Distraught!!

[tboy]

The "pot of gold" comment is understandable. With betrayal comes hurt and anger. Hopefully cooler heads prevail as they work out the details of their separation.

My question is, how were your communications? You booted his ass out when you originally suspected his infidelity. Did you talk about your relationship? Did you ask if he was happy? Were you happy?

Of course it is. Just as escorts only see us as a wallet with a dick attached to it, so does the OP. I still find it funny how you read all about how women are deeper than men, they value true emotions over materialistic or monetary earnings, how Mr Right doesn't need to be wealthy, yet time and time again all we hear about is how they are going to take all his money and possessions aka "pot of gold".

The thing is, if the roles were reversed, and it was a he who suspected his spouse of cheating, I bet everyone would be advising him to take the higher road and don't punish her, just man up and walk away.

As LG states, we're only getting one side of the story. For all we know Barbara could be a cold hearted bitch who hasn't given him any sort of support or affection (aka sex) for the last 10 yrs. Maybe she's been harping on him day in and day out about all those things that he was supposedly able to forget about and concentrate on earning more money for her to grab after she's driven him away?

The thing is, like that video of the cop pushing the teen: we only know a very VERY small part of the story and only what the OP wants us to know to garner support.

 

[Auggie]

Prove to us you aren't a cold heartless bitch, Barbara!

 

[Ang]

Being a stay home Mom is hard work and worth ALOT more than any job out there. My wife stayed home for the first few years after our first 2 were born, she worked harder than I did at raising our 3 beautiful, well mannered, loving, kind & considerate kids. And this was all her doing! If they were in daycare I truly believe they would have ended up as different kids.

That being said, YES she deserves half of whatever the family brought in over the years, it IS rightfully hers just as much as it is his. She supported him throughout his career.

You go Barb!!

 

[RAWD]

The thing is, if the roles were reversed, and it was a he who suspected his spouse of cheating, I bet everyone would be advising him to take the higher road and don't punish her, just man up and walk away.

As LG states, we're only getting one side of the story. For all we know Barbara could be a cold hearted bitch who hasn't given him any sort of support or affection (aka sex) for the last 10 yrs. Maybe she's been harping on him day in and day out about all those things that he was supposedly able to forget about and concentrate on earning more money for her to grab after she's driven him away?

It depends. If she was the cheater and he the bread-winner, wouldn't walking away be the financial punishment? If she was an earner and she cheated, I'd say go for the kill. Fair is fair.

I agree wholeheartedly with your second point. It takes two to create the problem. It's all too easy to fall into the rut of being married and losing sight of nurturing the relationship itself.

 

[Barbara]

Gentlemen I was actually a lioness in bed during our marriage. I couldn't figure out why I have had a bigger libido than my husband but now I know why, it was his extracurricular activities. I work out 5 times a week and I'm proud to say I have the body that is the envy of most 25 year olds. I eat right and am not an unstable person as some on here are hoping.

I spent last evening out with some old girlfriends and had a marvelous time. The drinks were refreshing and the dance floor was hopping. It felt like I was back in time in my old university days, it was an exhilarating evening.

Peace I gladly accept your hug and Ang thank you!

I am using this forum to vent and I hope it will be accepted as that and nothing more. I have no ill will towards anyone here, not even you Tboy.

 

[peace]

The thing is, if the roles were reversed, and it was a he who suspected his spouse of cheating, I bet everyone would be advising him to take the higher road and don't punish her, just man up and walk away.

I wholly agree with Tboy on this issue. Unfortunately men in the past and for many years have taken advantages or abused their female partners. It feels like we are paying a deep price for their mistakes. Dont get me wrong, there are still many men out there that are very abusive and cruel to their significant partners. I am just saying that today's women can be as bad as those men. Yet, some of the good men out there are often encourgaed to walk away from a sad situation where their former partners/lovers did some serious damages. I just dont hear it too often where a man would go out of his way to bankrupt his wife because she had a secret affair behind his back. I am sure it happens but few and far between.

Anyway, I think walking away is a good approach as life is too short to deal with this kind of headache. I just think we have to be careful to assume many women out there are kind, sweet and respectful. Of course there (including men) are plenty of them. From my experience, I have seen some angry spiteful women out there that constantly seek revenge or problems when they don't get what they want. What worse, some women can't handle rejection or the word "no" from a man. (Yes men are like that too...I am just saying women can be like them too.)

Yet Barbara is aiming to get her "pot of gold." Honestly I dont like the sound of it but perhaps she meant to say she wants her fair share of the household's income as being a stay home mom/dad is a job. Like any job, it can be rewarding or not.

So I agree with Ang and many stay home mothers/fathers out there as their "jobs" deserve the same recognition as other jobs. I even tried helping out a friend of mine by raising 2 of his kids for a month. I honestly think this job was a lot harder than my regular job.

I hope Barbara and her "husband" can resolve their differences for the sake of their children.

 

[peace]

HUg HUg HUg hUG for you Barabara. I am glad you had fun with your friends.

 

[Auggie]

I work out 5 times a week and I'm proud to say I have the body that is the envy of most 25 year olds.

Pics, please - let us be the judge of that! arty:

 

[HOF]

Gentlemen I was actually a lioness in bed during our marriage. I couldn't figure out why I have had a bigger libido than my husband but now I know why, it was his extracurricular activities. I work out 5 times a week and I'm proud to say I have the body that is the envy of most 25 year olds. I eat right and am not an unstable person as some on here are hoping.

I spent last evening out with some old girlfriends and had a marvelous time. The drinks were refreshing and the dance floor was hopping. It felt like I was back in time in my old university days, it was an exhilarating evening.

Peace I gladly accept your hug and Ang thank you!

I am using this forum to vent and I hope it will be accepted as that and nothing more. I have no ill will towards anyone here, not even you Tboy.

Dear Barbara,

It's good to hear that you went out and enjoyed yourself! Gladly, I would help you work out your physical frustrations, and you'd be able to take 2 days off from working out

Nevermind Troll-boy, he gets his rocks off being an assclown.

Barbara, call me, we'll do each other for lunch 1-905-HOFCOCK
xo

 

[Chunky]

Barb, glad to see you had a night out on the town. Hopefully you picked up a boy toy and released much of the pent up frustration if not call me.

A halfcock is not competition to a chunkster. :na:

 

[RayFinkel]

Barbara, you can take a dump on my chest anytime. WHORE

 

[Chunky]

Barbara, you can take a dump on my chest anytime. WHORE

Kinky bastid!

 

[Melanie]

Awwww Barby baby if you need a friend let me know snookums. Barby let's pick one of these boys and have a threesome!!arty:

 

[mishi]

Awwww Barby baby if you need a friend let me know snookums. Barby let's pick one of these boys and have a threesome!!arty:

Pick me!

 

[tboy]

Dear Barbara,

It's good to hear that you went out and enjoyed yourself! Gladly, I would help you work out your physical frustrations, and you'd be able to take 2 days off from working out

Nevermind Troll-boy, he gets his rocks off being an assclown.

Barbara, call me, we'll do each other for lunch 1-905-HOFCOCK
xo

better to be an assclown than a buttbandit...did you have fun at the recent pride parade? Get your "fill" as it were?

 

[Auggie]

Awwww Barby baby if you need a friend let me know snookums. Barby let's pick one of these boys and have a threesome!!arty:

I'm game, but I can't compete with Ray's offer of taking a dump on his chest. Peeing is okay though.

 

[Guido]

I read Melanie's post and my speedos were containing a torpedo but after reading Finkles and Auggies post I've lost that loving feeling!!

 

[tboy]

As so many are jumping on the bandwagon I just have to point out:
a) that not all men like a "lioness" in bed
b) a body envied by most 25 yr olds
c) stable

Now, it is easy for anyone to post anything about them on a forum. I could easily say I have the looks of George Clooney, be hung like John Holmes and be as smart as Stephen Hawking.

And to c), sorry, but a stable person doesn't put sugar in someone's gas tank, spray paint the bike and put his laptop out in the rain........In fact, that the purest definition of unstable as you can get......

As for going out for drinks and dancing etc. I have found that in many marriages, they just don't do this anymore. Maybe if the OP and her husband did this more often, things would have worked out differently?

 

[jumpingjackflash]

If A) and B) are as stated and Melanie is the young lady in her avatar PLEASE COUNT ME IN!!!!!

I do look like George Clooney and I'm hung like Ron Jeremy! Really it's true!

 

[tboy]

If A) and B) are as stated and Melanie is the young lady in her avatar PLEASE COUNT ME IN!!!!!

I do look like George Clooney and I'm hung like Ron Jeremy! Really it's true!

Are you sure you don't have that reversed? Maybe you're hung like George Clooney and look like Ron Jeremy!!!