Have you ever been caught cheating?.

[LadyGoodiva]

It's hard to forgive something like this and it takes time for things to cool down before any thoughts of forgiveness can even be considered. A lot of the time it seems things can never be the same after catching someone cheating on you.

 

[Ang]

If she cheated on me, I don't think I could ever have sex with her again...not only for the fear of catching something, but knowing that another c**k has been inside her would just make me sick....so if that isn't enough to break you up, I don't know what is:frown:

 

[RAWD]

Anything can be forgiven. That's in the eyes (and heart) of the aggrieved person.

But not everything can be excused.

 

[amber-jade]

If she cheated on me, I don't think I could ever have sex with her again...not only for the fear of catching something, but knowing that another c**k has been inside her would just make me sick....so if that isn't enough to break you up, I don't know what is:frown:

does that remain the same if you are there with her ?

 

[a 1 player]

If cheating is defined as 'an act of betrayal', then I could not continue with the relationship knowing that I would not be able to trust her again. If however one gives permission to have extramarital activities, then it is not cheating at all, and I am quite ok with that.

 

[blissful]

Man are Idiots Really

Man are Idiots Really

I really do not give a shit if some of you have issues with me posting this. I need some of the woman in open relationships to help me.

We have this neighbour who is 26 and she is nice. Anyway she starts coming to the house at first to talk to me. I tell her Brash and I have an open relationship, I have known her for about 1 year but just hi and bye.

Next thing I know she coming over every second day, she slowly works her way between me and Brash on the sofa, she not my type and she not into women. Ok Brash and her hit it off, no problems with me. Then she starts to turn her back to me and exclude me from conversation, little piss but I understand, I just start doing something else around the house or read. I like when Brash has fun. She over every second day, as Brash comes home Hmmm.... I need my space too.

They are up late one night and I here them going at is on the sofa, not ok it our home and we do things at hotels to keep thing simple. Brash says sorry, fine.

He takes her to B.C for a week does not call and when he comes back I go to clean his clothes to find her g string and other underwear. Pissed already about no phone call and now this underwear shit. I talk to him. Then I email her saying she should have thought about this and it has upset me.

I am very easy about things with Brash open to explore and willing. Now she complains I don't like her. I said he and she are friends and they have a friendship, even before this I was not friends with her. He says she will not continue seeing him if I am not her friend and she feels I do not like her. I pointed out to Brash that this has nothing to do with now I feel, They are both trying to make me be friends with her and she is not even somebody I would be friends with, we have nothing in common.

Long story short I kick the Stupid Idiot out because they are both forcing the issue?
I love him but this has nothing to do with me. Will somebody help me understand why it is important for me to be friends with her when in reality she does not want me around.

 

[SillyGirl]

Brash wants you friendly with her so he can delude himself into thinking his behavior is not rude and completely unacceptable, at best. She wants to pretend to be your friend so he's happy, which makes him much more easily manipulated.

Really, neither of them are acting like a friend to you.

 

[Danolo]

You don't get to choose your relatives, but you DO get to choose your friends.

It sounds to me that she inserted herself into your open relationship thoughtlessly and with little regard for how you might feel. How can she expect you to like or respect her? And if Brash violated the terms of your relatinship then that also shows a lack of respect.

I think good relationships a founded on mutual respect.. and if they are not they won;t usually last.

I'm not sure kicking his ass out was the right move... only you know if that was appropriate or not.

I wish you well...

 

[Auggie]

You guys had basic rules that should have been followed.

That's very disrespectful how she treated your open marriage, your man should have set her straight at the beginning.

They shouldn't be making you feel bad about this either, it compounds the problem.

 

[blissful]

I am not an angel and I do have my issues but sharing for me is no problem. I am so upset, I am in pain because of the stress. He does not see why I won't be friends. I said I would be nice to her if she over or go out with somebody when she coming over, I don't mind.
He says what if we go out for drinks all together. I said Why so you both will ignore me. I keep telling him he can see her whenever and take her out even spend a weekend. But No they want me to be friends with her. OMG I told him I am divorcing him. I also told him I am going to ask his mother what she thinks of the issue, she is like a mom to me. He is at a hotel. I feel like vomiting.

It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas:no:

 

[tboy]

Ohhhhh BOO hoo FUCKING hooooo......

Ever heard the term: if you play with fire you might get burned?

Suck it up, you invite other people into your lives then get pissed when they come in.


You're on here every day about how you've fucked this woman, how you've fucked that woman, how you have an open relationship, Brash is your soul mate, everything is perfect in your warped little world

Then you come in here with THIS shit?

Cry me a river
Build a bridge
and
GET OVER IT

Guess you now have to change your handle to

notsoBlissful?

 

[Auggie]

I prescribe 2 hours with your favourite Cupid girl.

 

[blissful]

I prescribe 2 hours with your favourite Cupid girl.

I tried that with Brash this weekend, at the time he was sorry, did not go well between the pain and him hurting me.:no:

He is going to feel really stupid when it settles in on him.
I know people make mistakes we all do but you can't force somebody to do something they do not want.

 

[Auggie]

You should have spoken up about your open marriage ground rules when they started fooling around in your home.

It's their move now though.

 

[Dan]

Ohhhhh BOO hoo FUCKING hooooo......

Ever heard the term: if you play with fire you might get burned?

Suck it up, you invite other people into your lives then get pissed when they come in.


You're on here every day about how you've fucked this woman, how you've fucked that woman, how you have an open relationship, Brash is your soul mate, everything is perfect in your warped little world

Then you come in here with THIS shit?

Cry me a river
Build a bridge
and
GET OVER IT

Guess you now have to change your handle to

notsoBlissful?

Although Tboy is a bit too harsh, this was a train wreck waiting to happen. Hopefully you will pull through it ok Bliss.

 

[blissful]

You should have spoken up about your open marriage ground rules when they started fooling around in your home.

It's their move now though.

We did have rules.But people grow, we grew but I thought the rules where the same. Auggie I have no problems with him being her friend, so on but I have no common interest with her. I do not see why we need to be friends. She told him that if I was not her friend then the relationship with Brash would be over.

I tried really, I am easy ( when my multi personalities don't come out, for tboy, still love you) I think he needs time to think things out maybe a few years. I said I love him and I have know problem letting him go so he can do his thing. I get the feeling he wants everything his way. He is not happy with some friends I have.

Then he tells me an escort told him I bought her an Ipod which I did and she told him I was giving her money if she needs help. I would do it for anybody really. I know he sees this but does not want too. I am not a guy but I am a woman. Why do I need to be friends, for what purpose other than what sillygirl says.

I am not even upset with her as much as him. I was suppose to be first and he already said sorry so if I am to be first why can he not except the answer I gave him. Sometimes it take losing some one that is close to realize what you will be missing. I have choices and if he does not like my choice then move on.

 

[HOF]

Ohhhhh BOO hoo FUCKING hooooo......

Ever heard the term: if you play with fire you might get burned?

Suck it up, you invite other people into your lives then get pissed when they come in.


You're on here every day about how you've fucked this woman, how you've fucked that woman, how you have an open relationship, Brash is your soul mate, everything is perfect in your warped little world

Then you come in here with THIS shit?

Cry me a river
Build a bridge
and
GET OVER IT

Guess you now have to change your handle to

notsoBlissful?

You insensitive prick! Just sayin':na:

 

[Ossosuna]

Wrong to cheat?? Says who?

Wrong to cheat?? Says who?

Who said its wrong to cheat? Bible? Mom? Society??

The most well off people in this world are the ones who cheated, stole or raped the public one way or another.


So since that is out of the way. I am dating a chic for over a year and I have cheated on her multiple times with a coworker fuck buddy of mine. Its not a regular thing, but once a month or so it does happen. Sometimes it doesnt happen for months.
But I never, not once felt bad about it. Its purely sexual thing for me and when I feel I want to get it done to shift some chemicals in my brain a little I do it. Sex is great with either one of them. But lately I do feel more at home with my girlfriend. I keep telling myself that it might be moraly wrong, even since the fuck buddy has a boyfriend she cares about.

I dont know what excites me more, the sex or actually getting away with it.

Whats ever more exciting is that I have NO remorse about it at all.

 

[blissful]

You insensitive prick! Just sayin':na:

He is right, I am crying and I will cross the bridge when the time comes. I will still be doing women more then he can say in that little house up North. I guess when you get cabin fever a deer looks pretty good for sex.

Sorry you hurt so much tboy, she/he must have been very special to you. I do not want to end up bitter but happy with the time we had or whatever.

 

[Jesus Quintana]

Personally I always say "I'll burn that bridge when I get to it" but different strokes right? LOL!