Frustration

[Blank_Dave]

A couple of weeks ago, I came out of my self imposed celibacy, and enjoyed the company of a fine young lady. And I quite enjoyed myself. Now the problem is I'm scratching my head wondering WTF was different this time out.

In the past I've met with Amanda, Britney, Genevieve, Winter, and Rebecca. The fore mentioned ladies are all to my 'tastes', if you will, and the time spent with them was largely pleasurable. But it wasn't unusual for me to come away feeling sort of...disappointed. Maybe it was guilt, or buyer's remorse, I don't know. I just know I felt a nagging sense of, for the lack of better terms, disappointment.

The lady I saw last was . Now I don't think she really fits in with my 'tastes.'With that said, I felt that the time spent with her was one of my best times out.Most importantly, I didn't have that nagging feeling.

But this leaves me scratching my head as to what happened.Was it that I was actually horny?(As opposed to seeing Rebecca and Amanda prior to their announced retirements) Do I think I'm looking for one thing, when something else is what will fill the bill.Or just say fuck it, and quit analyzing it.

Because I'm thinking I have the opportunity, and there's 3 ladies that fit my tastes ( , and Lola. I can't help but wonder, do I take the plunge should the opportunity present itself, or am I just aiming to shoot myself in the foot.

 

[Madman]

Just do it Dave. Do it and enjoy it, there's nothing wrong with it. I would think that you are probably feeling more comfortable in your own skin.

 

[Failed]

Go for it, life is too short.

 

[BEER]

Go for it, life is too short.

+ 1

 

[tboy]

i don't know what the question is really.......*scratches his head*

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

i don't know what the question is really.......*scratches his head*

Dave questions himself quite a bit as all.

 

[Transient]

Is this your first time out since you started working out regularly? If so, maybe the answer lies with you, rather than the lady you chose to see. Although, you are continuing to improve yourself, maybe this successful outing is due to growth in your self confidence. You have worked hard to change you body and there has to be a part of you that feels good about the effort you put in and the results you are seeing.

 

[Dan]

Is this your first time out since you started working out regularly? If so, maybe the answer lies with you, rather than the lady you chose to see. Although, you are continuing to improve yourself, maybe this successful outing is due to growth in your self confidence. You have worked hard to change you body and there has to be a part of you that feels good about the effort you put in and the results you are seeing.

I agree with Transient, I think you're feeling better about yourself.

 

[Knight Rider]

I agree with Transient, I think you're feeling better about yourself.

+ 1. I think that is the case as well.

 

[HOF]

A couple of weeks ago, I came out of my self imposed celibacy, and enjoyed the company of a fine young lady. And I quite enjoyed myself. Now the problem is I'm scratching my head wondering WTF was different this time out.

In the past I've met with Amanda, Britney, Genevieve, Winter, and Rebecca. The fore mentioned ladies are all to my 'tastes', if you will, and the time spent with them was largely pleasurable. But it wasn't unusual for me to come away feeling sort of...disappointed. Maybe it was guilt, or buyer's remorse, I don't know. I just know I felt a nagging sense of, for the lack of better terms, disappointment.

The lady I saw last was . Now I don't think she really fits in with my 'tastes.'With that said, I felt that the time spent with her was one of my best times out.Most importantly, I didn't have that nagging feeling.

But this leaves me scratching my head as to what happened.Was it that I was actually horny?(As opposed to seeing Rebecca and Amanda prior to their announced retirements) Do I think I'm looking for one thing, when something else is what will fill the bill.Or just say fuck it, and quit analyzing it.

Because I'm thinking I have the opportunity, and there's 3 ladies that fit my tastes ( , and Lola. I can't help but wonder, do I take the plunge should the opportunity present itself, or am I just aiming to shoot myself in the foot.

David,

It's been sometime since we've discussed your feelings of frustration regarding the hobby, and that was done privately. Thank you for acknowledging that our discussions were helpful at the time. So, here we are today, more than a year later and you appear to be more content and pushing forward and upward (pun-intended).

Do you wonder if seeing ladies just before retirement is anti-climatic because it will not happen again with them? I have wondered that myself.

Amanda, Genevieve, Rebecca are wonderful ladies to play with and also just to sit in a quiet bar and have a drink with, without the expectation of shananigans afterwards. Simply put, they are nice women. Winter, I have yet to meet; however, I would believe and expect the same of her. Britney (Charlize Theron/Elisha Cuthbert type) well, let's just say fond memories forever, time well spent with that lovely young woman.

Elle, Kathy, Maxime & Lola all appear to be lovely in their own respects and I am glad to hear that you enjoyed Elle and, hopefully, she enjoyed you to. There is no magical formula to this hobby other than:

1. Interest
2. Email, Call, Message
3. Chance and meet
4. Hobby interaction
(great, good, indifferent, meh, terrible)=YMMV

Sometimes, some of us, seek that companion for conversation (not me of-course:wink2

Sometimes, that physical entertainment is absolutely the be all & end all of the experience.

Neither should be judged, IMO.

For whatever reason, you were ready to have an enjoyable hobby interaction and that's not to say the others weren't enjoyable, but you were going through a rough period.

Dave,

Don't feel that anyone is keeping score and if anyone is they are not enjoying the hobby, and that comment has nothing to do with the number of reviews, hobby interactions, threads or posts one has!

Remember, the hobby was around long before the internet.

Just enjoy your moments.

 

[HOF]

To rest of you, I'm not always a PRICK! :-Cool/"

I have met Dave and he's alright; hopefully, he'll keep upbeat!

 

[Blank_Dave]

I've been meaning to get back to this.

I think one of the major differences with the last time out is I Wanted it, as opposed to just wanting it. That bordering on needing it kind of Want. When you can almost feel and taste it.

Many of the other times I wanted it because it was available.

As for getting in to see a lady before she retires being anticlimactic....I think it's more a sense of being rushed. Here's someone I'd like to see, but if I want to see them I have to see them before I'm ready.

I believe that may be the big thing for me, differentiating between when I want it and when I Want it, because I should Want it.

 

[Madman]

I believe that may be the big thing for me, differentiating between when I want it and when I Want it, because I should Want it.

I always want it but my wallet doesn't agree with my wants thanks to my ex!:sad3:

Hof, rest assured and be confident in knowing you're a prick. I'm whispering so not everyone hears that you are always a prick!

 

[tboy]

Jesus dave, just chill ffs.....ok so you're ok with wanting it when you want it but you're not ok with wanting it when you want it.....yet when you want it you get what you want but when you want it you don't get what you want.....

Do you react the same way when you want a steak? Or should I say do you act this way when you want a steak and do you feel the same way when you want a steak?

Life really isn't this convoluted........

 

[Coxwell]

I suspect your expectations were very high with the previous well reviewed ladies, you're bound to feel let down if they don't score perfect 10s.
Do less analyzing and charting your emotions, spend more time doing things.