plus the thoughts of William Roache, Coronation Street's fictional teacher Ken Barlow.
7 Life on the line
Comments from those who deal with the social issues, a case near to home, and how bullying leads to bullycide.
8 The bitches from hell
The case of Katherine Jane Morrison, and bullying in Wales.
9 Is it news?
How the press and media react to child suicides, plus various research.
10 A call away
The work and experience of Kidscape and ChildLine including surveys and research. Describes Kidscape's 1986 survey of adults who were bullied at school and the lifelong effect the bullying has had on self-confidence and self-esteem.
11 What the education authorities say
Or don't say. Pupils' involvement in the bullycide of a teacher, legal action for bullying at school, and the cases of Neil Ross and Daniel Overfield.
12 Close shaves
Attempted suicides and those who survived to tell the tale.
13 From ragging to riches
Famous people who endured bullying at school and then, once free from the tyranny of thuggery, went on to achieve success in life. Includes comments from explorer Sir Ranulph Fiennes, pop singer Sir Cliff Richard, Olympic javelin champion Tessa Sanderson, sociologist and broadcaster Laurie Taylor, former chairman of ICI and recent TV trouble-shooter Sir John Harvey-Jones, newsreader Martyn Lewis, actor and comedian Craig Charles, dancer Wayne Sleep, Radio 1 star Liz Kershaw, entrepreneur Sir Richard Branson, actor Peter Cooke, and TV Taggart's James McPherson.
14 Seconds out
Interviews with unbeaten boxer Prince Naz Hamed and his work tackling bullying, and Brian Jones who with Bertrand Piccard in 1997 beat Richard Branson and others to be the first to circumnavigate the world non-stop in a hot-air balloon.
15 Grim start to the millennium
The case of Danielle Goss, bullied via her mobile phone, why Scotland appears to be a bullycide blackspot, plus reports, research and cases from around the UK during the year 2000.
16 Voices heard
Lucy Forrester and her legacy VISYON, set up by her parents to help young people in need. Plus a survivor tells his own story.
17 The happiest days of your life
Psychiatric injury, accountability, how and why bullies target their victims, profiles of bullies and targets (these may surprise you), differences between child and adult bullying, selecting a safe school for your children.
18 End of term report
Ideas, suggestions, guidance and practical advice for tackling bullying from leading experts including Dr Miriam Stoppard, ChildLine, Kidscape, and the authors.
Contains 30 black-and-white photographs
Resources: recommended reading, organisations to contact, helplines, web sites
Index

 

[a 1 player]

I have taken it upon myself to address a couple of bullies parents personally when the school was unable to help. All worked out very quickly so they got the gist of my conversation. The kids now cross the street when they see my daughter, who is now also excelling in both Karate and Judo. They have also really helped with her esteem.

 

[Al Bumin]

They have also really helped with her esteem.

The whole purpose of taking Judo and karate. Well done, a1.

 

[Caesarsalad]

Students who bully could be expelled under new bill

Students who bully could be expelled under new bill

About time !!!!

https://www.thestar.com/news/canada...o-bully-could-be-expelled-under-new-bill?bn=1

 

[papasmerf]

move all bullies into the same school

See how long it takes to beat them down.

 

[Madman]

Bullies have existed ever since children have been around. Instead of expelling the children why not fine the parents. We are going to ruin a child's life because he/she verbally lambastes another child that perhaps is over sensitive?

My neighbors child was almost suspended because he would not play with another child, he would just leave and go play with another group of kids. The one child complained and cried to the teacher and the other little guy was almost suspended. Don't we all have people we do not like to associate with? Our lives our choice who we decide to befriend no?

Let the teachers have a little bit of discretion again and handle it at the time it happens.

A story.... (Tboy fashion HA HA) when I was in grade two I was making fun of a little girl who had her braces installed the prior day. I had a male teacher who noticed, came up to me, grabbed me by the ear and lead me into the hallway. Once we were alone, he leaned into me and whispered in my ear "if I ever catch you acting like a little shit again, you will be sitting for an hour everyday after school and trust me son, you won't be having any fun!" His tone scared the crap out of me and I was an angel for 90% of my school life after that talking.

Much of this over reaction stems from the recent suicides, gay, handicapped etc.... It's sad but I believe if teachers were given more control without fear of being sued and the parents of the bullies were taken to task, it would be a much better solution. In my opinion, much of the intolerance stems from the home.

 

[Macho Man]

move all bullies into the same school

See how long it takes to beat them down.

I would pay more taxes to see that happen.

 

[tboy]

MM is right, the teacher's hands are tied by threat of lawsuit or getting canned because bobby the bully might be offended by having to stay after school. Back in the day we had "the strap" and if you were caught mouthing off, picking on a kick, or whatever the mere thought of a 2" wide piece of leather hitting your hand with full force was enough to nip it in the bud.

Instead of putting all the bullies into one class/school, they should spend a day at kiddy boot camp and see what bullying is REALLY like. Typically kids turn into bullies because their parents are that way or from peer pressure. One will always run into bullies from the time we go out into public. They can be either co-workers, bosses, classmates, whatever. Doesn't make it right and yes, it should stop the second they set foot in school in kindergarten.

This is one reason I really respect Lady GaGa because she has made it one of her missions to put an end to bullying.

A short T story for you: I was driving up islington one day at lunch (worked in the area) and drove past a junior public school. When I glanced over I saw 4 boys surrounding a 5th boy against the fence.....I turned left at the next street and by the time I got back, they were gone. I tell you, those punks would have gotten an ear full had they still been up to their tactics......

As for higher taxes, I'd pay extra to hire more hallway/school yard monitors.

One thing that has to be taught also is that the punishment for filing a false report will garner the same punishment as the bully. If kids realize that they can get someone they don't like kicked out of class they'll be prone to take advantage of the laws.....

 

[Insertion]

I whole heartily agree with T and MadM. We've reached the point where a parent cannot put a bully in their place if their child is being picked on. Dad puts the fear of God into the bully and the boys in blue end up taking Dad away in handcuffs.

 

[a 1 player]

I looked after the bullying of my daughter quite successfully when the teachers and principal couldn't. There are ways to stop it. That being said, I agree with the above posters as well.

 

[Insertion]

I looked after the bullying of my daughter quite successfully when the teachers and principal couldn't. There are ways to stop it. That being said, I agree with the above posters as well.

What worked for you?

 

[a 1 player]

What worked for you?

I don't feel comfortable posting it here, but Insertion will be able to tell you all if it was a good idea.

 

[Boing]

About fuckn time.

 

[Unreadable]

I say bring back the "Strap" to deal with bullying, let the bullies deal with the ultimate bully, the Principal!


I remember being hauled into the pricipal's office with 2 other students, I can't remember what we did , but the principal showed us the strap, it scared the bejeebers out of us, but we didnt get it, needless to say , I behaved properly ever since.

 

[God]

I say bring back the "Strap" to deal with bullying, let the bullies deal with the ultimate bully, the Principal!


I remember being hauled into the pricipal's office with 2 other students, I can't remember what we did , but the principal showed us the strap, it scared the bejeebers out of us, but we didnt get it, needless to say , I behaved properly ever since.

I remember the strap. I mean do I remember it. First it was three on each hand, then five for a second offender. And ten for a third time. I can assure you It never reached ten.

 

[Dan]

I remember the strap. I mean do I remember it. First it was three on each hand, then five for a second offender. And ten for a third time. I can assure you It never reached ten.

God almighty received the strap too? I'm starting to believe I should believe!!

 

[tboy]

I remember the strap. I mean do I remember it. First it was three on each hand, then five for a second offender. And ten for a third time. I can assure you It never reached ten.

I never actually received it. A buddy and I were sent to the principal's for something or other and he brought it out and whacked his desk with it. That was enough....I tell you, all the stuff on his desk jumped around and I swear to god (above) that the desk moved a little.....

I think the anti-bullying laws should be based on "tit for tat".

ie: if you lay your hands on another kid? Someone lays their hands on you.
If you strike another kid? someone strikes you harder.
If you punch another kid? You get a "head or gut" a la Last Boyscout (if you wronged him he'd walk up to you and say "head or gut" and then punch you there.....
If you injure another kid? You get the same (if you push a kid off the swing and he breaks his arm, yours gets broken)