I understand what you are saying, but for myself...
Please do not step in to defend me, I prefer to fight my own battles and do not need the support of anyone for the reason that I do not like anyone speaking on my behalf. Over the years tboy and I have been in a few good battles (on the other board), and still to this day we rarely agree on most things. That is okay, it doesn't bother me. If I can't persuade another party to see my side of things I just drop it. I see no reason to split hairs and get my blood pressure up. Further, I'm alright with losing an argument, especially if I am in the wrong. (Surprisingly I have been wrong on occasion). It is for these reasons I choose not to be 'the third man in'. Hope you can understand that.
I like you Bliss, I don't care who knows it. I'm not here to impress anyone, and I'm not worried about any drama that might come my way because of it. I'm a big boy, I can take care of myself.