Have you ever been caught cheating?.

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Ohhhhh BOO hoo FUCKING hooooo......

Ever heard the term: if you play with fire you might get burned?

Suck it up, you invite other people into your lives then get pissed when they come in.


You're on here every day about how you've fucked this woman, how you've fucked that woman, how you have an open relationship, Brash is your soul mate, everything is perfect in your warped little world

Then you come in here with THIS shit?

A wise friend of mine once told me that once a couple decides to go the ''open marriage'' route it is usually the beginning of the end.

A monogamous marriage is hard enough too pull off on it's own without the added pressure that bringing in other partners adds.

Inevitably someone is going to break the pre agreed parameters that were set or emotional boundaries will be crossed.

Then all the fun and games are out the window aren't they? Are all men idiots? No.
Are all women bitches? No. But we can certainly get underneath each others skin from time to time.

Your arrangement is paving the way for calamity and needs to change one way or another.

 

[tboy]

He is right, I am crying and I will cross the bridge when the time comes. I will still be doing women more then he can say in that little house up North. I guess when you get cabin fever a deer looks pretty good for sex.

Sorry you hurt so much tboy, she/he must have been very special to you. I do not want to end up bitter but happy with the time we had or whatever.

You know, your barbs would matter if you actually had a clue, but since you don't, they just make me laugh at you. Notice the difference between laugh AT and WITH?

As for being an insensitive prick.....you know, if she wasn't such a train wreck, and was in a "normal" relationship, I mind give her a measure of sympathy.

But she is on here constantly bragging about all the women she gets (and yet again in the quote above) and when he partner does the same, she's all up on here looking for sympathy. Sorry, I don't buy it at all and I am known for calling a spade a spade and in this case, a train wreck a train wreck.

She reminds me of those idiots who go diving with sharks and then get all upset when one of them bites them......

Sorry, I'll reserve my sympathy for those who deserve it....TYVM.

 

[blissful]

You know, your barbs would matter if you actually had a clue, but since you don't, they just make me laugh at you. Notice the difference between laugh AT and WITH?

As for being an insensitive prick.....you know, if she wasn't such a train wreck, and was in a "normal" relationship, I mind give her a measure of sympathy.

But she is on here constantly bragging about all the women she gets (and yet again in the quote above) and when he partner does the same, she's all up on here looking for sympathy. Sorry, I don't buy it at all and I am known for calling a spade a spade and in this case, a train wreck a train wreck.

She reminds me of those idiots who go diving with sharks and then get all upset when one of them bites them......

Sorry, I'll reserve my sympathy for those who deserve it....TYVM.

tboy reality you do not need to read my post ignore. A woman told me to grow Balls because there are jerks male/female who think nothing better then putting people down. I am sorry your life revolves around insulting me and others. You come across as a person with issues and one who thinks he knows everything, honey. At least I am open about my feelings.
I have come to realize how to deal with people like you, it is simple agree with them because it does not matter what I say also feel sorry for them because the are so blind.

Life is short tboy and you are missing the fun in life, as I say I feel sorry for you. In pain we find beauty even in relationships, you can not control people, what they say or do etc and you can not control them by insulting them.

Have a Wonderful Christmas or Holiday Dear.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

I am sorry your life revolves around insulting me and others. You come across as a person with issues and one who thinks he knows everything, honey. At least I am open about my feelings.

He didn't insult you at all. this is a chat forum and he expressed that he does not have any sympathy for you.

Life is short tboy and you are missing the fun in life, as I say I feel sorry for you..

You don't seem like you are having very much fun yourself

you can not control people, what they say or do etc and you can not control them by insulting them.

I think your reading too many self help books.

 

[tboy]

Don't bother Maurice, I seriously think she has more issues than time magazine but she is entertaining isn't she? Reading her posts is almost as good as watching Jerry Springer.......

I honestly think she is dillusional. She spouts off about ME insulting HER yet she comes on here saying I'm having sex with the deer that roam my property. No, that's not an insult lol....

Bliss: you seem to equate happiness with the number of people you fuck. Well, let me break it to you, all that means is that you're empty inside and have to fill it with something. I'd rather have a meaningful relationship with 5 people over a lifetime than simply fucking 100,000 different ones.

So, keep trying to fill that void in your soul with meaningless sex.........

 

[blissful]

He didn't insult you at all. this is a chat forum and he expressed that he does not have any sympathy for you.


You don't seem like you are having very much fun yourself I think your reading too many self help books.

So you are telling me how I should feel. What is an insult to me. At least am read to improve my life and try to understand other peoples feelings and situations. I am sorry I should just listen to tboy and you.

Right now no I am not having fun ok, does that make you happy, are you enjoying my sorrow. It is like I hear from others on the board they are people who will put you down don't listen to them and be strong, coming back out of the wood work are you. This time I will not leave, deal with it.

I have a wonderful life, really withing relationship there are bumps. You survive or don't. My pain is for me to suffer and yes I am very depress so kick me all you want because in reality you are show your true nature. I have nothing more to say to you or are you going to tell me how to feel still.

All in all I help people I try to be very positive because if I don't and I am stress I am in pain more than normal and the most import I understand forgiveness and realize that we are not perfect. So if you are I am happy you have reach your ides of perfection. Also you can ignore my post too and I will not response to you either, works both ways right.

Have a Wonderful Holiday with Your Family and have an honest Christmas.

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Bliss: you seem to equate happiness with the number of people you fuck. Well, let me break it to you, all that means is that you're empty inside and have to fill it with something. I'd rather have a meaningful relationship with 5 people over a lifetime than simply fucking 100,000 different ones.

So, keep trying to fill that void in your soul with meaningless sex.........

Sometimes people figure this one out fast in life and other times well it takes a while.

She does seem to put a high priority on her sex life, most times to the point of obsession on here.

Frankly I've always wondered why.

 

[tboy]

Well, I'm no shrink but when anyone puts too much emphasis on any one aspect it is usually a cover up for deeper issues.

I don't know if obsession is the correct term, maybe addiction is more appropriate.

I mean, supposedly Brash is her soul mate but if she's out fucking 3 or 4 different women a week, and now she's all in a tizzy because HE'S fucking ONE other woman, there's something wrong with the picture (and it was drawn with a purple crayon to begin with)

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Well, I'm no shrink but when anyone puts too much emphasis on any one aspect it is usually a cover up for deeper issues.

I would tend too agree with you

I don't know if obsession is the correct term, maybe addiction is more appropriate.

There's a fine line between the two isn't there

I mean, supposedly Brash is her soul mate but if she's out fucking 3 or 4 different women a week, and now she's all in a tizzy because HE'S fucking ONE other woman, there's something wrong with the picture (and it was drawn with a purple crayon to begin with)

Is it possible that she is fibbing about her sexual exploits....I would expect that from a guy but not so much from a female though.

 

[dreamblade]

Sigh!

As always, tboy is trying to talk about something he has absolutely no concept of. Maurice, you're not helping much. Open relationship, be they more swinger type or more polyamorous type, are not the beginning of the end. But clear communication skills are a must if such a relationship is to survive. This is the root of the issue Bliss is dealing with.

Blissful, what you're experiencing is a breach of trust from your partner, and you don't seem to be communicating effectively. Your neighbour took your admission that you and Brash are open as license to insinuate herself into your relationship, without knowing the established boundaries. Brash and her get along, great, but you're his primary, and from your original post, it seems like she's worked it so that you're excluded. You and Brash are a package deal, she seems to understand that at some level, but she's also not willing to respect your boundaries. Neither is he.

Ok, so Brash is in the throes of NRE, and yes, you can appreciate it, or celebrate it, whatever. However, he also needs to be aware that his exuberance over the new partner and to maybe tone it down when in front of you. Him not calling you after he's back from a trip with her is a big no-no. Both of them forcing your friendship with her is crossing a boundary that is making you unhappy. I'm seeing a form of emotional blackmail here.

Talk to Brash. Explain to him that this relationship he is cultivating with this woman is straining your relationship. Try to work out a way to resolve this conflict. Then invite the woman over, and the 3 of you talk it out. Maybe she's looking for something he will not be able to provide to her.

But before that, look into yourself. See what it is that is keeping you from liking this woman. Is it an obstacle on your part? Maybe you're not communicating your feelings about this situation properly? If she is so dead set on being your friend, there must be something more than just dating your husband. Are you really giving her a chance?

Please understand I'm not trying to place the blame on you. I'm just trying to cover all the angles, here.

Best of luck, and let me know the turnout.

 

[dreamblade]

So what exactly is you point here? You're bragging about being a douche to your girlfriend. Go you!

There's no need to go to the Bible, Society, or Mom, to realise that if your gf finds out about your affair, she will be hurt and feel betrayed. Most humans understand that you try to avoid hurting those you care about.

Why don't you? :no:

 

[blissful]

Sigh!

As always, tboy is trying to talk about something he has absolutely no concept of. Maurice, you're not helping much. Open relationship, be they more swinger type or more polyamorous type, are not the beginning of the end. But clear communication skills are a must if such a relationship is to survive. This is the root of the issue Bliss is dealing with.

Blissful, what you're experiencing is a breach of trust from your partner, and you don't seem to be communicating effectively. Your neighbour took your admission that you and Brash are open as license to insinuate herself into your relationship, without knowing the established boundaries. Brash and her get along, great, but you're his primary, and from your original post, it seems like she's worked it so that you're excluded. You and Brash are a package deal, she seems to understand that at some level, but she's also not willing to respect your boundaries. Neither is he.

Ok, so Brash is in the throes of NRE, and yes, you can appreciate it, or celebrate it, whatever. However, he also needs to be aware that his exuberance over the new partner and to maybe tone it down when in front of you. Him not calling you after he's back from a trip with her is a big no-no. Both of them forcing your friendship with her is crossing a boundary that is making you unhappy. I'm seeing a form of emotional blackmail here.

Talk to Brash. Explain to him that this relationship he is cultivating with this woman is straining your relationship. Try to work out a way to resolve this conflict. Then invite the woman over, and the 3 of you talk it out. Maybe she's looking for something he will not be able to provide to her.

But before that, look into yourself. See what it is that is keeping you from liking this woman. Is it an obstacle on your part? Maybe you're not communicating your feelings about this situation properly? If she is so dead set on being your friend, there must be something more than just dating your husband. Are you really giving her a chance?

Please understand I'm not trying to place the blame on you. I'm just trying to cover all the angles, here.

Best of luck, and let me know the turnout.

Thank you very much. I will take a look inside myself why I am having issues with her. I thought I was the primary but that is not how I am being treated. I am the submissive on and they are both controlling. I do not mind Brad but this women

Thanks a lot

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

So what exactly is you point here? You're bragging about being a douche to your girlfriend. Go you!

There's no need to go to the Bible, Society, or Mom, to realise that if your gf finds out about your affair, she will be hurt and feel betrayed. Most humans understand that you try to avoid hurting those you care about.

Why don't you? :no:

I have too agree. Once the trust is broken that's all she wrote I'm afraid.

look at it this way, if the shoe were on the other foot how would you feel.

 

[dreamblade]

Thank you very much. I will take a look inside myself why I am having issues with her. I thought I was the primary but that is not how I am being treated. I am the submissive on and they are both controlling. I do not mind Brad but this women

Thanks a lot

This is what I always tell people new to Dom/sub dynamics: submissive does not equal doormat. If something in the relationship is bothering you, speak up. It's what a poly relationship is all about.

 

[Cycleguy007]

You should speak to Fuji... :shock:

He has some interesting views on this subject!

 

[SillyGirl]

I have too agree. Once the trust is broken that's all she wrote I'm afraid.

+1. You can't ever really fix that.

I hope your gf is out there screwing around too. Maybe then you would understand that lying and betrayal are hurtful. Why do you even pretend to be monogamous? :neutral:

 

[Cycleguy007]

:no:

I really can't find the words to comment on this turn of events...

Can't say I'm overly surprised though... :shock:

:go:

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

:no:

I really can't find the words to comment on this turn of events...

Can't say I'm overly surprised though... :shock:

:go:

Oh come on your not trying hard enough,lol.

All us ''man'' are not idiots are we?

 

[Cycleguy007]

Oh come on your not trying hard enough,lol.

All us ''man'' are not idiots are we?

Depends who you talk to...

Generally speaking, the "all men are idiots" sentiment is shared by women that have been burned multiple times by men with less than honourable intentions, or have insecurity/ emotional demons of their own to deal with and get frustrated when guys don't cater to their every whim and fancy. :shock:

 

[Maurice Boscorelli]

Depends who you talk to...

Generally speaking, the "all men are idiots" sentiment is shared by women that have been burned multiple times by men with less than honourable intentions, or have insecurity/ emotional demons of their own to deal with and get frustrated when guys don't cater to their every whim and fancy. :shock:

The ossosuna's of the world are not helping our plight any though are they?