Excellent advice.
The hobby distorts (perverts) perspective.
If you want it to work, it will. A big part of being in a relationship with a sexworker is simply ignoring that part of her life. And YES, that includes rationalizing "what she does vs who she is", etc. You'll probably end up focusing on who and what she is with you, and pretending the other stuff doesn't exist (or is somehow removed from you).
But...I've learned that in the end, there really can't be any equivocation or justification. If what you (and she) want is a "normal" relationship, these psychological defense mechanisms won't work. We can talk about being "open minded" or having "open relationships" in the biz.....but if deep down inside you want fidelity and loyalty, lying to yourself will drive your freakin' bonkers.
A number of things in the OPs post made me nervous. Not the least that she is still working and she needs to crawl out from under a pile of debt. That's a big risk that she's simply using the OP as a SD, or a "work boyfriend" (fringe benefits for fringe support). The other thing is, what happens when she leaves the biz? More than a few girls I've known simply want to walk away and leave this part of their life in the past. She may not mean to hurt you, or have any intention of bailing. But, there's going to be a period of BIG change in her life. Shit happens, so be aware.
We can give you many good reasons NOT to fall for this girl. But, if you're a romantic, or if you're simply self-confidant (and thing that you're smarter and you're not the kind who gets hurt), you won't listen. This is just something you need to experience for yourself. You may not have looked for love, but you found it here. Congratulations, but let's face it, the odds are against you. Just go in with your eyes wide open, pay attention and don't get blind-sided.
Not having anyone to talk to sucks. So, talk it out here. Articulating your thoughts can be helpful in itself.
